Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 Prakasha, I LOVE your attitude.I have a son that is bipolar and I have had to deal with people with that same type of 'attitude' concerning his illness.Suppose I had better prepare myself for the same thing concerning my RA.sigh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 Prakasha, I LOVE your attitude.I have a son that is bipolar and I have had to deal with people with that same type of 'attitude' concerning his illness.Suppose I had better prepare myself for the same thing concerning my RA.sigh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 Ok, my two and a half cents here. I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with others. However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have problems. i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go. (even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of trip BIL would have wanted) That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family? End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list. Thanks for putting up with me. <G> Rose ----- Original Message ----- From: brightt@... >>>>> Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about it and are especially loving when I'm in pain. Many good wishes to each one of you brave people. Prakasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 Ok, my two and a half cents here. I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with others. However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have problems. i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go. (even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of trip BIL would have wanted) That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family? End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list. Thanks for putting up with me. <G> Rose ----- Original Message ----- From: brightt@... >>>>> Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about it and are especially loving when I'm in pain. Many good wishes to each one of you brave people. Prakasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 I hear you on that one. Saying I can't isn't allowed. I just tell the family that I " m sick with a cold, sinus infection, flu, whatever! I don't care, they don't get I hurt. When hubby had his disc surgery, his brother was getting married for the 3rd time 3 hours from us. Brother was so upset when I told him we couldn't be there, " couldn't you just come up for 1 day? " I'm like, " no he just had surgery and I had to bring him home lying flat on his back in the back seat of the car!, he can't make a 3 hour ride. " What the heck! so hubby told his brother, " We'll make the next one. " lol much love, barb rmcg <rmcg@...> wrote: Ok, my two and a half cents here. I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with others. However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have problems. i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go. (even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of trip BIL would have wanted) That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family? End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list. Thanks for putting up with me. Rose ----- Original Message ----- From: brightt@... >>>>> Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about it and are especially loving when I'm in pain. Many good wishes to each one of you brave people. Prakasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 I hear you on that one. Saying I can't isn't allowed. I just tell the family that I " m sick with a cold, sinus infection, flu, whatever! I don't care, they don't get I hurt. When hubby had his disc surgery, his brother was getting married for the 3rd time 3 hours from us. Brother was so upset when I told him we couldn't be there, " couldn't you just come up for 1 day? " I'm like, " no he just had surgery and I had to bring him home lying flat on his back in the back seat of the car!, he can't make a 3 hour ride. " What the heck! so hubby told his brother, " We'll make the next one. " lol much love, barb rmcg <rmcg@...> wrote: Ok, my two and a half cents here. I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with others. However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have problems. i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go. (even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of trip BIL would have wanted) That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family? End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list. Thanks for putting up with me. Rose ----- Original Message ----- From: brightt@... >>>>> Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about it and are especially loving when I'm in pain. Many good wishes to each one of you brave people. Prakasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 The most callous and flippant person in my life is my sister.... I'd like to know how to deal with it when it comes to family, because my way of dealing with it has been pretty much cutting her out of my life for now, I don't call, don't email, so she'll call once every couple of weeks or stop by once a month to see the kids, maybe I seem coldhearted... but I'm tired of her referring to me as " just bored " " needing exercise " once when all I had to offer her were caffiene-free drinks, she put her fingers in the air and made the quotes to say " damn you and your so-called health problems " she thought it was funny. If my daughter goes to her house, she comes back, saying things like, why don't you have a job and there's no reason we can't go out shopping today. Not to mention how many times she's said, stop complaining, everybody has arthritis. Funny thing is I don't complain, not out loud anyway, she'll say that when she sees me wince getting up from a chair or limp. So, I'm not amused by her.... I can be amused by everyone else's ignorance, but her's is hurtful and hateful. I'm only 28 years old and she is the only close family I have but it hurts me too much to even look at her sometimes. What do you do then? Sorry for the whining, but I was due, lol. Hope everyone else is having a warm good day. kerri sue rmcg <rmcg@...