Re: If you have any good thoughts you could send....

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!

Oh MY......

God bless you, dear lady. What stress.....I can't imagine.

Good thoughts...and more importantly...prayers....are being sent up for

you.

Maralee

**** If you have any good thoughts

****you could send....

****

****

****Would anyone who is so inclined please think good thoughts

****for and I

****tomorrow at 3:00 p.m. CST?

****

**** has an appointment with Juvenile Court Services then

****and I am totally

****terrified of what may happen.

****

****On Memorial Day he had a really bad OCD attack at the hotel

****where his sister

****works and he lost it. He was trying to fix my sunglasses

****(the lense fell

****out and we were headed out of town to a Ren Fest.) He

****tried to fix it with

****the fingernail cleaner on his clippers and when he couldn't started

****obsessing - got frustrated - more obsessing and finally

****began cussing. His

****sister asked him to leave - I asked him to leave. When I

****finally got him

****headed out of the building a group of men that were sitting

****in the breakfast

****area decided that they could handle him better than I

****could. I tried to

****explain to them that he has TS and OCD and that I could

****handle it but they

****kept coming and just lost it. On the way out of the

****building he

****lashed out in frustration at a garbage can next to the

****front door of the

****hotel anf broke the lid. When I got to the Ren Fest I got

****a call from my

****daughter that the boss had called the police. We talked

****with them that

****afternoon about him paying restitution for the garbage can

****lid (anywhere

****from $90 -120) and told them that he was paying it out of

****his paper route

****checks and he was losing his pool pass as well. (with

****paying for the lid

****there was no money for the pass) Although it was obvious

****to anyone who saw

****his incident at the hotel that he was obsessing and lost it out of

****frustration - I am still unsure as to how things are going

****to go. I have

****no way of knowing what was said to the police (he didn't

****get the ticket

****until June 12th as the officer was out ill). I know his

****sister is very zero

****tolerance -she once threatened to leave him on the highway

****during an out of

****town trip due to his obsessing about being overheated. I

****love my daughter

****but I don't have to agree with her view of things.

****

****We do have a letter from his therapist that reads " To

****Whom it May Concern:

**** is being treated for a history of Attention

****Deficit Hyperactivity

****Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It has been

****difficult to

****obtain control over his impulsiveness. I believe that his

****impulsiveness

****contributed to his anger and distructive actions on

****5-31-04. He met with

****Dr. M on 6-7-04 and his medication was increased. He has

****had better control

****since that change was made. I ask that the juvenile court

****take this into

****consideration. Thank you. MS ACSW LISW " I am not sure

****how much this

****will help. The juvenile court and department of human

****services seem to

****think that most if not all of 's behaviors are

****intentional and

****therefore should be treated as such.

****

****Any good thoughts you might be able to send our way for

****things going well

****tomorrow would be very much appreciated. I know that I

****have not written in

****way too long. So much is going on in our lives right now

****that I am about to

****pull all my hair out. Not only are we dealing with this

****but on June 10th my

****landlord called to let me know that he is selling the house

****that we have

****been living in for nearly 14 years (July 15 it will be

****fourteen years) He

****has asked me to have the house ready to have the realtor

****see it by June

****30th. There is no way that is going to happen. My

****daughter is pregnant and

****advised by the doctor (high risk pregnancy) not to lift .

**** helps some

****but not enough. I have tried to do it all but reinjured my

****back (ruptured

****disk between last lumbar vertebrae and pelvic girdle

****lifting furniture so

****that we could shampoo the carpets. The damage this time is

****so bad that my

****legs are numb from the mid thight down. I have been told

****by the doctor to

****limit my working hours - to not lift more than 2 lbs. and

****to depend on

****others to get the house ready as if I don't I may very

****well wind up in the

****hospital for surgery. I asked for my fulltime hours back

****(as there is more

****than enough to keep me busy for that length of time and

****they have just hired

****two new part time resident counselors.) When I went in to

****work today -

****after being flat on my back yesterday due to the injury and

****not being able

****to walk - I was told I was being written up for being

****absent too much in the

****past three months. Twice a month is all that I have been

****gone - all the

****times have been for migraines so bad I couldn't drive. I

****have even walked

****to work (over two miles and once in the rain) when the

****brakes went out in my

****car. ( I am not excusing my absences but there are other

****staff that have

****been gone significantly more often than I have - one for

****over a week for a

****migraine) I was also told that my kids call the site too

****often (probably

****true but I always try to get them off the phone as quickly

****as possible) and

****that I am too " depressed " and that I am not putting the

****site in a good

****light - that I should just put aside my problems for the

****time that I am at

****work. (kinda hard to do when I am not even sure that we

****will have a roof

****over our heads in a week and we have been going on the

****groceries I bought

****the first week of the month - no money to buy any more.

