Guest guest Posted July 13, 2009 Report Share Posted July 13, 2009 Oh, Laurie! I am so sorry Mic is having a rough night...and you are getting the brunt (literally) of it. Please-both of you be safe. Hoping you all get through the night and tomorrow will be abit less traumatic. Liz " Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can understand persistence. " - Hal Borland Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2009 Report Share Posted July 13, 2009 Laurie, my heart aches for you and your son because I have had episodes with my son being out of control. The last time freaked on me, there was nothing I could to redirect him, calm him, keep him in his room...nothing...and it lasted hours! I was emotionally exhausted, felt like a failure as a mom because I could not do anything to fix the situation. After 2-3 hours of that nonsense, he finally calmed down and we both cried and hugged.... I will say a pray for you both that you find a solution or resources that you can use to get help. It was ok that you vented - you needed to release emotion and share your fear. Janet ( 18 y/o) Mic HELP!!!! Geez we were doin so good, now tonite hes absolutely out of control, I wanted him to come back in the house for bath time and he started hitting and shoving me. Man this crap scares me Ill have bruises by morning I got so mad I picked him up and forced him back in the house, I probably hurt my back doin it. Hes thinks its a big joke, now if Dad was home hed never do that. He continued to slap me. He wouldnt go in his time out chair nothin, I locked the doors so he cant go back outside and cried. Whay the heck!!!!!! Im hoping its just regression from new buss back to school stuff........ Im so mad Im shaking AND I KNOW HE CANT HELP IT BUT, I CANT EVEN REROUTE HIM..........IM NOT REALLY MAD AT HIM IM SCARED!!!!! HES GETTIN SO BIG!!!!!! SORRY NEEDED TO VENT!!!!!!!! _________________________________________________________________ HotmailR has ever-growing storage! Don't worry about storage limits. http://windowslive.com/Tutorial/Hotmail/Storage?ocid=TXT_TAGLM_WL_HM_Tutoria l_Storage_062009 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2009 Report Share Posted July 13, 2009 Are you ready to take a time out so YOU can re-group? HE can't get out, so you need a good book, a TV show, something so you can still keep an eye out, but act as if you are ignoring him. In our house the ignor is we sit down with a book after telling Elie to let us know when he is ready to....(what ever we need done). Of course this is what does now - tell him what he needs to do, go or whatever, If he refuses to cooperate, ignor him but don;t give in. You could use an enhancer - When you are ready to take a bath, pick up your clothes, etc, THEN we can watch your movie, eat ice cream, etc. But don;t give in on what he has to do. Ever so tiring. But the last thing you want is to get in a pitched battle because you can't win those. > > Geez we were doin so good, now tonite hes absolutely out of control, I > wanted him to come back in the house for bath time and he started hitting > and shoving me. Man this crap scares me Ill have bruises by morning I got so > mad I picked him up and forced him back in the house, I probably hurt my > back doin it. Hes thinks its a big joke, now if Dad was home hed never do > that. He continued to slap me. He wouldnt go in his time out chair nothin, I > locked the doors so he cant go back outside and cried. Whay the heck!!!!!! > Im hoping its just regression from new buss back to school stuff........ Im > so mad Im shaking AND I KNOW HE CANT HELP IT BUT, I CANT EVEN REROUTE > HIM..........IM NOT REALLY MAD AT HIM IM SCARED!!!!! HES GETTIN SO BIG!!!!!! > SORRY NEEDED TO VENT!!!!!!!! > _________________________________________________________________ > Hotmail® has ever-growing storage! Don’t worry about storage limits. > > http://windowslive.com/Tutorial/Hotmail/Storage?ocid=TXT_TAGLM_WL_HM_Tutorial_St\ orage_062009 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2009 Report Share Posted July 13, 2009 laurie, many hugs! vent away! Does time out really work with our kids? Im interested in that poll. I tried it briefly when nathan was younger to no avail. We jus stuck with redirecting to another activity. If it really got bad we would and continue to this day, we take something very important to him away, like his dvd's or pizza etc, and send him to bed. takes naps most days after work and if he doesn't like today, uuugh, he was yelling about the xbox games and ofcourse anytime he is mad brings up food items insisting he is hungry. Luckily he doesn't ever hit us, I am unsure how to help in that area, occasionally nathan will try to hit his little brother, but his brother is way taller than him over the last year so hasn't tried in awhile, and I always let them figure it out, I