Group Support

March 26, 2008

<<Sara, and group I feel so fortunate that you guys are supporting

me.Thanks for everyones kinds words, and posts.>>

I hate to be the bearer of bad news and I do not plan to expand on this topic

further thereby turning it into some sort of debate but the fact of the matter

is that not ALL members of this group are quite so supportive and not all

members of this group wish to have our group aligned with Dr. Phil or Larry

King. What you choose to do as an individual is just that. I hope you get all

the help you want Cyndi.

Sherry

March 26, 2008

I just wanted to thank the people who have supported me.Didn't we

joint this group for support? Why did someone have to let me know

that they do not support me. My mom said if you cannot say something

nice then don't say it. If that affends others because I wanted to

thank the people who said " nice " things about me and the fact I am

trying to get our children with this very differently dual dg more

help well, I guess I do not understand. Why did someone would

object.Object to more doors being open to us, more resources,is that

not what we all want? More help? Yes everyone has a right to their

opinion and I have read about all the negative messages I care to

read on Dr. Phil's website. I know what I am about. I am a loving

mother who needs help and I took a stand to get it. Sorry if that

offended someone. Cyndi B

>

> Wait a minute! It's ok for you to be honest with your feelings

but not ok

> for everyone else to be? Just because someone doesn't agree with

what you did

> does not mean they are stabbing you in the back.

>

> Carol

> Trishasmom

>

> In a message dated 3/26/2008 6:08:51 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> cynthiamiltonburns@... writes:

>

> Thanks for letting me know.I will take the knife out of my back

now.I

> as well hope you get help to. Cyndi B

> >

> > <<Sara, and group I feel so fortunate that you guys are

supporting

> > me.Thanks for everyones kinds words, and posts.>>

> >

> > I hate to be the bearer of bad news and I do not plan to expand

on

> this topic further thereby turning it into some sort of debate but

the

> fact of the matter is that not ALL members of this group are quite

so

> supportive and not all members of this group wish to have our

group

> aligned with Dr. Phil or Larry King. What you choose to do as an

> individual is just that. I hope you get all the help you want

Cyndi.

> > Sherry

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

> >

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March 26, 2008

My mom said if you cannot say something

nice then don't say it.

Not exactly how I wanted to come out of lurkdom but:

I was taught to not say something often was seen as agreement.? I think the

poster meant that , while we are here to be supportive of each other, it does

not mean we must agree.

I do support you in your quest for help, I will be here to be a shoulder to cry

on or offer thoughts when asked or share information.

However, I would not ever support someone's decision to abort.? So, I for one

had a hard time with references to abortion.? That is a black and white issue

for me and I do not believe in it under any circumstances.? I do not wish to

debate that as I know how heated that can get.? I feel that type of comment and

what others may have seen on the show could make a young pregnant mother think

twice now about bringing her pregnancy to term.? That pains me, to think someone

may feel their daughter or son has no value.? I gave birth to a child with

syndrome.? He has value.? I adopted a baby with Downs syndrome and

autism.? She has value.? I understand the struggles you go through.? But I could

never support a decision to abort. It is not said in a judgmental way, just

matter of fact.? We disagree, period.

That said, I , one hundred percent, support the desire for help and bringing our

struggles to the forefront.? If we did not love our children so much we would

not bother.? Therefore, to me, that means that our children do have value.? I

have tried several times to log onto Dr. Phil to put some of those folks in

their place who bashed the show.? Most could not walk in our shoes for a day,

let alone a lifetime. I shall continue to do so, because I do support you.? I

believe most here support you in that way , in your daily struggles, but do not

wish to have others associate this list with some of the comments you made.?

That is not back stabbing but a continuation of the sharing we do on this board.

?Blessings,

homeschooling Mom to AJ (13), (9), ^l^, (6,

Trisomy 18 mosaic AKA 's syndrome) and Birgitta (age 4, adoption finalized

2/1/05 !!, Trisomy 21 AKA Down's Syndrome, Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, Autism, SID)

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