> wrote: Ok, my two and a half cents here. I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with others. However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have problems. i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go. (even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of trip BIL would have wanted) That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family? End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list. Thanks for putting up with me. <G> Rose ----- Original Message ----- From: brightt@... >>>>> Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about it and are especially loving when I'm in pain. Many good wishes to each one of you brave people. Prakasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 The most callous and flippant person in my life is my sister.... I'd like to know how to deal with it when it comes to family, because my way of dealing with it has been pretty much cutting her out of my life for now, I don't call, don't email, so she'll call once every couple of weeks or stop by once a month to see the kids, maybe I seem coldhearted... but I'm tired of her referring to me as " just bored " " needing exercise " once when all I had to offer her were caffiene-free drinks, she put her fingers in the air and made the quotes to say " damn you and your so-called health problems " she thought it was funny. If my daughter goes to her house, she comes back, saying things like, why don't you have a job and there's no reason we can't go out shopping today. Not to mention how many times she's said, stop complaining, everybody has arthritis. Funny thing is I don't complain, not out loud anyway, she'll say that when she sees me wince getting up from a chair or limp. So, I'm not amused by her.... I can be amused by everyone else's ignorance, but her's is hurtful and hateful. I'm only 28 years old and she is the only close family I have but it hurts me too much to even look at her sometimes. What do you do then? Sorry for the whining, but I was due, lol. Hope everyone else is having a warm good day. kerri sue rmcg <rmcg@...> wrote: Ok, my two and a half cents here. I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with others. However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have problems. i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go. (even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of trip BIL would have wanted) That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family? End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list. Thanks for putting up with me. <G> Rose ----- Original Message ----- From: brightt@... >>>>> Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about it and are especially loving when I'm in pain. Many good wishes to each one of you brave people. Prakasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 Bless your heart, . Get ready for all the people who think they know exactly what you need, what you're not doing right, what you did to bring RA on yourself, and--of course--that you must be exaggerating. It's probably what you, unfortunately, already experience with your son. I'm sorry you and he have to deal with that. I know several people who live with bipolar disorder--either as the person who has it or as the loved one of someone affected. It's tough, and I wish you all the best as you take both these huge challenges one day at a time. Prakasha On Nov 11, 2005, at 12:19 PM, M. wrote: > Prakasha, > I LOVE your attitude.I have a son that is bipolar and I have > had to deal with people with that same type of 'attitude' > concerning his illness.Suppose I had better prepare myself for > the same thing concerning my RA.sigh > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 Bless your heart, . Get ready for all the people who think they know exactly what you need, what you're not doing right, what you did to bring RA on yourself, and--of course--that you must be exaggerating. It's probably what you, unfortunately, already experience with your son. I'm sorry you and he have to deal with that. I know several people who live with bipolar disorder--either as the person who has it or as the loved one of someone affected. It's tough, and I wish you all the best as you take both these huge challenges one day at a time. Prakasha On Nov 11, 2005, at 12:19 PM, M. wrote: > Prakasha, > I LOVE your attitude.I have a son that is bipolar and I have > had to deal with people with that same type of 'attitude' > concerning his illness.Suppose I had better prepare myself for > the same thing concerning my RA.sigh > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 I am still trying to get amused, but it is so hard.....