just told nic to let nathan know it hurts, if he has to just hit him back to see how crappy it feels, but they are brothers and I would never tell an adult to hit a child or even cadone it. Anyways after his tantrum today I sent him to bed told him to go take his " happy nappy " then we would see about a snack after supper. he went to his room, slammed the door ofcourse,lol, and fell asleep, yaaaa. woke him up and hour later for supper and he is one happy camper. shawna May all your life's ups and downs be with a needle and thread. http://sewshawna.blogspot.com -------------------------------------------------- Sent: Monday, July 13, 2009 6:48 PM To: < > Subject: Mic HELP!!!! > > Geez we were doin so good, now tonite hes absolutely out of control, I > wanted him to come back in the house for bath time and he started hitting > and shoving me. Man this crap scares me Ill have bruises by morning I got > so mad I picked him up and forced him back in the house, I probably hurt > my back doin it. Hes thinks its a big joke, now if Dad was home hed never > do that. He continued to slap me. He wouldnt go in his time out chair > nothin, I locked the doors so he cant go back outside and cried. Whay the > heck!!!!!! Im hoping its just regression from new buss back to school > stuff........ Im so mad Im shaking AND I KNOW HE CANT HELP IT BUT, I CANT > EVEN REROUTE HIM..........IM NOT REALLY MAD AT HIM IM SCARED!!!!! HES > GETTIN SO BIG!!!!!! SORRY NEEDED TO VENT!!!!!!!! > _________________________________________________________________ > Hotmail® has ever-growing storage! Don't worry about storage limits. > http://windowslive.com/Tutorial/Hotmail/Storage?ocid=TXT_TAGLM_WL_HM_Tutorial_St\ orage_062009 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2009 Report Share Posted July 13, 2009 we have also done this behavior training since nathan was school aged. " first this (pick up toys) then this(video) " start small, jut one little item even if its just one toy, for the first lesson, and ALWAYS follow through with reward. s school also used this ploy and it worked wonders!! They started very small just one peg in the board or one color etc, then he would get to choose " break or work " ofcourse he always chose break, lol. and it was set up with a timer, and when that went off he had to work again, he became very good working with this routine, can get a good 30min some days during class. now at work they don’t have any problems keeping him on task, he loves it at the workshop, but I don’t let him work full time during the school year. shawna May all your life's ups and downs be with a needle and thread. http://sewshawna.blogspot.com From: Sara Cohen Sent: Monday, July 13, 2009 9:22 PM To: Subject: Re: Mic HELP!!!! Are you ready to take a time out so YOU can re-group? HE can't get out, so you need a good book, a TV show, something so you can still keep an eye out, but act as if you are ignoring him. In our house the ignor is we sit down with a book after telling Elie to let us know when he is ready to....(what ever we need done). Of course this is what does now - tell him what he needs to do, go or whatever, If he refuses to cooperate, ignor him but don;t give in. You could use an enhancer - When you are ready to take a bath, pick up your clothes, etc, THEN we can watch your movie, eat ice cream, etc. But don;t give in on what he has to do. Ever so tiring. But the last thing you want is to get in a pitched battle because you can't win those. > > Geez we were doin so good, now tonite hes absolutely out of control, I > wanted him to come back in the house for bath time and he started hitting > and shoving me. Man this crap scares me Ill have bruises by morning I got so > mad I picked him up and forced him back in the house, I probably hurt my > back doin it. Hes thinks its a big joke, now if Dad was home hed never do > that. He continued to slap me. He wouldnt go in his time out chair nothin, I > locked the doors so he cant go back outside and cried. Whay the heck!!!!!! > Im hoping its just regression from new buss back to school stuff........ Im > so mad Im shaking AND I KNOW HE CANT HELP IT BUT, I CANT EVEN REROUTE > HIM..........IM NOT REALLY MAD AT HIM IM SCARED!!!!! HES GETTIN SO BIG!!!!!! > SORRY NEEDED TO VENT!!!!!!!! > __________________________________________________________ > Hotmail® has ever-growing storage! Don’t worry about storage limits. > > http://windowslive.com/Tutorial/Hotmail/Storage?ocid=TXT_TAGLM_WL_HM_Tutorial_St\ orage_062009 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Hope you're having a better day, Monday's are usually one of those you never know what kind of day one ends up and back to reality like with school, then gotta have it his way. Irma,20,DS/ASD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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