] Re: Sensory Throwing

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Holly, DJ bangs on wall in his room also (when very frusterated) but will chill

when one of us appears. When I suggested he ask for help or bang on a pillow

instead, Dj responds with " Mooooooom " .

No screaming as yet but on occassion I have heard him loudly fuss out either

invisible Daffy Duck or Woody/Jessie. I have actually heard him growl (growl!)

a few times when one of us parents has " annoyed " him.

I have two adult sons in their 30's & experienced zero terrible twos or " pubies "

with either. So I am not at all prepared for Mr. Attitude.

We have been fortunate though in that DJ will chill out or respond appropriately

with a directive. In 8th grade is when the foot stomp appeared & roughly

shoving his chair into place when he was " annoyed " . To this day I am not sure

what role his experiences in 8th grade contributed to this behavoir. But it

emerged only at school initially before appearing at home. His dad & I worked

quickly to eliminate that behavoir soley because we were afraid of over reaction

by school personel.

Something odd (to me at least)is that DJ did not employ many many of the DS

behavoirs that I observed as " typical " over the 15 years I served the birth to

five age group. No drop & flops for just one example. However, just this past

summer, I have noticed a muscle resistance every now & again which I instantly

recognized from my time spent working with older population

It is amazing to me that a being that can turn their body into a limp noodle can

at some point do the opposite & become virtually immovable. Like they are

rooted to the spot. Just amazing.

But not something I welcome for alot of reasons-especially safety reasons. I am

keeping a sharp eye on this one for sure.

Alot of things I look to the future about when deciding what to let go of & what

to alter. Stomping his foot, saying " Moooom " , flouncing away & stomping up the

stairs I can live with. And so can society.

Pounding on walls, throwing stuff & becoming a rooted tree-not good for future

DJ, parents or society. So hopefully this will be rectified long before he

" grows up " .

Such interesting lives we all lead, eh.

Sigh.

Kris

>

> Jake is also into the slamming doors and screaming. When he doesn't like

> something. Mostly when his sister tells him to do something. He is

> definitely voicing his opinion. We have been trying to help him use " dont

> want " or " dont like " but he just screams and slams the doors open and

> closed. Or, he bangs on the walls in his room.

>

> Holly

> Holly Giglio

> Jake 11, DS / PDD-NOS

> Idaho Falls, ID USA

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