RE: Stupid things people say to be nice.

[Guest guest]

My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people " because I

know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's special and not

me)

Sherry

[Guest guest]

" give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

" I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

" you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

" God never gives you more than you can handle. "

" How do you do it? "

Sigh.

Sent from my iPhone

Some of my favorites:

You people are just angels!

I don't know how you do it!

Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live with

THAT!!

If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week and I

thought I would die.

[Guest guest]

My response to the God thing is that " God must really either hate his own

creations or hate me! "

>

>

> " give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

>

> " I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

>

> " you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

>

> " God never gives you more than you can handle. "

>

> " How do you do it? "

>

> Sigh.

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 10:17 AM, Sara Cohen

<pastmidvale@...<pastmidvale%40gmail.com>>

> wrote:

>

> Some of my favorites:

>

> You people are just angels!

>

> I don't know how you do it!

>

> Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

>

> I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live with

> THAT!!

>

> If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

>

> Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

>

> A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

>

> I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week and I

> thought I would die.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yep.

The one about God not giving people more than they can handle is also a way for

the person saying it to not feel the need to offer help, compassion. Because

clearly, we can handle this. Sometimes, on a really bad day, I'll come back

with " I handle it because there's no one else and I have to! " . Ugh.

It's not that I don't love my " special " kids -- I totally do, with all my heart

(you all get that, I'm sure). But the sheer amount of work is daunting

sometimes!! I have to fight for what " me " time I get. Having special kids has

affected my life in so many ways...my spirituality, my emotional maturity, my

physical self (I'm fighting for that one!), my social life (sigh). But I am

simply not " more capable " of handling this than anyone else...

Ugh.

My pet peeve.

My least least least favorite-- " oh, you're so lucky...you have a baby who will

never grow up and leave you! " .

Right after was born, the geneticist's assistant was telling me about a

work program she worked in during college. She said " the people in the group

were just so cute! " . Cute. She was talking about adults. Groan.

Sent from my iPhone

My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people " because I

know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's special and not

me)

Sherry

[Guest guest]

Well - so let me let the guilt in. This w/e Elie is coming home for his

monthly visit. I , however, will not be here for the very first time. HE

will be alone with Dad. Not a bad thing but still I feel guilty - and

already missing my boy. BUT _ I have an opportunity to go on a sisters w/e

with my only sister for the very first time since we were girls going to

girl scout camp together. I am leaving tomorrow and will return on Monday.

Elie comes home on Fri and will leave on Sunday.

I am going - no matter the little pity party- . We are going to a rented

house a friend has high up in the mountains near Asheville, NC (higher than

I am). So looking forward to this.

>

>

> Yep.

>

> The one about God not giving people more than they can handle is also a way

> for the person saying it to not feel the need to offer help, compassion.

> Because clearly, we can handle this. Sometimes, on a really bad day, I'll

> come back with " I handle it because there's no one else and I have to! " .

> Ugh.

>

> It's not that I don't love my " special " kids -- I totally do, with all my

> heart (you all get that, I'm sure). But the sheer amount of work is daunting

> sometimes!! I have to fight for what " me " time I get. Having special kids

> has affected my life in so many ways...my spirituality, my emotional

> maturity, my physical self (I'm fighting for that one!), my social life

> (sigh). But I am simply not " more capable " of handling this than anyone

> else...

>

> Ugh.

>

> My pet peeve.

>

> My least least least favorite-- " oh, you're so lucky...you have a baby who

> will never grow up and leave you! " .

>

> Right after was born, the geneticist's assistant was telling me

> about a work program she worked in during college. She said " the people in

> the group were just so cute! " . Cute. She was talking about adults. Groan.

>

>

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 12:32 PM, " gldcst "

<gldcst@...<gldcst%40comcast.net>>

> wrote:

>

> My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people "

> because I know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's

> special and not me)

> Sherry

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Leave the guilt at home!!!! You need this.

Sent from my iPhone

Well - so let me let the guilt in. This w/e Elie is coming home for his

monthly visit. I , however, will not be here for the very first time. HE

will be alone with Dad. Not a bad thing but still I feel guilty - and

already missing my boy. BUT _ I have an opportunity to go on a sisters w/e

with my only sister for the very first time since we were girls going to

girl scout camp together. I am leaving tomorrow and will return on Monday.

