Re: My daughter's OCD...to tell or not to tell?

[Guest guest]

If she's been doing well since late kinder, I wouldn't say anything. If

her OCD flares and she can't attend, I would just tell them at that

time. I fear they may not understand and would give the scholarship to

someone else. Just my opinion!

Dina

[Guest guest]

This spring was out of school do to anxiety issues but she wanted

to try and catch up on her dance class at the YMCA.

I told them that she had been out of school but was feeling better and wanted to

take private lessons to catch up (I was expecting to pay). I told them that

school was triggering lots of anxiety but the

Y has always been a very positive part of her life and had really made a

difference.

The Y director and dance teacher was so nice she wanted to help her for free. I

was concerned that her attendance is not good and my gosh this people are

extending themselves so much.

Well she made most of the classes. Some she didn't want to go to.

But I had to urge her just like school it was a struggle for

me to get her there.

Getting her to go to the dance lesson was hard. But once I asked for the lessons

I treated going to them as a ERP and worked on making sure she got to them even

if she only agreed to stay for half the time.

I never spelled out she had OCD or Asperger or anything.

But I did talk enough about her challenges that I am sure the

sensitive Y director and teacher knew what I meant.

My daughter is so very upset at any disclosure so I have been

using more subtle language and not predicting any issues.

I do ask for accomodations upfront though. I think this has to be

said upfront.

Pam

..com, " popo9807 " wrote:

>

> Hello everyone. I have a couple of questions that I need to ask of you all who

are more experienced than me about whether or not I should share my daughter's

OCD with certain people in her life.

>

> For starters this past summer I posted that my little girl was doing great. So

great in fact that she performed in two plays at our local children's theater.

As you all know there are times when something like this would seem beyond

impossible, so it was a really wonderful thing for her. She enjoyed it so much

that we are trying to enroll her in the weekly classes that go during the school

year. Normally I wouldn't feel the need to tell the theater staff about her OCD

but because of scholorship money we are applying for I'm unsure.

>

> The theater gives out full and partial scholorships based on need. My husband

is a deputy sheriff and makes decent money but because I stay home with the

kids (3 of them) and don't work..well you do the math. Theater classes that are

almost $100.00 a month aren't in our budget. So for the shorter summer classes I

applied and received partial scholorship help. Without this our daughter would

never have been able to attend.

>

> You see everytime you apply for scholorship help you have to write a letter

saying how this money would help you and stuff like that and I'm in the process

of writing the letter now. The thing is that the theater is very big on

attendance at their classes and I totally understand that. They are especially

big on it when scholorship funds are involved and they make no qualms about

telling you so in the paperwork. I'm just afraid that we would be awarded the

help and then my little girl might go through a bad time and not be able to

attend for awhile. I'm just feeling conflicted about whether the scholorship

committee should know about this in advance of making their decision.

>

> Our child is going to be 8 soon and has just started 2nd grade today. She has

done well enough that she hasn't had any really bad times or needed therapy

since late winter of kindergarten, so things have gone well. Of course with OCD

the only thing you know for certain is that nothing is certain with. So as well

as things have gone and though I try to remain optimistic I'm sure we haven't

seen the last of the hard times.

>

> So if I'm asking for financial help from this theater for my child to attend

would it be the right thing to do to let them know up front in my letter? If so

how much do I tell?

>

> I really look forward to hearing everyone's opinions and I really appreciate

your help as always.

>

[Guest guest]

I think I would let them know that she has alot of anxiety which at times can

escalate and leave it at that.

Subject: My daughter's OCD...to tell or not to tell?

To:

Date: Wednesday, August 19, 2009, 11:23 PM

 

Hello everyone. I have a couple of questions that I need to ask of you all who

are more experienced than me about whether or not I should share my daughter's

OCD with certain people in her life.

For starters this past summer I posted that my little girl was doing great. So

great in fact that she performed in two plays at our local children's theater.

As you all know there are times when something like this would seem beyond

impossible, so it was a really wonderful thing for her. She enjoyed it so much

that we are trying to enroll her in the weekly classes that go during the school

year. Normally I wouldn't feel the need to tell the theater staff about her OCD

but because of scholorship money we are applying for I'm unsure.

The theater gives out full and partial scholorships based on need. My husband is

a deputy sheriff and makes decent money but because I stay home with the kids (3

of them) and don't work..well you do the math. Theater classes that are almost

$100.00 a month aren't in our budget. So for the shorter summer classes I

applied and received partial scholorship help. Without this our daughter would

never have been able to attend.

