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June 26, 2008

My 49 yr old brother comittted suiside this morning and he was all I had left.

IM so numb his name was I namws Mic adter him he drank a quset of anti

freeze and Im so hurt.

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June 26, 2008

Oh Laurie! I am truly so sad for your loss! Wish I was there with you to give

you a big hug. You are really having some tough times but I know you will get

through it. Hang in there. I will be thinking about you.

Holly

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June 26, 2008

Hi Laurie,

I am so sorry for your loss. You will stay strong and get through this tragedy.

Charlyne

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IM so numb his name was I namws Mic adter him he drank a quset of anti

freeze and Im so hurt.

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June 26, 2008

Laurie, so sorry to hear about your brother. Hang in there. Be strong for Mic.

Becky

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My 49 yr old brother comittted suiside this morning and he was all I had left.

IM so numb his name was I namws Mic adter him he drank a quset of anti

freeze and Im so hurt.

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June 26, 2008

laurie, Dear I imagine this is truely the worst day of your

life.Afterall you said he was all you had left.I know that is feels

that way and it will for awhile but try not to dwell on that.I know

that it is not the same loveto have the love of friends as having the

love of family.Even though I cannot share your exact pain I do know

that a lost of a family memeber is not easy. I lost my mother 6 years

ago and I feel so alone to. She was my best friend and really the only

one I could confide in. I have a brother that did not bother to come to

see mother before she died. I do not talk to him. My sister and I

became closer because of mothers passing but I still feel alone.It is

not easy to face suicide and to wonder how things could get bad enough

that a person would take their own life.To imagine that someone of our

own flesh in blood would not come to us and talk about their

pain.Whatever you do do not blame yourself for you cannot change the

action of others. I am somewhat profectic and have premonitions of

things in my life before they happen. However I dreamed that I had

cancer and died when in reality my mother is the one that got cancer

and died. I was mad at myself for not being able to save her life.If

only I had known that she was going to get cancer with early

intervention I could have saved her from death. When I was young I save

her from a car wreck that I had a dreamed about but I did not get a 2nd

chance at saving her.Even though it is hard to imagine remember that

whatever burden your brother was carrying he can now be at peace with

this.No more worries.Remember he did not do this to hurt you but he

must have been hurting in a way he just could not explain. My thoughts

and prayers are with you Laurie. Cyndi B

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> My 49 yr old brother comittted suiside this morning and he was all I

had left. IM so numb his name was I namws Mic adter him he

drank a quset of anti freeze and Im so hurt.

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June 26, 2008

Dearest Laurie,

Sending you love and understandings of your pain and grief.

Please reach out for as long as needed.

I just wish I could hold you.

Love from one who truly knows what it is to lose an only & beloved

sibling in this way,

Kris

June 27, 2008

I am so very sorry for your loss. Many hugs! Will keep you in my thoughts and

prayers. shawna

June 27, 2008

Hi Laurie,

I am so very sorry for your loss. But remember he wasn't all you had left,

you have Mic. Be strong, I know it must be very hard. Thinking of you.

Viola

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left. IM so numb his name was I namws Mic adter him he drank a quset of

anti freeze and Im so hurt.

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June 27, 2008

Oh, Laurie! I am so sorry. Please know we are here for you. Stay strong for

Mic.

Liz

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June 27, 2008

Oh Laurie,

I am really sorry about your brother. I can't imagine what you are going

through but can only lend you support and virtual hugs. I wish one of us was

close to you to help you out right now - you've really been having a tough time

and I'm thinking of you. Please know we are all here for you - just reach out

and we'll be here.

I know you must be experiencing so many feelings right now and it probably has

opened up all those feelings from when your Mom died.

Just make sure you don't keep it all in - talk to us, your counselor, friends...

Know we are here. Lots of hugs Laurie. Hold Mic tight!

Jayne

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June 27, 2008

Laurie, you are in my prayers and thoughts as you go through this terrible

and sad journey! Hug Mic real tight!

Tina

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Oh Laurie,

I am really sorry about your brother. I can't imagine what you are going

through but can only lend you support and virtual hugs. I wish one of us

was close to you to help you out right now - you've really been having a

tough time and I'm thinking of you. Please know we are all here for you -

just reach out and we'll be here.

I know you must be experiencing so many feelings right now and it probably

has opened up all those feelings from when your Mom died.

Just make sure you don't keep it all in - talk to us, your counselor,

friends...

Know we are here. Lots of hugs Laurie. Hold Mic tight!

