AMY

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We used a seat with handles which fit over the regular toilet and a

footstool so Elie was able to walk up and sit by himself.

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> Hi Lyn

> My son Asher is 4 and a very heavy wetter also... especially at nap and

> bedtime. What we do that has helped quite a bit is a diaper liner pad inside

> the diaper and a larger sized youth diaper over the top of both the diaper

> that fits well with the pad inside. We still have leaks but not nearly as

> severe as they used to be. He used to wake up with soaked pj's from his

> chest to his knees, through his sleeper onto his sheet. Now when he has

> leaks it's usually only a smaller area around his waist or inner thighs that

> gets wet and it rarely even soaks through to his sleeper. It get expensive

> using two diapers and an incontinence pad at every nap and bedtime but he

> sleeps better and it saves alot of laundry.

> We have had to put toilet training on the back burner for now since we have

> a new baby and I can't sit with Asher in the bathroom every 30 min or every

> hour right now. He was doing pretty well before I went into the hospital to

> have the baby but became very resistant to it at that point and regressed.

> We decided to wait a while before making the commitment to start again. One

> of our problems is that he is too big for a potty seat now and he is afraid

> of the toilet. Our apartment is small and most of the bigger commode type

> potty chairs are quite large.

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> > This group has been instrumental in helping with serious dilemas in the

> past so I am again asking for your wonderful wealth of experience and

> knowledge to please help me in this current issue dealing with my son

> Josiah. He is 12 1/2 yrs. old and has known how to go potty since age 2 1/2

> yrs. He fully understands what he should do, but does not tell me (clearly

> enough) when he needs to go. He has his own ways of showing that he is

> needing to go such as he will lay bent over face down on the floor (which he

> also does any number of times throughout the day- not needing to go potty),

> because his signals are non-verbal, I am sure I do miss them at times. I

> have taught him a sign gesture for " toilet " , which he does use sometimes but

> again it is non-auditory so unless I am looking right at him when he signs I

> don't know. He has a 'talker' which has the pic of a potty, he used this

> fairly well for about a year when we first got the talker (age 6) but has

> not and will not use it at all since. The biggggg problem I am having is

> that when he does go pee in his diaper- because he can and does hold urine

> for extreme amounts of time- when he goes- HE GOES!! He soaks a diaper plus

> a Supreme absorbancy incontinence pad goes through plastic pants and soaks

> his pants and leaves a lake (not a puddle) on the carpet/chair/floor, etc.

> where ever he happens to be sitting. This is becoming an extreme stress to

> take him anywhere for fear of a gigantic accident happening. What on earth

> am I to do to get this undercontrol?? It is as if in his mind he thinks- the

> diaper always worked before (didn't leak) so it should be fine for him to go

> pee in it now. Only it DOES NOT work anymore!!! I have explained repeatedly

> to him that he is a big boy now and he can NOT pee-pee in his pants. But as

> long as the diaper is there, it is as if he thinks he can , so he does. I

> have thought of changing to pull-ups but still there would be the

> resemblance of diapers in feel and action. If I were to put him in regular

> underwear- OH MY GOSH- what would I be dealing with should he go pee in

> THEM!!?!?!? This same situation happened to me with my (normal development)

> daughter when she was two yrs.- as long as she had the pullups on she would

> pee in them. After one terrible pee incident wearing new regular panties-

> she got the clear understanding that underwear were not to pee in! Do any of

> you have any experience with taking away diapers/pull-ups and how a child

> with this level of disability responds/reacts to regular underwear use? I

> guess you can hear the trepidation in my 'voice' for stepping out in to the

> unknown here.

> > Thanks for any input you can offer.

> > Lyn

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