Elie comes home on Fri and will leave on Sunday.

I am going - no matter the little pity party- . We are going to a rented

house a friend has high up in the mountains near Asheville, NC (higher than

I am). So looking forward to this.

>

>

> Yep.

>

> The one about God not giving people more than they can handle is also a way

> for the person saying it to not feel the need to offer help, compassion.

> Because clearly, we can handle this. Sometimes, on a really bad day, I'll

> come back with " I handle it because there's no one else and I have to! " .

> Ugh.

>

> It's not that I don't love my " special " kids -- I totally do, with all my

> heart (you all get that, I'm sure). But the sheer amount of work is daunting

> sometimes!! I have to fight for what " me " time I get. Having special kids

> has affected my life in so many ways...my spirituality, my emotional

> maturity, my physical self (I'm fighting for that one!), my social life

> (sigh). But I am simply not " more capable " of handling this than anyone

> else...

>

> Ugh.

>

> My pet peeve.

>

> My least least least favorite-- " oh, you're so lucky...you have a baby who

> will never grow up and leave you! " .

>

> Right after was born, the geneticist's assistant was telling me

> about a work program she worked in during college. She said " the people in

> the group were just so cute! " . Cute. She was talking about adults. Groan.

>

>

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 12:32 PM, " gldcst "

<gldcst@...<gldcst%40comcast.net>>

> wrote:

>

> My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people "

> because I know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's

> special and not me)

> Sherry

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sara,

Wishing you a wonderful sister weekend. Elie be ok and if not Dad will fix it.

Charlyne

Mom to Zeb 17 DS

>

> My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people "

> because I know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's

> special and not me)

> Sherry

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sounds great Sara! You go and have a great time. You have plenty more weekends

with the boys!

Hugs!

Hollyl

Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

Well - so let me let the guilt in. This w/e Elie is coming home for his

monthly visit. I , however, will not be here for the very first time. HE

will be alone with Dad. Not a bad thing but still I feel guilty - and

already missing my boy. BUT _ I have an opportunity to go on a sisters w/e

with my only sister for the very first time since we were girls going to

girl scout camp together. I am leaving tomorrow and will return on Monday.

Elie comes home on Fri and will leave on Sunday.

I am going - no matter the little pity party- . We are going to a rented

house a friend has high up in the mountains near Asheville, NC (higher than

I am). So looking forward to this.

>

>

> Yep.

>

> The one about God not giving people more than they can handle is also a way

> for the person saying it to not feel the need to offer help, compassion.

> Because clearly, we can handle this. Sometimes, on a really bad day, I'll

> come back with " I handle it because there's no one else and I have to! " .

> Ugh.

>

> It's not that I don't love my " special " kids -- I totally do, with all my

> heart (you all get that, I'm sure). But the sheer amount of work is daunting

> sometimes!! I have to fight for what " me " time I get. Having special kids

> has affected my life in so many ways...my spirituality, my emotional

> maturity, my physical self (I'm fighting for that one!), my social life

> (sigh). But I am simply not " more capable " of handling this than anyone

> else...

>

> Ugh.

>

> My pet peeve.

>

> My least least least favorite-- " oh, you're so lucky...you have a baby who

> will never grow up and leave you! " .

>

> Right after was born, the geneticist's assistant was telling me

> about a work program she worked in during college. She said " the people in

> the group were just so cute! " . Cute. She was talking about adults. Groan.

>

>

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 12:32 PM, " gldcst "

<gldcst@...<gldcst%40comcast.net>>

> wrote:

>

> My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people "

> because I know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's

> special and not me)

> Sherry

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey, no guilt allowed WOMAN!!!!!!! GOOD for you!!! Sounds like a

blast!!!! HAVE FUN!

Donna

> Well - so let me let the guilt in. This w/e Elie is coming home for his

> monthly visit. I , however, will not be here for the very first time. HE

> will be alone with Dad. Not a bad thing but still I feel guilty - and

> already missing my boy. BUT _ I have an opportunity to go on a sisters w/e

> with my only sister for the very first time since we were girls going to

> girl scout camp together. I am leaving tomorrow and will return on Monday.

> Elie comes home on Fri and will leave on Sunday.