Jayne

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June 27, 2008

>

> My 49 yr old brother comittted suiside this morning and he was all I

had left. IM so numb his name was I namws Mic adter him he

drank a quset of anti freeze and Im so hurt.

Laurie, sorry to hear about your brother. Did he have any kids?

I know this is never easy when one goes through this road of losing a

love one.

Cherish those beautiful moments y'all had together.

How I have learn to cope which helped me during these moments.

Daily, made the choice to master this grief than let it master me.

TIME is a healer. If you don't run from the pain of your grief, time

will provide opportunity to work through it.

Healing will come...in time.

May you find peace and comfort and strength for the days ahead.

Thoughts and prayers & hugs!

God Bless,

Irma

June 27, 2008

Laurie, I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my

prayers. Terry Re: helpTo:

> Hi Laurie,> I am so sorry for your loss. You will

stay strong and get > through this tragedy. > Charlyne> > laurie drago wrote:

> > My 49 yr old brother comittted suiside this morning and he was > all

I had left. IM so numb his name was I namws Mic > adter him he drank a

quset of anti freeze and Im so hurt.>

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June 27, 2008

Laaurie - I am so sorry. I know you are hurting from the loss.

On Thu, Jun 26, 2008 at 10:29 PM, laurie drago

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> My 49 yr old brother comittted suiside this morning and he was all I had

> left. IM so numb his name was I namws Mic adter him he drank a quset

> of anti freeze and Im so hurt.

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September 16, 2009

: I am Liz, Mom to Tori who is 9 1/2 and is going thru the P word

as well. This can definitely affect their behaviors because their bodies

are changing and they don't understand why. Is your son on any meds?

Liz

>

> I am writing to seek some help with some behavioral problems that my son

> has been having at school. He is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with

> Autism and Down syndrome. We just found out at the most recent doctor visit

> that he is starting puberty. Here are the behavioral issues we are having:

> His teachers comment that he is " Dr Jekyll & Mr. Hyde " . He is biting at

> school, hitting others and becoming very aggressive and then the next minute

> he is very sweet and loving. He was never this way before. He was happy go

> lucky and went with the flow of things. We have tried behavior charts (i.e.

> you get a happy face for no hitting, biting, etc and then you get….). This

> is not working. We are wondering if anyone else on this site has experienced

> the same problems and what did you do to help resolve the issues. We would

> appreciate any ideas to help with this situation.

>

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understand persistence. " - Hal Borland

September 16, 2009

Hi ,

I'm Jayne - Mom to , 10 1/2 and in the early stages of puberty too.

is known as Dr. J/Mr. H at school too! That's how we describe the

swing between behaviors and then being totally sweet and kind. Like Margaret

mentioned, I would start with the body - is he healthy, is he tired, is he

hungry, how are his ears, gerd, you get the idea - head to toe, rule it all out.

Then look at the school environment - what is going on before the behavior

changes, is someone getting too close, is something new, transitions, etc...

Usually if you start picking the day apart after you picked him apart head to

toe - there are usually a few ideas of things that could be setting him off.

As far as smiley faces for a reward - could care less about that. Take

a look at the things that he loves to do at school - is there a job he loves to

do, a swinging break, a sensory break - jumping on a mini tramp, taking a walk

outside or around the school - playing a game with a peer. Find something he

loves and use that as your incentive. We use a photo album with pictures of

, his dog, his family, his brother and sister, etc.. things he loves. He

gets to look at the photo album and that's a great motivator for him. He also

gets lots of sensory breaks to swing, jump, take a walk, etc...

I'm also a big believer in using the first/then approach for things that may not

go over well. So if he has to do something you know might trigger a negative

response, find something you know he likes and make time for that after the

" yucky " thing. ie: " First we have to do this math page, then we can go take a

walk down to the fish tank and look at the fish. " Something like that!

Does he have a sensory diet in place? Does he get OT? I would try some heavy

work activities too. The school should be consulting with OT for some ideas.

Also, does he have a visual schedule to help him with the transitions throughout

the day? If he's having trouble transitioning and this is when the behaviors

are shining through - a visual schedule could easily fix that. If he knows

what's next - he'll be far more willing to do the activity. Especially if he

can see when the stuff he likes is going to happen.

Hope that helps,

Jayne

www.wickedbusymomto3.wordpress.com

>

> I am writing to seek some help with some behavioral problems that my son has

been having at school. He is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with Autism

and Down syndrome. We just found out at the most recent doctor visit that he is

starting puberty. Here are the behavioral issues we are having: His teachers

comment that he is " Dr Jekyll & Mr. Hyde " . He is biting at school, hitting

others and becoming very aggressive and then the next minute he is very sweet

and loving. He was never this way before. He was happy go lucky and went with

the flow of things. We have tried behavior charts (i.e. you get a happy face

for no hitting, biting, etc and then you get….). This is not working. We are

wondering if anyone else on this site has experienced the same problems and what

did you do to help resolve the issues. We would appreciate any ideas to help

with this situation.

