Re: Angry phase of my RA - Tracie

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Hi Tracie:

No, you are certainly not the first person to be angry

with RA, and you certainly won't be the last. We all

go through angry phases, even after 6 years of this I

still get depressed and angry over the constant pain,

fatigue, the having to explain over and over that I

can't do this or that because of the pain. Knowing

that for the next 30 years or so that I will still

have this is depressing too. My golden years are not

looking very bright, but I do what I can, take all the

meds I can, to keep it going as best I can.

My housework suffers and my husband is usually pretty

understanding but last night, after he complained and

I told him that I had been in a lot of pain the last

week (RA and Fibro tag teaming me), and fighting a

sinus/upper respiratory infection too, that I just had

not felt up to doing the housework. He then said why

don't you go take a pain pill, like I had not thought

of that already....as if when I took a pill it would

all be better. Well, I just broke down crying. I was

so angry at him, at the RA, at myself for not being

able to keep the house nice which is important to him.

If I could transfer the pain of the RA and Fibro to

him for one day, maybe that would make a difference, I

don't know any other way to really make someone

understand but than let them walk, or should I say

hobble, in my shoes for a day. Anyway, took pain

pills, muscle relaxants, sleep medications, my

antibiotics, had some sleep, and now am cleaning,

although it hurts and I'll be worse off later.

It does get very frustrating to have these diseases

that have no cure, and sometimes no way to get a grip

on the pain and disability they cause, and we get

angry. It's perfectly normal. At least we know that

we can come here anytime and vent away, and get the

support that we cannot sometimes get at home. My

daughter is with me most of the day, every day, and

sees more of what I go through than anyone, and at 18

she does her best to help me, but she also has carpal

tunnel in both wrists which is painful, but between

the two of us, we are getting the work done today.

Hopefully my husband will be in a better mood, and

rethink his attitude toward my problems. I did not ask

for them, and if there was a pill I could take that

would make it all go away, I'd pop that baby in a

second.

Anyway, just letting you know that you are not alone -

hang in there - hoping that better days come soon for

all of us -

Kathe in CA

--- tracierae143 <tracierae143@...> wrote:

> Hi everyone,

>

> I know I have not posted in awhile, but I do read as

> often as I

> can. I have reached the I am really angry stage of

> my disease. I

> assume this is a normal transition now that I have

> been diagnosed

> officially with RA for a year or am I a freak? It

> has finally sunk

> in that I am disabled probably for the rest of my

> life as every

> doctor I see agrees with the disability decision. I

> am angry

> because my hubby is unhappy with his job, but he can

> do something

> about that, like look for another one. Yes, it

> could take a year or

> more for him to find something he likes, but I don't

> get to switch

> diseases or reapply for a different one because I

> don't like this

> one. I get really angry lately about the whole

> mess. I am sick of

> running to doctors, sick of meds, sick of not being

> able to do the

> things I want. This last doctor at this pain clinic

> told me I would

> not be able to walk for exercise as it would be much

> to hard on my

> joints, etc., etc., like I did not know that already

> since I have

> trouble walking through the grocery store and I have

> handicap plates

> just so I can go in and out of the grocery store.

> Also, I am still

> going around and around about my pain management. I

> now have my

> rheumy on my side who agrees that I need long-term

> chronic pain

> medication, but he has to have approval because of

> my insurance from

> my primary care physician who " does not believe in

> that " . Excuse me

> for not falling into the normal range of your

> patients. I would

> love to switch places with him someday. I am sure

> my rheumy will

> get it all straightened out as he has vowed to, but

> I cannot believe

> I am still fighting to just have a semi decent

> quality of life. You

> know where you get up and get dressed and maybe walk

> around the

> house a little and talk to your kids. I am just

> disgusted with the

> whole thing and very ANGRY as I seem to keep saying.