>

> I am going - no matter the little pity party- . We are going to a rented

> house a friend has high up in the mountains near Asheville, NC (higher than

> I am). So looking forward to this.

>

>

>

> >

> >

> > Yep.

> >

> > The one about God not giving people more than they can handle is also a way

> > for the person saying it to not feel the need to offer help, compassion.

> > Because clearly, we can handle this. Sometimes, on a really bad day, I'll

> > come back with " I handle it because there's no one else and I have to! " .

> > Ugh.

> >

> > It's not that I don't love my " special " kids -- I totally do, with all my

> > heart (you all get that, I'm sure). But the sheer amount of work is daunting

> > sometimes!! I have to fight for what " me " time I get. Having special kids

> > has affected my life in so many ways...my spirituality, my emotional

> > maturity, my physical self (I'm fighting for that one!), my social life

> > (sigh). But I am simply not " more capable " of handling this than anyone

> > else...

> >

> > Ugh.

> >

> > My pet peeve.

> >

> > My least least least favorite-- " oh, you're so lucky...you have a baby who

> > will never grow up and leave you! " .

> >

> > Right after was born, the geneticist's assistant was telling me

> > about a work program she worked in during college. She said " the people in

> > the group were just so cute! " . Cute. She was talking about adults. Groan.

> >

> >

> >

> > Sent from my iPhone

> >

> > On Jun 30, 2010, at 12:32 PM, " gldcst "

<gldcst@...<gldcst%40comcast.net>>

> > wrote:

> >

> > My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people "

> > because I know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's

> > special and not me)

> > Sherry

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

And I thought only my sister could come up with the " baby forever " line....at

the time Drew was not even a week old & after hearing that all I could think

about was " my life is over " . Thanks, Sis.

Whenever anyone gives me the " God " line, I want to hit them. But I restrain

myself, because more than half the time it is my Mom.

Gerry

________________________________

To: " " < >

Sent: Wed, June 30, 2010 12:35:48 PM

Subject: Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

Yep.

The one about God not giving people more than they can handle is also a way for

the person saying it to not feel the need to offer help, compassion. Because

clearly, we can handle this. Sometimes, on a really bad day, I'll come back

with " I handle it because there's no one else and I have to! " . Ugh.

It's not that I don't love my " special " kids -- I totally do, with all my heart

(you all get that, I'm sure). But the sheer amount of work is daunting

sometimes!! I have to fight for what " me " time I get. Having special kids has

affected my life in so many ways...my spirituality, my emotional maturity, my

physical self (I'm fighting for that one!), my social life (sigh). But I am

simply not " more capable " of handling this than anyone else...

Ugh.

My pet peeve.

My least least least favorite-- " oh, you're so lucky...you have a baby who will

never grow up and leave you! " .

Right after was born, the geneticist's assistant was telling me about a

work program she worked in during college. She said " the people in the group

were just so cute! " . Cute. She was talking about adults. Groan.

Sent from my iPhone

My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people " because I

know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's special and not

me)

Sherry

[Guest guest]

GO....and ENJOY YOURSELF! Your husband/Elie will survive, & the best part, you

will come home more APPRECIATED than ever, by both of them.

I lived in NC for 4 years, and loved, loved, loved Asheville. Rented cabins

there every year....you will think you are in heaven.

Gerry

________________________________

To:

Sent: Wed, June 30, 2010 12:40:42 PM

Subject: Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

Well - so let me let the guilt in. This w/e Elie is coming home for his

monthly visit. I , however, will not be here for the very first time. HE

will be alone with Dad. Not a bad thing but still I feel guilty - and

already missing my boy. BUT _ I have an opportunity to go on a sisters w/e

with my only sister for the very first time since we were girls going to

girl scout camp together. I am leaving tomorrow and will return on Monday.

Elie comes home on Fri and will leave on Sunday.

I am going - no matter the little pity party- . We are going to a rented

house a friend has high up in the mountains near Asheville, NC (higher than

I am). So looking forward to this.

>

>

> Yep.

>

> The one about God not giving people more than they can handle is also a way

> for the person saying it to not feel the need to offer help, compassion.

> Because clearly, we can handle this. Sometimes, on a really bad day, I'll

> come back with " I handle it because there's no one else and I have to! " .

