Guest guest Posted August 27, 2004 Report Share Posted August 27, 2004 Is is good to reward the child with their OCD issue? Those things are the only things which DO motivate, but it doesn't seem like it would be helpful to conquer the problem of OCD. What does the HFA stand for, Chris? If he's obsessed with spending too much time on all this and avoiding all other things each day, setting aside some " reward " time to work with his " collection " might be an idea. Well, I have questions but no answers! Keep us updated on things! single mom, 3 sons , 15, with OCD, dysgraphia and HFA/Aspergers > > and , > > Thank you both for your support and the ideas . I will definitely try to explain it to him that way. Unfortunately, we are just starting to treat his OCD with this social worker who is the only one I have found so far that is covered that has any experience treating OCD. My son doesn't understand OCD at all despite my trying to explain it to him. He is at the stage where he tries telling people when he gets in trouble that he has OCD and he can't help it. OCD doesn't make him hit his brother. That is just sibling stuff. Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2004 Report Share Posted August 28, 2004 Wow, that makes a lot of sense. I feel like, with this group, I've learned more in one week than in 3 months of therapy! One of the few things that really works to reward our son is computer time. . . but I can see him OCDing on that! It's hard for him to disengage and he sneaks around to get on when he shouldn't. So am I creating a bigger monster by rewarding him this way? But nothing else works! One of his struggles is depression and he is interested in few things (when a year or more ago, he had interests galore!) BTW, does depression go with OCD or is that a separate issue? I'm so glad I no longer stand alone, Re: Need Help Hi , HFA is for high-functioning autism. I have a habit of typing HFA/Aspergers for , as I felt he fits Aspergers Syndrome (AS) and the evaluator felt he fitted HFA better, all based on our difference of opinion on what age his language difficulties began. (confusing, yes) Anyway, just a habit of my typing that. Regarding the OCD and rewarding - well, this is just my opinion on this subject since we are talking about his collecting/hoarding things. Collecting, to me, is good for a child's interests but, as we all know, when OCD takes it to excess or hoarding, it's a battle. I think, too, it can be hard to distinguish at times between OCD obsession/hoarding and just a strong interest/hobby. This is said due to each of my 3 sons all going through phases of rock collecting, different card collecting (baseball, Pokemon, Yu-gi-oh...), pencils, small rubber balls....the list goes on. Anyway, I think limiting the collection, like fitting into an album or shoebox, etc., and limiting the times allowed (reward) might help in this area (if as I asked the time is excessive, teary when told to stop/put up, etc.). If there are other, more minor OCD areas that can be worked on first and some success is gained there, the collecting can be worked on at a later point if the collecting is one of the " big " OCD issues. Also, with success against OCD in the more seemingly minor areas, it can help build up a child's esteem & determination to win against the other OCD issues. By " minor " I mean the least-anxiety causing O's and C's. Even rewarding the effort against fighting OCD, successful or not, can help a child keep up the battle (and I mean you can see the effort put forth); their spending less time on a compulsion or obsession can be rewarded also. Does any of that make sense? All my opinion, and you know your child best. > Is is good to reward the child with their OCD issue? Those things are the only things which DO motivate, but it doesn't seem like it would be helpful to conquer the problem of OCD. > > What does the HFA stand for, Chris? > > If he's obsessed with spending too much time on all this and avoiding > all other things each day, setting aside some " reward " time to work > with his " collection " might be an idea. > > Well, I have questions but no answers! Keep us updated on things! > > > single mom, 3 sons > , 15, with OCD, dysgraphia and HFA/Aspergers Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2004 Report Share Posted August 29, 2004 Depression can happen when perfectionistic goals are not met... but I don't know if that is a factor of age or not. Your child can not change his OCD tendencies. Just remember that. So channeling the tendencies into positive and productive situations will be best. I find that I have become quite smart because I OD (overdoit) on reading and research. I have also become talented in many things because I just keep doing things over and over again. Perfectionism can be a good thing you know. And repetition, or shall we say practice makes perfect! Re: Need Help Hi , HFA is for high-functioning autism. I have a habit of typing HFA/Aspergers for , as I felt he fits Aspergers Syndrome (AS) and the evaluator felt he fitted HFA better, all based on our difference of opinion on what age his language difficulties began. (confusing, yes) Anyway, just a habit of my typing that. Regarding the OCD and rewarding - well, this is just my opinion on this subject since we are talking about his collecting/hoarding things. Collecting, to me, is good for a child's interests but, as we all know, when OCD takes it to excess or hoarding, it's a battle. I think, too, it can be hard to distinguish at times between OCD obsession/hoarding and just a strong interest/hobby. This is said due to each of my 3 sons all going through phases of rock collecting, different card collecting (baseball, Pokemon, Yu-gi-oh...), pencils, small rubber balls....the list goes on. Anyway, I think limiting the collection, like fitting into an album or shoebox, etc., and limiting the times allowed (reward) might help in this area (if as I asked the time is excessive, teary when told to stop/put up, etc.). If there are other, more minor OCD areas that can be worked on first and some success is gained there, the collecting can be worked on at a later point if the collecting is one of the " big " OCD issues. Also, with success against OCD in the more seemingly minor areas, it can help build up a child's esteem & determination to win against the other OCD issues. By " minor " I mean the least-anxiety causing O's and C's. Even rewarding the effort against fighting OCD, successful or not, can help a child keep up the battle (and I mean you can see the effort put forth); their spending less time on a compulsion or obsession can be rewarded also. Does any of that make sense? All my opinion, and you know your child best. > Is is good to reward the child with their OCD issue? Those things are the only things which DO motivate, but it doesn't seem like it would be helpful to conquer the problem of OCD. > > What does the HFA stand for, Chris? > > If he's obsessed with spending too much time on all this and avoiding > all other things each day, setting aside some " reward " time to work > with his " collection " might be an idea. > > Well, I have questions but no answers! Keep us updated on things! > > > single mom, 3 sons > , 15, with OCD, dysgraphia and HFA/Aspergers Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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