> I cannot hold

> all of this anger in because I am going to scream if

> I don't let it

> out, but I just want to know if this is normal. The

> doctor said

> something about going through the stages of grief

> and that is what I

> was doing???? Because I have lost my way of life,

> my job and you

> know what I miss the most - DANCING, yep, DANCING.

> My feet are

> horrid though. Well, thanks for letting me vent and

> any thoughts

> would be greatly appreciated. I cannot imagine I am

> the first

> person to get angry, but you never know.

>

> Angry in Maine

>

> Tracie

>

>

>

>

Kathe in CA

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Hi Tracie:

No, you are certainly not the first person to be angry

with RA, and you certainly won't be the last. We all

go through angry phases, even after 6 years of this I

still get depressed and angry over the constant pain,

fatigue, the having to explain over and over that I

can't do this or that because of the pain. Knowing

that for the next 30 years or so that I will still

have this is depressing too. My golden years are not

looking very bright, but I do what I can, take all the

meds I can, to keep it going as best I can.

My housework suffers and my husband is usually pretty

understanding but last night, after he complained and

I told him that I had been in a lot of pain the last

week (RA and Fibro tag teaming me), and fighting a

sinus/upper respiratory infection too, that I just had

not felt up to doing the housework. He then said why

don't you go take a pain pill, like I had not thought

of that already....as if when I took a pill it would

all be better. Well, I just broke down crying. I was

so angry at him, at the RA, at myself for not being

able to keep the house nice which is important to him.

If I could transfer the pain of the RA and Fibro to

him for one day, maybe that would make a difference, I

don't know any other way to really make someone

understand but than let them walk, or should I say

hobble, in my shoes for a day. Anyway, took pain

pills, muscle relaxants, sleep medications, my

antibiotics, had some sleep, and now am cleaning,

although it hurts and I'll be worse off later.

It does get very frustrating to have these diseases

that have no cure, and sometimes no way to get a grip

on the pain and disability they cause, and we get

angry. It's perfectly normal. At least we know that

we can come here anytime and vent away, and get the

support that we cannot sometimes get at home. My

daughter is with me most of the day, every day, and

sees more of what I go through than anyone, and at 18

she does her best to help me, but she also has carpal

tunnel in both wrists which is painful, but between

the two of us, we are getting the work done today.

Hopefully my husband will be in a better mood, and

rethink his attitude toward my problems. I did not ask

for them, and if there was a pill I could take that

would make it all go away, I'd pop that baby in a

second.

Anyway, just letting you know that you are not alone -

hang in there - hoping that better days come soon for

all of us -

Kathe in CA

--- tracierae143 <tracierae143@...> wrote:

> Hi everyone,

>

> I know I have not posted in awhile, but I do read as

> often as I

> can. I have reached the I am really angry stage of

> my disease. I

> assume this is a normal transition now that I have

> been diagnosed

> officially with RA for a year or am I a freak? It

> has finally sunk

> in that I am disabled probably for the rest of my

> life as every

> doctor I see agrees with the disability decision. I

> am angry

> because my hubby is unhappy with his job, but he can

> do something

> about that, like look for another one. Yes, it

> could take a year or

> more for him to find something he likes, but I don't

> get to switch

> diseases or reapply for a different one because I

> don't like this

> one. I get really angry lately about the whole

> mess. I am sick of

> running to doctors, sick of meds, sick of not being

> able to do the

> things I want. This last doctor at this pain clinic

> told me I would

> not be able to walk for exercise as it would be much

> to hard on my

> joints, etc., etc., like I did not know that already

> since I have

> trouble walking through the grocery store and I have

> handicap plates

> just so I can go in and out of the grocery store.

> Also, I am still

> going around and around about my pain management. I

> now have my

> rheumy on my side who agrees that I need long-term

> chronic pain

> medication, but he has to have approval because of

> my insurance from

> my primary care physician who " does not believe in

> that " . Excuse me

> for not falling into the normal range of your

> patients. I would

> love to switch places with him someday. I am sure

> my rheumy will

> get it all straightened out as he has vowed to, but

> I cannot believe

> I am still fighting to just have a semi decent

> quality of life. You

> know where you get up and get dressed and maybe walk

> around the

> house a little and talk to your kids. I am just

> disgusted with the

> whole thing and very ANGRY as I seem to keep saying.