> Ugh.

>

> It's not that I don't love my " special " kids -- I totally do, with all my

> heart (you all get that, I'm sure). But the sheer amount of work is daunting

> sometimes!! I have to fight for what " me " time I get. Having special kids

> has affected my life in so many ways...my spirituality, my emotional

> maturity, my physical self (I'm fighting for that one!), my social life

> (sigh). But I am simply not " more capable " of handling this than anyone

> else...

>

> Ugh.

>

> My pet peeve.

>

> My least least least favorite-- " oh, you're so lucky...you have a baby who

> will never grow up and leave you! " .

>

> Right after was born, the geneticist's assistant was telling me

> about a work program she worked in during college. She said " the people in

> the group were just so cute! " . Cute. She was talking about adults. Groan.

>

>

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 12:32 PM, " gldcst "

><gldcst@...<gldcst%40comcast.net>>

> wrote:

>

> My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people "

> because I know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's

> special and not me)

> Sherry

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

We are going to be in Waynesville - but I hear it is really nice. Wanted to

move to Asheville before we found the place in GA. GEORGIA is MUCH les

expensive and the mountains here are very nice. But I will enjoy

Waynesville as a visitor.

On Wed, Jun 30, 2010 at 2:58 PM, Gerry Anne Meyer

wrote:

>

>

>

>

> GO....and ENJOY YOURSELF! Your husband/Elie will survive, & the best part,

> you

> will come home more APPRECIATED than ever, by both of them.

>

> I lived in NC for 4 years, and loved, loved, loved Asheville. Rented cabins

>

> there every year....you will think you are in heaven.

>

> Gerry

>

> ________________________________

> From: Sara Cohen <pastmidvale@... <pastmidvale%40gmail.com>>

> To:

> Sent: Wed, June 30, 2010 12:40:42 PM

> Subject: Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

>

> Well - so let me let the guilt in. This w/e Elie is coming home for his

> monthly visit. I , however, will not be here for the very first time. HE

> will be alone with Dad. Not a bad thing but still I feel guilty - and

> already missing my boy. BUT _ I have an opportunity to go on a sisters w/e

> with my only sister for the very first time since we were girls going to

> girl scout camp together. I am leaving tomorrow and will return on Monday.

> Elie comes home on Fri and will leave on Sunday.

>

> I am going - no matter the little pity party- . We are going to a rented

> house a friend has high up in the mountains near Asheville, NC (higher than

> I am). So looking forward to this.

>

> On Wed, Jun 30, 2010 at 1:35 PM, Cookson

<macookson@...<macookson%40yahoo.com>>

> wrote:

>

> >

> >

> > Yep.

> >

> > The one about God not giving people more than they can handle is also a

> way

> > for the person saying it to not feel the need to offer help, compassion.

> > Because clearly, we can handle this. Sometimes, on a really bad day, I'll

> > come back with " I handle it because there's no one else and I have to! " .

> > Ugh.

> >

> > It's not that I don't love my " special " kids -- I totally do, with all my

> > heart (you all get that, I'm sure). But the sheer amount of work is

> daunting

> > sometimes!! I have to fight for what " me " time I get. Having special kids

> > has affected my life in so many ways...my spirituality, my emotional

> > maturity, my physical self (I'm fighting for that one!), my social life

> > (sigh). But I am simply not " more capable " of handling this than anyone

> > else...

> >

> > Ugh.

> >

> > My pet peeve.

> >

> > My least least least favorite-- " oh, you're so lucky...you have a baby who

> > will never grow up and leave you! " .

> >

> > Right after was born, the geneticist's assistant was telling me

> > about a work program she worked in during college. She said " the people

> in

> > the group were just so cute! " . Cute. She was talking about adults. Groan.

> >

> >

> >

> > Sent from my iPhone

> >

> > On Jun 30, 2010, at 12:32 PM, " gldcst "

> ><gldcst@... <gldcst%40comcast.net><gldcst%40comcast.net>>

> > wrote:

> >

> > My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people "

> > because I know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one

> who's

> > special and not me)

> > Sherry

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

" he WILL learn to listen just like the other kids have to " ..... our last speech

therapist

" what's wrong with him? "

" you had more kids? "

" I thought usually only happened to older mother's "

" maybe it's a demon? "

To:

From: macookson@...

