Re: sending good thoughts, asking for some

[Guest guest]

Dreamer, if I understand you correctly that your mother's lung cancer

has spread to her brain, it's entirely possible that she is not in her

right mind and is not thinking logically. My aunt went through the same

time, and her mind was of course affected by the cancer infecting her

brain. You are going to have to be firm with her and deal with her as

you would an unruly child. Your siblings need to know what is going on

with her and with you, because she is also their mother, and they need

to give you some help in caring for her. You already have enough to

deal with without this, so enlighten them and ask for their help in

whatever way they can give it. Maybe one of them can handle the

caregivers' interviews. If she refuses to go to her doctor

appointments, take away her TV privileges until she complies, LOL. I

will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Sue

On Thursday, October 13, 2005, at 05:48 PM, dreamer_plus wrote:

> She refuses to go to her doc appts, now, refuses to allow my siblings

> to know

> she is not going, refuses for them to know she cannot walk and is

> incontinant.....and lately refuses all phone calls and visitors.

> Meanwhile, my husband is battling new cancer in his bladder alone,

> with our

> kids, whose symptoms are flaring up again while I struggle to figure

> out a

> balance or answer to this whole mess. My 10 yr old misses me so

> much......

[Guest guest]

Dreamer, if I understand you correctly that your mother's lung cancer

has spread to her brain, it's entirely possible that she is not in her

right mind and is not thinking logically. My aunt went through the same

time, and her mind was of course affected by the cancer infecting her

brain. You are going to have to be firm with her and deal with her as

you would an unruly child. Your siblings need to know what is going on

with her and with you, because she is also their mother, and they need

to give you some help in caring for her. You already have enough to

deal with without this, so enlighten them and ask for their help in

whatever way they can give it. Maybe one of them can handle the

caregivers' interviews. If she refuses to go to her doctor

appointments, take away her TV privileges until she complies, LOL. I

will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Sue

On Thursday, October 13, 2005, at 05:48 PM, dreamer_plus wrote:

> She refuses to go to her doc appts, now, refuses to allow my siblings

> to know

> she is not going, refuses for them to know she cannot walk and is

> incontinant.....and lately refuses all phone calls and visitors.

> Meanwhile, my husband is battling new cancer in his bladder alone,

> with our

> kids, whose symptoms are flaring up again while I struggle to figure

> out a

> balance or answer to this whole mess. My 10 yr old misses me so

> much......

[Guest guest]

Dear Dreamer,

My prayers for you and your mother, and your husband--what a dear you

are to do all you are doing. But it is a labor of love, and I know

your mother realizes that too. God bless you,

Judi

[Guest guest]

Dear Dreamer,

My prayers for you and your mother, and your husband--what a dear you

are to do all you are doing. But it is a labor of love, and I know

your mother realizes that too. God bless you,

Judi