Guest guest Posted January 28, 2011 Report Share Posted January 28, 2011 Charlyne, Hope all went well with your husband's surgery. Prayers and best wishes for a speedy recovery. Also hope Zeb is doing okay with his dad's surgery. Irene sister to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2011 Report Share Posted January 31, 2011 Hi Charlyne, I hope your dh is doing better. Continued prayers and best wishes for him. Also hope that Zeb is doing okay with his father's hospitalization. was extremely upset 4 years ago when our father fell and shattered his femur and was hospitalized and in rehab for a month. I always thought that people became special ed teachers because they genuinely want to help.  I have a very good friend who teaches special ed, and that is definitely the case with him. But obviously not with the people that poor Zeb encountered.   Just the thought of one of our kids being arrested is sickening. It is amazing that if someone accuses a disabled person, the law sides with the accuser, no questions asked. But if someone attacks a disabled person, the law protects the attacker. When was 25, he was assaulted by someone at his day program. When my parents reported it to the police, they were told that since could not testify, there was nothing they could do. Never mind that there was a witness. You are so right. We have come a long way, but there is still so much more to do. Thanks for asking about . He has taken a few steps back, due to the weather. He has always been afraid of the snow. And with his luck, this is the year that we would be inundated with it! hasn't left the house in 2 weeks. The psychologist came to the house for the first time last Wednesday. He did not come Thursday due to the weather. The problem is that he will only be coming twice a week for 1/2 hour each time.  That is not nearly enough, but we will take what we can get. Yesterday, I got an MP3 player with a built in speaker, since he will not wear headphones. The psychologist suggested that we could use this as a transitional object, since loves music.  Now all I have to do is figure out how to download music on it! You mentioned that you advise people to get a Power of Attorney for their kids. Do you know if guardianship papers take care of that? Or is the POA something additional? We have guardianship papers for . Many thanks. All the best, Irene sister to  ________________________________ To: Sent: Fri, January 28, 2011 11:39:06 PM Subject: Re: Irene  Hi Irene, I have to agree with your grandmother too. Yes, Zeb was arrested twice, both times at school. Once at 10yrs old, in the 4th grade and at 15, almost 16 in grade 10. The last arrest was trumped by the school. Zeb slapped a teacher's back on the way out of her class and told her bye. She didn't make an issue out of it at the time but told him not to do that again. He apologized and that was the end of it. I think he was copying what the other kids do to one another. The teacher came to school the following day and taught all morning long. My school spy says that during her prep period she and a few teachers and a vice principal were chatting about the kids and she happened to mention Zeb. The vice principal told her that she should leave immediately and get her back checked. She went to a massage therapist, no dr. I received the bill and refused to pay it. She had Zeb arrested the following week and tried to file a restraining order. The letter requesting the restraining order said that Zeb could never keep his hands off of her etc. He hates us to even touch him. She never showed in court so her requested restraining order was denied and eventually the charges were dropped. The teacher died unexpectedly about 9 mos later. Zeb had been in her class for 3 mos with an para and I never received a note, phone call etc telling me that he had a behavior problem in her class. I never did get to meet this woman. One of my ASD HS students(different school district) was arrested a few weeks ago because he tapped a girls ankle to get her attention. They were on the late bus, few kids and she was sitting with her feet across the seat listening to her ipod. It made her angry and the student got so nervous that he froze. He had no intention to make her angry but just wanted to tell her something. She told the bus driver that he hit her and also her parents. They filed charges. The police could not find a mark so he was arrested for disorderly conduct. I had told the parent over and over to get the POA asap once he turned 18. He was arrested 4 days after his 18th BD and no POA. The Mom could not speak for him at the police station. The situation is all too common. Our kids are under a microscope and are treated differently. I agree with Lori that we have come a long way but we have plenty more to do. How is ? Charlyne Subject: Lori To: Date: Thursday, January 27, 2011, 8:30 AM  <<How did you cope? It just breaks my heart when our kids are treated poorly. Not only did Isaac hear some other kid say it but they changed his schedule on Monday without telling us they were going to do that. >> Hi, Everyone....Lori....I didn't cope very well for those 3 yrs. It was lawyers, constant IEP changes, due processes, and finally courts. But, I refused to put him in a Life Skills classroom when he was reading, writing and doing math just like the other kids. They cannot change the schedule or classroom setting without convening another IEP meeting......right, Charlyne? It's been so many years since we had to fight, that I have *blacked out* those rules!!! Also, Gareth was in 5 different school systems because of moves and only that one was the district from H*##. Is it possible to have him placed in a better, more understanding school using the gist that his current school obviously is biased towards him since other kids had similar behaviors and weren't suspended. Document EVERYTHING that you see. Also, I would demand that they return the points for good behavior......that had nothing to do with the bad behavior. The last time Gareth got suspended was because he was *punching all the kids in the gut while they were coming in the door from recess* --- 2 weeks. I flipped out....called the Principal and wanted to know where his 1:1 was and the teacher while he was punching all these kids. Turns out, it was the Spec Ed *lady* who wrote the report, the same one who wanted him in the LS class. The Principal called the aide and the teachers in to discuss the incident. Turns out, Gareth had door duty (holding the door open for the kids) and was GENTLY tapping each kid on the head and COUNTING each kid!!! I finally learned that all his extreme behaviors for the past 3 years were nothing more a than exaggerated lies. We moved shortly after to Illinois and the top 3 Spec Ed ladies were also gone form that district. Bottom line, they didn't want to pay for the 1:1 and didn't want to bother with him. It ended up costing the district $40-$50,000 in legal fees because of their behavior....too bad we never saw a dime of it!!! Take care, Everyone. Margaret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 Charlyne, Just adding my prayers for you and your DH during his recovery. Sounds like you have your plate even fuller than ever, if that is possible. I couldn't believe you were having to deal with shoveling off your roofs- PLURAL! OMG! Glad you got some help with that, finally. Take care, Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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