You see everytime you apply for scholorship help you have to write a letter

saying how this money would help you and stuff like that and I'm in the process

of writing the letter now. The thing is that the theater is very big on

attendance at their classes and I totally understand that. They are especially

big on it when scholorship funds are involved and they make no qualms about

telling you so in the paperwork. I'm just afraid that we would be awarded the

help and then my little girl might go through a bad time and not be able to

attend for awhile. I'm just feeling conflicted about whether the scholorship

committee should know about this in advance of making their decision.

Our child is going to be 8 soon and has just started 2nd grade today. She has

done well enough that she hasn't had any really bad times or needed therapy

since late winter of kindergarten, so things have gone well. Of course with OCD

the only thing you know for certain is that nothing is certain with. So as well

as things have gone and though I try to remain optimistic I'm sure we haven't

seen the last of the hard times.

So if I'm asking for financial help from this theater for my child to attend

would it be the right thing to do to let them know up front in my letter? If so

how much do I tell?

I really look forward to hearing everyone's opinions and I really appreciate

your help as always.

[Guest guest]

Hi there,

Since your daughter is doing so well, I would treat it as a non-issue, as it

seems it is in the present, and at the time of application for this scholarship.

If, once she is in the program, issues arise and attendance compromised, I would

then approach them and explain, however seems appropriate.

In my view, it is only an issue and something to disclose, if you know your

ability to follow through or participate will be compromised for sure. From my

own experiences, good and bad, from disclosing mood disorder, you can usually

tell if it will be received well and be a useful thing, or the opposite.

I used to limit my life by not signing up for things, anticipating I might not

be able to follow through, and that in itself led to depression. Now, I try to

be realistic, and am mindful of cost, but just go for it, and let what be will

be. Limitation hurts more than " failure " I find.

Besides theatre people are renowned for their mood and anxiety disorders! I

would think this is a fabulous place where there might be more acceptance on

this, should the anxiety kick in at some point.

Let us know what you decide!

Barb

>

> Hello everyone. I have a couple of questions that I need to ask of you all who

are more experienced than me about whether or not I should share my daughter's

OCD with certain people in her life.

>

> For starters this past summer I posted that my little girl was doing great. So

great in fact that she performed in two plays at our local children's theater.

As you all know there are times when something like this would seem beyond

impossible, so it was a really wonderful thing for her. She enjoyed it so much

that we are trying to enroll her in the weekly classes that go during the school

year. Normally I wouldn't feel the need to tell the theater staff about her OCD

but because of scholorship money we are applying for I'm unsure.

>

> The theater gives out full and partial scholorships based on need. My husband

is a deputy sheriff and makes decent money but because I stay home with the

kids (3 of them) and don't work..well you do the math. Theater classes that are

almost $100.00 a month aren't in our budget. So for the shorter summer classes I

applied and received partial scholorship help. Without this our daughter would

never have been able to attend.

>

> You see everytime you apply for scholorship help you have to write a letter

saying how this money would help you and stuff like that and I'm in the process

of writing the letter now. The thing is that the theater is very big on

attendance at their classes and I totally understand that. They are especially

big on it when scholorship funds are involved and they make no qualms about

telling you so in the paperwork. I'm just afraid that we would be awarded the

help and then my little girl might go through a bad time and not be able to

attend for awhile. I'm just feeling conflicted about whether the scholorship

committee should know about this in advance of making their decision.

>

> Our child is going to be 8 soon and has just started 2nd grade today. She has

done well enough that she hasn't had any really bad times or needed therapy

since late winter of kindergarten, so things have gone well. Of course with OCD

the only thing you know for certain is that nothing is certain with. So as well

as things have gone and though I try to remain optimistic I'm sure we haven't

seen the last of the hard times.

>

> So if I'm asking for financial help from this theater for my child to attend

would it be the right thing to do to let them know up front in my letter? If so

how much do I tell?

>

> I really look forward to hearing everyone's opinions and I really appreciate

your help as always.

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks everyone for your advice. I think as of right now I'm just not going to

mention it. I tend to give too much information anyway so I think it's best to

just not go there. Plus it's been so long since she's had a major episode anyway

that I just really have no idea how it will manifest itself this time.

I will let everyone know if we get scholorship help so she can attend. Say a

little prayer for us, she so needs and wants this. She's a wonderful girl to and

gives up so much for others, especially her siblings. It would break my heart if

she didn't get to do this.