Date: Wed, 30 Jun 2010 10:13:32 -0700

Subject: Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

" give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

" I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

" you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

" God never gives you more than you can handle. "

" How do you do it? "

Sigh.

Sent from my iPhone

Some of my favorites:

You people are just angels!

I don't know how you do it!

Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live with

THAT!!

If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week and I

thought I would die.

[Guest guest]

I've kinda gotten to the point where most things people say go in one ear and

out the rest

after hearing things like this...

 

" My aunt has one like that. She just keeps it at home... "

 

and especially this one-

 

" I could never be the kind of mother to bring a child like this

into the world to suffer... "

 

Thus, I bring Aubrey into the world even more aggressively and work even

harder to break barriers...

 

These people just fueled me.

 

Desi

ps and just in case anyone's wondering, my daughter's not suffering! She's been

taught

to express her discontent with assertiveness and dignity, and this mother

removes anyone from her life that does not treat her with the respect she

deserves, even if it's " family... "

[Guest guest]

You show 'em all, Desi!!!!! You totally rock!!

Geez. Suffer schmuffer.

Sent from my iPhone

I've kinda gotten to the point where most things people say go in one ear and

out the rest

after hearing things like this...

" My aunt has one like that. She just keeps it at home... "

and especially this one-

" I could never be the kind of mother to bring a child like this

into the world to suffer... "

Thus, I bring Aubrey into the world even more aggressively and work even

harder to break barriers...

These people just fueled me.

Desi

ps and just in case anyone's wondering, my daughter's not suffering! She's been

taught

to express her discontent with assertiveness and dignity, and this mother

removes anyone from her life that does not treat her with the respect she

deserves, even if it's " family... "

[Guest guest]

I got the " why did you have more? " --about . He was such a stinker! We

didn't know about the (mild) Asperger until this year...

Sent from my iPhone

" he WILL learn to listen just like the other kids have to " ..... our last speech

therapist

" what's wrong with him? "

" you had more kids? "

" I thought usually only happened to older mother's "

" maybe it's a demon? "

To:

From: macookson@...

Date: Wed, 30 Jun 2010 10:13:32 -0700

Subject: Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

" give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

" I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

" you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

" God never gives you more than you can handle. "

" How do you do it? "

Sigh.

Sent from my iPhone

Some of my favorites:

You people are just angels!

I don't know how you do it!

Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live with

THAT!!

If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week and I

thought I would die.

[Guest guest]

Ok, this is very interesting to me, as a person who tries to avoid

saying stupid things. So what would you PREFER for people to say?

Xxx,

Jen

> " give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

>

> " I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

>

> " you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

>

> " God never gives you more than you can handle. "

>

> " How do you do it? "

>

> Sigh.

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 10:17 AM, Sara Cohen

> wrote:

>

> Some of my favorites:

>

> You people are just angels!

>

> I don't know how you do it!

>

> Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

>

> I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live

> with

> THAT!!

>

> If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

>

> Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

>

> A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

>

> I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week

> and I

> thought I would die.

>

>

[Guest guest]

" what a great kid! "

" what a happy family "

" I bet he keeps you on your toes "

" I bet you are learning some life lessons "

" Can I keep him for a few hours while you rest? "

" can I pick something up from the grocery store for you? "

" Can I babysit while you and your husband go to a movie? "

........

Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

Ok, this is very interesting to me, as a person who tries to avoid

saying stupid things. So what would you PREFER for people to say?

Xxx,

Jen

> " give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

>

> " I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

>

> " you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

>

> " God never gives you more than you can handle. "

>

> " How do you do it? "

>

> Sigh.

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 10:17 AM, Sara Cohen

> wrote:

>

> Some of my favorites:

>

> You people are just angels!

>

> I don't know how you do it!

>

> Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

>

> I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live

> with

> THAT!!

>

> If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

>

> Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

>

> A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

>

> I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week

> and I

> thought I would die.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes I second that ...Desi has " fueled me " from her " fueling " experiences!!

annie

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What beautiful eyes Elie has. And he gives the best hugs.