> I cannot hold

> all of this anger in because I am going to scream if

> I don't let it

> out, but I just want to know if this is normal. The

> doctor said

> something about going through the stages of grief

> and that is what I

> was doing???? Because I have lost my way of life,

> my job and you

> know what I miss the most - DANCING, yep, DANCING.

> My feet are

> horrid though. Well, thanks for letting me vent and

> any thoughts

> would be greatly appreciated. I cannot imagine I am

> the first

> person to get angry, but you never know.

>

> Angry in Maine

>

> Tracie

>

>

>

>

Kathe in CA

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Kathe, sorry to hear that your husband isn't being very understanding

lately. I hope he'll see the light soon.

Not an MD

I'll tell you where to go!

Mayo Clinic in Rochester

http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester

s Hopkins Medicine

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org

Re: [ ] Angry phase of my RA - Tracie

> Hi Tracie:

>

> No, you are certainly not the first person to be angry

> with RA, and you certainly won't be the last. We all

> go through angry phases, even after 6 years of this I

> still get depressed and angry over the constant pain,

> fatigue, the having to explain over and over that I

> can't do this or that because of the pain. Knowing

> that for the next 30 years or so that I will still

> have this is depressing too. My golden years are not

> looking very bright, but I do what I can, take all the

> meds I can, to keep it going as best I can.

>

> My housework suffers and my husband is usually pretty

> understanding but last night, after he complained and

> I told him that I had been in a lot of pain the last

> week (RA and Fibro tag teaming me), and fighting a

> sinus/upper respiratory infection too, that I just had

> not felt up to doing the housework. He then said why

> don't you go take a pain pill, like I had not thought

> of that already....as if when I took a pill it would

> all be better. Well, I just broke down crying. I was

> so angry at him, at the RA, at myself for not being

> able to keep the house nice which is important to him.

> If I could transfer the pain of the RA and Fibro to

> him for one day, maybe that would make a difference, I

> don't know any other way to really make someone

> understand but than let them walk, or should I say

> hobble, in my shoes for a day. Anyway, took pain

> pills, muscle relaxants, sleep medications, my

> antibiotics, had some sleep, and now am cleaning,

> although it hurts and I'll be worse off later.

>

> It does get very frustrating to have these diseases

> that have no cure, and sometimes no way to get a grip

> on the pain and disability they cause, and we get

> angry. It's perfectly normal. At least we know that

> we can come here anytime and vent away, and get the

> support that we cannot sometimes get at home. My

> daughter is with me most of the day, every day, and

> sees more of what I go through than anyone, and at 18

> she does her best to help me, but she also has carpal

> tunnel in both wrists which is painful, but between

> the two of us, we are getting the work done today.

> Hopefully my husband will be in a better mood, and

> rethink his attitude toward my problems. I did not ask

> for them, and if there was a pill I could take that

> would make it all go away, I'd pop that baby in a

> second.

>

> Anyway, just letting you know that you are not alone -

> hang in there - hoping that better days come soon for

> all of us -

>

> Kathe in CA

[Guest guest]

Kathe, sorry to hear that your husband isn't being very understanding

lately. I hope he'll see the light soon.

Not an MD

I'll tell you where to go!

Mayo Clinic in Rochester

http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester

s Hopkins Medicine

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org

Re: [ ] Angry phase of my RA - Tracie

> Hi Tracie:

>

> No, you are certainly not the first person to be angry

> with RA, and you certainly won't be the last. We all

> go through angry phases, even after 6 years of this I

> still get depressed and angry over the constant pain,

> fatigue, the having to explain over and over that I

> can't do this or that because of the pain. Knowing

> that for the next 30 years or so that I will still

> have this is depressing too. My golden years are not

> looking very bright, but I do what I can, take all the

> meds I can, to keep it going as best I can.