(see my recent previous posts) too often in my world, " people not getting it " tend to help create outright dangerous situations....... and I feel so let down by the people who appear to the rest of the world to be caring people due to their volunteer wokr or their professions, but who in fact to me seem to only do things that show up in the public eye and make them seem like big shot heros. Sadly, now that my son is on themend and hubby seems to be getting a tad stronger and oldest child (bipolar) is resigned to her birthday slipping thru all the other crisises- I am flaring, my left ankle and right hip----terribly. My rheumy retired and our docs office has not yet found a replacement....we need food and groceries in...for all the good it does to need. I am having major difficulty being amused, I am stuck right now in resentful, anger, bitter, disappointed..... - In , " rmcg " <rmcg@m...> wrote: > > Ok, my two and a half cents here. > I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with others. > However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have problems. > i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go. (even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of trip BIL would have wanted) > > That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family? > > End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list. > > Thanks for putting up with me. <G> > > Rose > ----- Original Message ----- > From: brightt@l... > > > > >>>>> > > > > Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with > RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why > worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere > interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused > by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about > RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of > you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm > fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about > it and are especially loving when I'm in pain. > > Many good wishes to each one of you brave people. > > Prakasha > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 I am still trying to get amused, but it is so hard.....(see my recent previous posts) too often in my world, " people not getting it " tend to help create outright dangerous situations....... and I feel so let down by the people who appear to the rest of the world to be caring people due to their volunteer wokr or their professions, but who in fact to me seem to only do things that show up in the public eye and make them seem like big shot heros. Sadly, now that my son is on themend and hubby seems to be getting a tad stronger and oldest child (bipolar) is resigned to her birthday slipping thru all the other crisises- I am flaring, my left ankle and right hip----terribly. My rheumy retired and our docs office has not yet found a replacement....we need food and groceries in...for all the good it does to need. I am having major difficulty being amused, I am stuck right now in resentful, anger, bitter, disappointed..... - In , " rmcg " <rmcg@m...> wrote: > > Ok, my two and a half cents here. > I have had physical difficulties all my life, so I hope that I'm emphatic with others. > However, I do get disgusted with those who have never ever had any physical problems and no clue whatsoever how hard it can be for those of us who do have problems. > i.e: DH had heart attack. One month later, BIL was harrassing him about making plans for a cross country driving trip and wanted a committment NOW. Needless to say, he/we did not go, but BIL still doesn't understand why we wouldn't go. (even if dh had been in condition,no way would I be able to make the type of trip BIL would have wanted) > > That's an extreme example, but I run into it all the time. I wouldn't want to wish anything on anyone, but I do wish that people would get a minute bit of understanding when I/we say " I hurt " , or " I can't " . I guess I just drop those that are too insenstive, but what does one do with family? > > End of rant. g* Back to regularly scheduled list. > > Thanks for putting up with me. <G> > > Rose > ----- Original Message ----- > From: brightt@l... > > > > >>>>> > > > > Every once in a while I try to educate someone about what living with > RA is like, but they rarely understand. After that day, I thought why > worry about it? Why waste my energy unless someone has sincere > interest? I'm trying to keep this perspective and just be wryly amused > by some of the strange/insensitive/uninformed things people say about > RA. Of course, I know this attitude is nearly impossible for those of > you who have spouses, children, etc. who aren't understanding. I'm > fortunate to live with just my 2 dogs, who really have no opinion about > it and are especially loving when I'm in pain. > > Many good wishes to each one of you brave people. > > Prakasha > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 Dear Prakasha, It sounds like you have found one of the keys with dealing with these diseases--keeping a good sense of humor. I know it keeps me from falling into that pit of despair and self-pity, but as you say sometimes people will say something and you just want to smack them! I'm lucky to have a family who is now understanding and supportive of me (I don't have RA, but have Dercum's disease, fibro, and MS.) It's taken awhile to educate them, but they have seen me at my worst and realize it isn't just an act to get sympathy. My cat knows, too, when I'm having a bad day, and he sits gently in my lap. Peace, Judi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 Dear Prakasha, It