Parking decal OL Re: Mommy coping strategies for new events

[Guest guest]

Too funny! My daughter would like her. One day we should get the kids together

they'd each have a buddy.

Dar (14 w/ DS & ASD)

Divine (14 w/ ADHD but otherwise " typical " )

Randy (2 toilet training)

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> > > Aloha All,

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> > > Would like to get this subject line back on topic...Mahalo!

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> > > I was dead serious when asking others on the list about their coping

strategies

> > > when bringing their children with to special events that are

outside

> > > of their usual routine...no matter how much preparation for child

> > > beforehand...i.e. waiting in a line to attend a sporting event and your

child

> > > decides to bolt to the front of the line, or self-talks incessantly and

you get

> > > the looks to " shut it up " ...what do you say? How do you stay calm? How do

you

> > > cope with the feeling of being " judged? "

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> > > I know that some of my daughter Aubrey's (12, Dstr21, PDDNOS, Hearing

Impaired)

> > > anxieties about these activities outside of our normal routine, could be

in

> > > reaction to my own anxieties before we even get there! Sometimes I handle

> > > other's reactions to Aubrey's interesting behaviors with grace, and other

times

> > > I feel compelled to send a few blows their way!

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> > > Do we not have the same right to be there and to be treated with respect?

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> > > I need to send out a more consistent message, especially when I am around

the

> > > same high school band parents for months at a time! Sometimes I think THEY

> > > should get over it already and become desensitized to Aubrey's presence

after

> > > months of seeing her, but the truly clueless never seem to get it!

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> > > Being a single Mom, there are no ifs, ands or buts about us needing to go

to

> > > things like 's school sports activities, marching band events etc to

> > > support her older sister. Now that Aubrey's in middle school, she will

also have

> > > more events like this of her own.

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> > > How do you all do it, especially if you have to do it alone? We do have

1:1

> > > support from time to time and that helps, but I need to be able to cope no

> > > matter what. I refuse to become housebound with her and want to be there

for

> > > both daughters!

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> > > Your input is greatly appreciated.

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> > > Malama pono, (take good care)

> > > Desi

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