>

> My housework suffers and my husband is usually pretty

> understanding but last night, after he complained and

> I told him that I had been in a lot of pain the last

> week (RA and Fibro tag teaming me), and fighting a

> sinus/upper respiratory infection too, that I just had

> not felt up to doing the housework. He then said why

> don't you go take a pain pill, like I had not thought

> of that already....as if when I took a pill it would

> all be better. Well, I just broke down crying. I was

> so angry at him, at the RA, at myself for not being

> able to keep the house nice which is important to him.

> If I could transfer the pain of the RA and Fibro to

> him for one day, maybe that would make a difference, I

> don't know any other way to really make someone

> understand but than let them walk, or should I say

> hobble, in my shoes for a day. Anyway, took pain

> pills, muscle relaxants, sleep medications, my

> antibiotics, had some sleep, and now am cleaning,

> although it hurts and I'll be worse off later.

>

> It does get very frustrating to have these diseases

> that have no cure, and sometimes no way to get a grip

> on the pain and disability they cause, and we get

> angry. It's perfectly normal. At least we know that

> we can come here anytime and vent away, and get the

> support that we cannot sometimes get at home. My

> daughter is with me most of the day, every day, and

> sees more of what I go through than anyone, and at 18

> she does her best to help me, but she also has carpal

> tunnel in both wrists which is painful, but between

> the two of us, we are getting the work done today.

> Hopefully my husband will be in a better mood, and

> rethink his attitude toward my problems. I did not ask

> for them, and if there was a pill I could take that

> would make it all go away, I'd pop that baby in a

> second.

>

> Anyway, just letting you know that you are not alone -

> hang in there - hoping that better days come soon for

> all of us -

>

> Kathe in CA

[Guest guest]

:

Thanks for your kind words - he did, and always does

eventually.

Kathe in CA

--- <Matsumura_Clan@...> wrote:

> Kathe, sorry to hear that your husband isn't being

> very understanding

> lately. I hope he'll see the light soon.

>

>

>

>

> Not an MD

>

> I'll tell you where to go!

>

> Mayo Clinic in Rochester

> http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester

>

> s Hopkins Medicine

> http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org

>

>

> Re: [ ] Angry phase of my RA -

> Tracie

>

>

> > Hi Tracie:

> >

> > No, you are certainly not the first person to be

> angry

> > with RA, and you certainly won't be the last. We

> all

> > go through angry phases, even after 6 years of

> this I

> > still get depressed and angry over the constant

> pain,

> > fatigue, the having to explain over and over that

> I

> > can't do this or that because of the pain. Knowing

> > that for the next 30 years or so that I will still

> > have this is depressing too. My golden years are

> not

> > looking very bright, but I do what I can, take all

> the

> > meds I can, to keep it going as best I can.

> >

> > My housework suffers and my husband is usually

> pretty

> > understanding but last night, after he complained

> and

> > I told him that I had been in a lot of pain the

> last

> > week (RA and Fibro tag teaming me), and fighting a

> > sinus/upper respiratory infection too, that I just

> had

> > not felt up to doing the housework. He then said

> why

> > don't you go take a pain pill, like I had not

> thought

> > of that already....as if when I took a pill it

> would

> > all be better. Well, I just broke down crying. I

> was

> > so angry at him, at the RA, at myself for not

> being

> > able to keep the house nice which is important to

> him.

> > If I could transfer the pain of the RA and Fibro

> to

> > him for one day, maybe that would make a

> difference, I

> > don't know any other way to really make someone

> > understand but than let them walk, or should I say

> > hobble, in my shoes for a day. Anyway, took pain

> > pills, muscle relaxants, sleep medications, my

> > antibiotics, had some sleep, and now am cleaning,

> > although it hurts and I'll be worse off later.