sounds like you have found one of the keys with dealing with these diseases--keeping a good sense of humor. I know it keeps me from falling into that pit of despair and self-pity, but as you say sometimes people will say something and you just want to smack them! I'm lucky to have a family who is now understanding and supportive of me (I don't have RA, but have Dercum's disease, fibro, and MS.) It's taken awhile to educate them, but they have seen me at my worst and realize it isn't just an act to get sympathy. My cat knows, too, when I'm having a bad day, and he sits gently in my lap. Peace, Judi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 That is kind of funny. Maddening, but funny. It is frustrating when people don't understand a chronic disease, especially one that deals with daily pain. I do tend to get ticked off when people whine about how horrible their stuffy nose is bothering them, or that they pulled a muscle and it hurts SOOO bad. I tend to be empathetic (is that a word???), but sometimes it gets hard, especially when I'm going through a really bad flare. If they only knew.... Oh, and let me tell you about MY in-laws sometimes.... (just kidding) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 That is kind of funny. Maddening, but funny. It is frustrating when people don't understand a chronic disease, especially one that deals with daily pain. I do tend to get ticked off when people whine about how horrible their stuffy nose is bothering them, or that they pulled a muscle and it hurts SOOO bad. I tend to be empathetic (is that a word???), but sometimes it gets hard, especially when I'm going through a really bad flare. If they only knew.... Oh, and let me tell you about MY in-laws sometimes.... (just kidding) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 > > That is kind of funny. Maddening, but funny. > > It is frustrating when people don't understand a chronic disease, > especially one that deals with daily pain. I do tend to get ticked > off when people whine about how horrible their stuffy nose is > bothering them, or that they pulled a muscle and it hurts SOOO bad. > > I tend to be empathetic (is that a word???), but sometimes it gets > hard, especially when I'm going through a really bad flare. If they > only knew.... > > Oh, and let me tell you about MY in-laws sometimes.... (just kidding) > > > I know exactly how you feel, you want to know how they feel but you can't help what they would complain about if they had to go through what you have to everyday. i am 16 and was diagnosed at the beginning of this year so i am relatively new to all of this pain but it feels so familiar because i've had it for a while now and the pain medicines i'm taking don't do much. but yeah i know how you feel on that subject. i have smaller siblings who don't care how i feel and make fun of me because of my disease. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2005 Report Share Posted November 11, 2005 > > That is kind of funny. Maddening, but funny. > > It is frustrating when people don't understand a chronic disease, > especially one that deals with daily pain. I do tend to get ticked > off when people whine about how horrible their stuffy nose is > bothering them, or that they pulled a muscle and it hurts SOOO bad. > > I tend to be empathetic (is that a word???), but sometimes it gets > hard, especially when I'm going through a really bad flare. If they > only knew.... > > Oh, and let me tell you about MY in-laws sometimes.... (just kidding) > > > I know exactly how you feel, you want to know how they feel but you can't help what they would complain about if they had to go through what you have to everyday. i am 16 and was diagnosed at the beginning of this year so i am relatively new to all of this pain but it feels so familiar because i've had it for a while now and the pain medicines i'm taking don't do much. but yeah i know how you feel on that subject. i have smaller siblings who don't care how i feel and make fun of me because of my disease. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2005 Report Share Posted November 12, 2005 , Speaking of in-laws...my father-in-law was complaining about a pulled muscle and how horrible it was blah blah blah...I said, " I know how you feel. " and he said, " No. You don't understand. This pain doesn't go away! It's not like, you know, where it just comes for a little bit at a time. " I just started laughing. HELLO! Did I not say that the pain is there 24/7?? Sometimes it seems like you say things to people and they reword it in some part of their brain before it reaches their conscience thought. So you say one thing but they hear something that they like better than what you really said. Doesn't it seem that way sometimes????laura --- tandarat <mflinder@...