>

September 16, 2009

, my son went through a number of years as " Jekyl and Hyde " . He is

now 19. I discovered over the years that when he pinched, knocked things

off tables, screamed, etc. that he was experiencing pain. He just couldn't

tell or show anyone, so he acted out. A year ago, I found he experiences

acid reflux and now takes omeprazole daily for it. Last year an OT from

which he was receiving services referred my son to their in-house orthopedic

doctor who suggested orthodics for his shoes. has extremely high

arches and this really calls for orthodics to provide arch support and

general foot support. Within a week, that kid was a need person (relatively

speaking). Don't know if this will be of help to you, but thought I would

share.

Janet

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Of jplante2000

Sent: Wednesday, September 16, 2009 2:53 PM

To:

Subject: HELP

I am writing to seek some help with some behavioral problems that my son has

been having at school. He is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with Autism

and Down syndrome. We just found out at the most recent doctor visit that he

is starting puberty. Here are the behavioral issues we are having: His

teachers comment that he is " Dr Jekyll & Mr. Hyde " . He is biting at school,

hitting others and becoming very aggressive and then the next minute he is

very sweet and loving. He was never this way before. He was happy go lucky

and went with the flow of things. We have tried behavior charts (i.e. you

get a happy face for no hitting, biting, etc and then you get..). This is

not working. We are wondering if anyone else on this site has experienced

the same problems and what did you do to help resolve the issues. We would

appreciate any ideas to help with this situation.

September 16, 2009

Elie, now 24, also went thru a " HELL " period from age 10 to about 19. Drugs

were tried and did nothing notable except for Benedryl so sthat he slept at

least 6 hrs a night (prior was 4-6 hours a WEEK). But what helped most was

a school psychologist and teachers and his parents (us) sitting together to

craft a behavior plan with very clear contingetnswhich WE ALL followed to

the letter. We didn;t get this help until he was 16 and I was crazed over

his behavior - needless to say, so was his school and anyone he chose to

knock over, rooms he could destroy or play his flop and drop. Elie never

bit anyone (he puts nothing in his mouth that he doesn't consider food), but

he sure did black some teacher's eyes and got one big tough NASTY teacher's

aid square in the solar plexus.

On Wed, Sep 16, 2009 at 10:27 PM, Janet

wrote:

>

> , my son went through a number of years as " Jekyl and Hyde " . He is

> now 19. I discovered over the years that when he pinched, knocked things

> off tables, screamed, etc. that he was experiencing pain. He just couldn't

> tell or show anyone, so he acted out. A year ago, I found he experiences

> acid reflux and now takes omeprazole daily for it. Last year an OT from

> which he was receiving services referred my son to their in-house

> orthopedic

> doctor who suggested orthodics for his shoes. has extremely high

> arches and this really calls for orthodics to provide arch support and

> general foot support. Within a week, that kid was a need person (relatively

> speaking). Don't know if this will be of help to you, but thought I would

> share.

>

> Janet

>

> From: [mailto:

> ] On Behalf

> Of jplante2000

> Sent: Wednesday, September 16, 2009 2:53 PM

> To:

> Subject: HELP

>

> I am writing to seek some help with some behavioral problems that my son

> has

> been having at school. He is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with

> Autism

> and Down syndrome. We just found out at the most recent doctor visit that

> he

> is starting puberty. Here are the behavioral issues we are having: His

> teachers comment that he is " Dr Jekyll & Mr. Hyde " . He is biting at school,

> hitting others and becoming very aggressive and then the next minute he is

> very sweet and loving. He was never this way before. He was happy go lucky

> and went with the flow of things. We have tried behavior charts (i.e. you

> get a happy face for no hitting, biting, etc and then you get..). This is

> not working. We are wondering if anyone else on this site has experienced

> the same problems and what did you do to help resolve the issues. We would

> appreciate any ideas to help with this situation.

>

September 16, 2009

,

Have you considered requesting an FBA or FAA evaluation and from there a

BIP generated to address the behaviors?

Mg

September 16, 2009

Sounds a lot like my eleven year old daughter with similar diagnosis. Will share

Behavioral Support Plan if u email me off list @ desimckenzie@....

Desi McKenzie

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