> >

> > It does get very frustrating to have these

> diseases

> > that have no cure, and sometimes no way to get a

> grip

> > on the pain and disability they cause, and we get

> > angry. It's perfectly normal. At least we know

> that

> > we can come here anytime and vent away, and get

> the

> > support that we cannot sometimes get at home. My

> > daughter is with me most of the day, every day,

> and

> > sees more of what I go through than anyone, and at

> 18

> > she does her best to help me, but she also has

> carpal

> > tunnel in both wrists which is painful, but

> between

> > the two of us, we are getting the work done today.

> > Hopefully my husband will be in a better mood, and

> > rethink his attitude toward my problems. I did not

> ask

> > for them, and if there was a pill I could take

> that

> > would make it all go away, I'd pop that baby in a

> > second.

> >

> > Anyway, just letting you know that you are not

> alone -

> > hang in there - hoping that better days come soon

> for

> > all of us -

> >

> > Kathe in CA

>

Kathe in CA

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:

Thanks for your kind words - he did, and always does

eventually.

Kathe in CA

--- <Matsumura_Clan@...> wrote:

> Kathe, sorry to hear that your husband isn't being

> very understanding

> lately. I hope he'll see the light soon.

>

>

>

>

> Not an MD

>

> I'll tell you where to go!

>

> Mayo Clinic in Rochester

> http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester

>

> s Hopkins Medicine

> http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org

>

>

> Re: [ ] Angry phase of my RA -

> Tracie

>

>

> > Hi Tracie:

> >

> > No, you are certainly not the first person to be

> angry

> > with RA, and you certainly won't be the last. We

> all

> > go through angry phases, even after 6 years of

> this I

> > still get depressed and angry over the constant

> pain,

> > fatigue, the having to explain over and over that

> I

> > can't do this or that because of the pain. Knowing

> > that for the next 30 years or so that I will still

> > have this is depressing too. My golden years are

> not

> > looking very bright, but I do what I can, take all

> the

> > meds I can, to keep it going as best I can.

> >

> > My housework suffers and my husband is usually

> pretty

> > understanding but last night, after he complained

> and

> > I told him that I had been in a lot of pain the

> last

> > week (RA and Fibro tag teaming me), and fighting a

> > sinus/upper respiratory infection too, that I just

> had

> > not felt up to doing the housework. He then said

> why

> > don't you go take a pain pill, like I had not

> thought

> > of that already....as if when I took a pill it

> would

> > all be better. Well, I just broke down crying. I

> was

> > so angry at him, at the RA, at myself for not

> being

> > able to keep the house nice which is important to

> him.

> > If I could transfer the pain of the RA and Fibro

> to

> > him for one day, maybe that would make a

> difference, I

> > don't know any other way to really make someone

> > understand but than let them walk, or should I say

> > hobble, in my shoes for a day. Anyway, took pain

> > pills, muscle relaxants, sleep medications, my

> > antibiotics, had some sleep, and now am cleaning,

> > although it hurts and I'll be worse off later.

> >

> > It does get very frustrating to have these

> diseases

> > that have no cure, and sometimes no way to get a

> grip

> > on the pain and disability they cause, and we get

> > angry. It's perfectly normal. At least we know

> that

> > we can come here anytime and vent away, and get

> the

> > support that we cannot sometimes get at home. My

> > daughter is with me most of the day, every day,

> and

> > sees more of what I go through than anyone, and at

> 18

> > she does her best to help me, but she also has

> carpal

> > tunnel in both wrists which is painful, but

> between

> > the two of us, we are getting the work done today.

> > Hopefully my husband will be in a better mood, and

> > rethink his attitude toward my problems. I did not

> ask

> > for them, and if there was a pill I could take

> that

> > would make it all go away, I'd pop that baby in a

> > second.

> >

> > Anyway, just letting you know that you are not

> alone -

> > hang in there - hoping that better days come soon

> for

> > all of us -

> >

> > Kathe in CA

>

Kathe in CA

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