On Wed, Jun 30, 2010 at 3:55 PM, Wetter Grundulis <

jenniferwetter@...> wrote:

>

>

> Ok, this is very interesting to me, as a person who tries to avoid

> saying stupid things. So what would you PREFER for people to say?

>

> Xxx,

> Jen

>

>

> On 30 Jun 2010, at 06:13 p.m., Cookson

<macookson@...<macookson%40yahoo.com>>

> wrote:

>

> > " give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

> >

> > " I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

> >

> > " you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

> >

> > " God never gives you more than you can handle. "

> >

> > " How do you do it? "

> >

> > Sigh.

> >

> > Sent from my iPhone

> >

> > On Jun 30, 2010, at 10:17 AM, Sara Cohen

<pastmidvale@...<pastmidvale%40gmail.com>>

>

> > wrote:

> >

> > Some of my favorites:

> >

> > You people are just angels!

> >

> > I don't know how you do it!

> >

> > Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

> >

> > I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live

> > with

> > THAT!!

> >

> > If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

> >

> > Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

> >

> > A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

> >

> > I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week

> > and I

> > thought I would die.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

---Your son is so cute.

---He seems to be athletic! (Wes is so active and good with playing

ball....someone recently said he has athletic gifts and I should get him into

soccer.....that made me feel so good.))

---He is so smart.

To:

From: hdgiglio@...

Date: Wed, 30 Jun 2010 16:11:45 -0400

Subject: Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

" what a great kid! "

" what a happy family "

" I bet he keeps you on your toes "

" I bet you are learning some life lessons "

" Can I keep him for a few hours while you rest? "

" can I pick something up from the grocery store for you? "

" Can I babysit while you and your husband go to a movie? "

........

Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

Ok, this is very interesting to me, as a person who tries to avoid

saying stupid things. So what would you PREFER for people to say?

Xxx,

Jen

> " give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

>

> " I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

>

> " you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

>

> " God never gives you more than you can handle. "

>

> " How do you do it? "

>

> Sigh.

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 10:17 AM, Sara Cohen

> wrote:

>

> Some of my favorites:

>

> You people are just angels!

>

> I don't know how you do it!

>

> Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

>

> I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live

> with

> THAT!!

>

> If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

>

> Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

>

> A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

>

> I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week

> and I

> thought I would die.

>

>

[Guest guest]

" Maybe its a demon " wins as stupidest comment. Can't top that! We must be lucky

because most people seem to want to go out of their way to be accepting or to be

nice, even if they're a little awkward. I don't mind when kids stare and I get

to explain Darwyn is different but likes chocolate ice cream just like them. I

don't even mind when adults stare a bit. Let's face it Darwyn stands out in a

crowd (not that he likes crowds of course) and without him we'd be a very

forgettable family.

I always feel sorry for people who comment that at least we'll never be alone.

They must at their core be very lonely people. Sometimes I ask them if they're

lonely.

I guess I like it when people say " hi " and smile. And many many people comment

that they have a cousin or brother or etc with Down Syndrome. I've even had

other mom's tell me about babies they had to give up due to cultural family

pressures, late term miscarriages, and awhile back I wrote about the mom who

told me about her abortion. I always imagine that older women who watch us might

have been from the generation that was convinced to give up children with DS. I

like when Darwyn helps me get past a generic playground conversation about the

weather and get straight to something more heartfelt. And I always immediately

bring up autism and try to teach people something. Many people I love have said

stupid things, but they mostly balance it out by being decent people.

Mom to Darwyn (6) DS ASD

, Canada

Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

" give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

" I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

" you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

" God never gives you more than you can handle. "

" How do you do it? "

Sigh.

Sent from my iPhone

Some of my favorites:

You people are just angels!

I don't know how you do it!

Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live with

THAT!!

If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week and I

thought I would die.