> wrote: > That is kind of funny. Maddening, but funny. > > It is frustrating when people don't understand a > chronic disease, > especially one that deals with daily pain. I do > tend to get ticked > off when people whine about how horrible their > stuffy nose is > bothering them, or that they pulled a muscle and it > hurts SOOO bad. > > I tend to be empathetic (is that a word???), but > sometimes it gets > hard, especially when I'm going through a really bad > flare. If they > only knew.... > > Oh, and let me tell you about MY in-laws > sometimes.... (just kidding) > > > > > > __________________________________ - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 http://mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2005 Report Share Posted November 12, 2005 , Speaking of in-laws...my father-in-law was complaining about a pulled muscle and how horrible it was blah blah blah...I said, " I know how you feel. " and he said, " No. You don't understand. This pain doesn't go away! It's not like, you know, where it just comes for a little bit at a time. " I just started laughing. HELLO! Did I not say that the pain is there 24/7?? Sometimes it seems like you say things to people and they reword it in some part of their brain before it reaches their conscience thought. So you say one thing but they hear something that they like better than what you really said. Doesn't it seem that way sometimes????laura --- tandarat <mflinder@...> wrote: > That is kind of funny. Maddening, but funny. > > It is frustrating when people don't understand a > chronic disease, > especially one that deals with daily pain. I do > tend to get ticked > off when people whine about how horrible their > stuffy nose is > bothering them, or that they pulled a muscle and it > hurts SOOO bad. > > I tend to be empathetic (is that a word???), but > sometimes it gets > hard, especially when I'm going through a really bad > flare. If they > only knew.... > > Oh, and let me tell you about MY in-laws > sometimes.... (just kidding) > > > > > > __________________________________ - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 http://mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2005 Report Share Posted November 12, 2005 .... My MIL was down to help this week. I had just gotten out of a doctor's appointment where I had found out I had this blockage in my shoulder....and had earlier been told I have pneumonia (bad, since I pretty much have no immune system right now between chemo and prednisone) and am extremely anemic. I get in the car, and she says, " Ooooohhhhh....my throat hurts SOOO much! " (She has a cold.) I guess she complained to my husband, because that night, as I was coughing my lungs out on the couch, he came to me and said that I HAD to help her out more because she was sick. Ummm...ok...she came down to help with the house and our daughter, since I've been so sick? I guess a sore throat is much more severe than pneumonia and anemia. Brother. Oh, and she has some osteoarthritis in her hands. I told her I understood how much it must hurt, and gave her some suggestions for relief (I also have some osteoarthritis, and it hurts, too, so yeah, I understand). She also has heel spurs, which I also have, and she never lets me forget it. I finally broke down and showed her my red, swollen hands, and her answer? " But MINE HURT! " Ughh! Nothing you can do with people like that. > > > That is kind of funny. Maddening, but funny. > > > > It is frustrating when people don't understand a > > chronic disease, > > especially one that deals with daily pain. I do > > tend to get ticked > > off when people whine about how horrible their > > stuffy nose is > > bothering them, or that they pulled a muscle and it > > hurts SOOO bad. > > > > I tend to be empathetic (is that a word???), but > > sometimes it gets > > hard, especially when I'm going through a really bad > > flare. If they > > only knew.... > > > > Oh, and let me tell you about MY in-laws > > sometimes.... (just kidding) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________ > - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 > http://mail. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2005 Report Share Posted November 12, 2005 .... My MIL was down to help this week. I had just gotten out of a doctor's appointment where I had found out I had this blockage in my shoulder....and had earlier been told I have pneumonia (bad, since I pretty much have no immune system right now between chemo and prednisone) and am extremely anemic. I get in the car, and she says, " Ooooohhhhh....my throat hurts SOOO much! " (She has a cold.) I guess she complained to my husband, because that night, as I was coughing my lungs out on the couch, he came to me and said that I HAD to help her out more because she was sick. Ummm...ok...she came down to help with the house and our daughter, since I've been so sick? I guess a sore throat is much more severe than pneumonia and anemia. Brother. Oh, and she has some osteoarthritis in her hands. I told her I understood how much it must hurt, and gave her some suggestions for relief (I also have some osteoarthritis, and it hurts, too, so yeah, I understand). She also has heel spurs, which I also have, and she never lets me forget it. I finally broke down and showed her my red, swollen hands, and her answer? " But MINE HURT! " Ughh! Nothing you can do with people like that. > > > That is kind of funny. Maddening, but funny. > > > > It is frustrating when people don't understand a > > chronic disease, > > especially one that deals with daily pain. I do > > tend to get ticked > > off when people whine about how horrible their > > stuffy nose is > > bothering them, or that they pulled a muscle and it > > hurts SOOO bad. > > > > I tend to be empathetic (is that a word???), but > > sometimes it gets > > hard, especially when I'm going through a really bad > > flare. If they > > only knew.... > > > > Oh, and let me tell you about MY in-laws > > sometimes.... (just kidding) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________ > - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 > http://mail. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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