Sue - Welcome-

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I can't be positive Sue, but I believe that you may be our ONLY from Ontario

- altho there are a few people from BC area. Welcome to our list - if I

forgot to answer sooner.

Our son Elie is amongst the older ones - with Gareth and Matteo - as he is

26 yo. He is also different from them in at least 2 ways . Elie is not

selectively mute - He can and does make himself and his needs and wants

known. Of course that doesn;t mean that he is willing or able to hold a

conversation of any length. Most conversations are 1-2 word concentrations

on the subject at hand .

Elie also lives away from home. HE lives with his friend who is is

caregiver. They live the life of carefree bachelors. Since 's sole

job is Elie - and Elie's sole job is being Elie , they get along fine. In

the community they spend time helping 's family who consists ossf 4

elderly and ill grandparents and 's parents. They drive them places,

help with shopping, do yard owrk or house work for them, and then spend

evenings socializing with those young men in the communtiy with whom

has grown up. Certainly not as stressful as living with us - for either of

us.

Elie typically comes home for one long w/e a month at which time goes

and " plays " and Elie gets to go to flea markets and out to eat with us.

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> Hi Margaret:

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> I actually replied earlier to your question, but I don't think my message

> was posted. I don't see it anywhere.

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> I live in London, Ontario, Canada. It is a large medical centre, and there

> are some good supports here. However, like many of you, I found that I do

> not " fit " into many of the support groups here, they are either

> higher-functioning DS groups, younger children, or people with just autism.

> Plus, as time has gone by, I just don't have the time to invest in attending

> these.

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> Sue

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> > Hi, Everyone.........oh, can I relate to your post!!! You have

> > said before that Mateo and Gareth are so much alike, and you're right on

> > target!!! *Selective mutism* ......boy, if that doesn't describe Gareth

> to a

> > * T * , nothing does!!! That Amantadine was sooooooooooo nice in that he

> > started responding to questions and willingly talking....now I am back to

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> > " Gareth, I asked you a question. Please, answer me. " " What? " he says, as

> > if I was talking to the wall the whole time!!! I hope the Zoloft works

> for

> > Mateo. We tried that on Gareth years ago, but it caused asthma attacks.

> > Just watch him closely. Cyber hugs coming your way, Lady.

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> > Sue....welcome to the group. Patience.........!!! Good grief, I pray

> > EVERY night for patience....just for one more day, dear Lord!!! My son is

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> > Gareth, 23 y/o, DS/ASD/OCD. Where do you live?

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> > Holly & Shane.....Thank you, for spelling out my life, too. I think all

> > of us need one large group cyber hug!!!

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> > Take care, Everyone.

> > Margaret

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