[Guest guest]

When comparing my " typical " kids to Angie, I have had FIL say, " they won't be

like angie and take forever to do things "

>

> My alltime favorite is " God only gives these kids to special people " because I

know they are thinking (And I'm sooooo glad you're the one who's special and not

me)

> Sherry

>

>

[Guest guest]

I always appreciate it when someone just treats him like any other typical

child. Surely there is something that someone can see about him that is good

and just normal. Like, he has beautiful blue eyes because he does.....very

bright and blue. Or he is built like a line backer.....because he is. Or, he

plays really well with his little brother....because he does(usually). I can

understand how people say what they do because I probably did the same and maybe

I still do in some sense. I am just more aware now that people are people and I

hope to see each individual person as unique with lots of great qualities. I

understand now that raising children can bring a lot of challenges in so many

different ways. My 24 year old son has been very creative for us as well as

our 21 year old daughter. I have learned to NEVER think or say that my child

would never turn out like that or do that because I have lived long enough to

know that is an absurd thought. My 13 year old with DS and autism is very

challenging just in different ways. NO ONE can know what we all go thru until

they live it. At first, I really let people's comments get to me but I think I

have let that all go. Although, I am sure I can still be shocked. I can get so

exhausted tho that my patience is thin and then I may handle it differently.

Recently someone made me aware of something. A person can not be angry and

happy at the same time........you have to choose. I can not be angry and at

peace at the same time...... I have to choose. I can be filled with resentment

and bitterness or with forgiveness and joy. I keep reminding myself to choose

wisely. It's not worth the wrinkles and gray hair!

To:

From: jenniferwetter@...

Date: Wed, 30 Jun 2010 20:55:07 +0100

Subject: Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

Ok, this is very interesting to me, as a person who tries to avoid

saying stupid things. So what would you PREFER for people to say?

Xxx,

Jen

> " give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

>

> " I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

>

> " you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

>

> " God never gives you more than you can handle. "

>

> " How do you do it? "

>

> Sigh.

>

> Sent from my iPhone

>

> On Jun 30, 2010, at 10:17 AM, Sara Cohen

> wrote:

>

> Some of my favorites:

>

> You people are just angels!

>

> I don't know how you do it!

>

> Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

>

> I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live

> with

> THAT!!

>

> If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

>

> Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

>

> A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

>

> I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week

> and I

> thought I would die.

>

>

[Guest guest]

My family is very small. They haven't said many stupid things but can be

clueless. Like the time DH and my dad were walking through a parking lot with

(3 at the time and still a relatively new walker). DH tipped the cart of

apples he was pushing so let go of 's hand, thinking my dad had him. My

dad also let go, because he thought would stay put. walked behind

a car that was backing up--I saw this (I'd gone up ahead with my other sons and

daughter) and screamed, running. The car stopped. Whew. My dad was amazed

that would do that. Like I said, clueless!

Sent from my iPhone

" Maybe its a demon " wins as stupidest comment. Can't top that! We must be lucky

because most people seem to want to go out of their way to be accepting or to be

nice, even if they're a little awkward. I don't mind when kids stare and I get

to explain Darwyn is different but likes chocolate ice cream just like them. I

don't even mind when adults stare a bit. Let's face it Darwyn stands out in a

crowd (not that he likes crowds of course) and without him we'd be a very

forgettable family.

I always feel sorry for people who comment that at least we'll never be alone.

They must at their core be very lonely people. Sometimes I ask them if they're

lonely.

I guess I like it when people say " hi " and smile. And many many people comment

that they have a cousin or brother or etc with Down Syndrome. I've even had

other mom's tell me about babies they had to give up due to cultural family

pressures, late term miscarriages, and awhile back I wrote about the mom who

told me about her abortion. I always imagine that older women who watch us might

have been from the generation that was convinced to give up children with DS. I

like when Darwyn helps me get past a generic playground conversation about the

weather and get straight to something more heartfelt. And I always immediately

bring up autism and try to teach people something. Many people I love have said

stupid things, but they mostly balance it out by being decent people.

Mom to Darwyn (6) DS ASD

, Canada

Re: Stupid things people say to be nice.

" give him 2 weeks with me and he'll stop acting like that! "

" I would never put up with that crap from one of mine! "

" you have so much patience! I could never do what you do! "

" God never gives you more than you can handle. "

" How do you do it? "

Sigh.

Sent from my iPhone

Some of my favorites:

You people are just angels!

I don't know how you do it!

Why not send him XXXXXXXXX so you can have a life?

I bet you could give him to the state - after all, no one can live with

THAT!!

If he were my kid, he wouldn't act like that.

Don't you know hoe to discipline that brat?

A good swift smack and he would stop XXXX.

I know JUST how you feel - after all my son skipped school last week and I

thought I would die.