Dreamer - trying to be amused

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I know your situation is not good. I feel so bad and wish that I was there to

help you out. Isn't there anyone who can get to the store for you?? I know you

can't count on your family and you're mom can't take care of herself but do you

have any neighbors, friends, church members, friends of your kids, parents of

friends of your kids that you could ask to do the shopping??

much love,

barb k.

dreamer_plus <dreamer_plus@...> wrote:

I am still trying to get amused, but it is so hard.....(see my recent previous

posts)

too often in my world, " people not getting it " tend to help create outright

dangerous situations.......

and I feel so let down by the people who appear to the rest of the world to be

caring people due to their volunteer wokr or their professions, but who in fact

to me seem to only do things that show up in the public eye and make them seem

like big shot heros.

Sadly, now that my son is on themend and hubby seems to be getting a tad

stronger and oldest child (bipolar) is resigned to her birthday slipping thru

all the other crisises- I am flaring, my left ankle and right hip----terribly.

My rheumy retired and our docs office has not yet found a replacement....we need

food and groceries in...for all the good it does to need.

I am having major difficulty being amused, I am stuck right now in resentful,

anger, bitter, disappointed.....

- In , " rmcg " wrote:

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> Ok, my two and a half cents here.

> I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with

others.

> However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical

problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have

problems.

> i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making

plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to

say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go.

(even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of

trip BIL would have wanted)

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> That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to

wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of

understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those

that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family?

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> End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list.

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> Thanks for putting up with me.

>

> Rose

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> Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with

> RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why

> worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere

> interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused

> by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about

> RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of

> you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm

> fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about

> it and are especially loving when I'm in pain.

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> Many good wishes to each one of you brave people.

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