****Our utilities are

****overdue and I am at my wits end. I don't make enough to

****pay off the

****utilities - save for deposits and new rent while already

****paying rent on this

****house. We have had less than 25$ since the 9th. Today my

****daughter tells me

****that she has gotten notice that if she does not pay child

****support for her

****two children that live with their dad by the end of the

****month she will be

****considered in contempt of court and sent to jail. She has

****no job - has been

****looking hard for over a year with no luck - and I have no

****money to help her.

**** I am sooooo overwhelmed.

****

****Sorry for the rant. I think I have just about handled as

****much as I can. I

****try to be self sufficient and all this happening at once is

****just taking more

****out of me than I can deal with right now.

****

****If any of you can manage some good thoughts - thank you. I

****appreciate it

****more than you know.

****

****hugs

****

****steph

****

****

****

****

****

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>!

>Oh MY......

>God bless you, dear lady. What stress.....I can't imagine.

>Good thoughts...and more importantly...prayers....are being sent up for

>you.

>Maralee

>

Maralee

Thanks for the reply and for the thoughts and prayers. I know that I don't

post nearly often enough - perhaps my explanation of what has been going on

explains why I have been so lax.

Things have not all been bad though. Just before school got out had

his IEP meeting. The school psychologist - an expert in autism and

asperger's - decided that although doesn't have a concrete diagnosis

of asperger's that she believed he does show enough characteristics for her

to treat his IEP as such. Too bad she got a job elsewhere for next year.

But at least has a good IEP until June of 2005.

Again thank you so very much. Just knowing that someone out there cares

means more to me than you know.

Steph

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(((((((((((((!)))))))))))))))))))

Hugs!

maralee

**** RE: If you have any good

****thoughts you could send....

****

****

****

****>!

****>Oh MY......

****>God bless you, dear lady. What stress.....I can't imagine. Good

****>thoughts...and more importantly...prayers....are being

****sent up for you.

****>Maralee

****>

****

****Maralee

****

****Thanks for the reply and for the thoughts and prayers. I

****know that I don't

****post nearly often enough - perhaps my explanation of what

****has been going on

****explains why I have been so lax.

****

****Things have not all been bad though. Just before school

****got out had

****his IEP meeting. The school psychologist - an expert in autism and

****asperger's - decided that although doesn't have a

****concrete diagnosis

****of asperger's that she believed he does show enough

****characteristics for her

****to treat his IEP as such. Too bad she got a job elsewhere

****for next year.

****But at least has a good IEP until June of 2005.

****

****Again thank you so very much. Just knowing that someone

****out there cares

****means more to me than you know.

****

****Steph

****

****

****

****

****

[Guest guest]

Dear Steph,

Rant all you want. Just know that Heartfelt prayers are going out to you right now.

{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}

Dawn .....Mom of 4

If you have any good thoughts you could send....

Would anyone who is so inclined please think good thoughts for and I tomorrow at 3:00 p.m. CST? has an appointment with Juvenile Court Services then and I am totally terrified of what may happen.On Memorial Day he had a really bad OCD attack at the hotel where his sister works and he lost it. He was trying to fix my sunglasses (the lense fell out and we were headed out of town to a Ren Fest.) He tried to fix it with the fingernail cleaner on his clippers and when he couldn't started obsessing - got frustrated - more obsessing and finally began cussing. His sister asked him to leave - I asked him to leave. When I finally got him headed out of the building a group of men that were sitting in the breakfast area decided that they could handle him better than I could. I tried to explain to them that he has TS and OCD and that I could handle it but they kept coming and just lost it. On the way out of the building he lashed out in frustration at a garbage can next to the front door of the hotel anf broke the lid. When I got to the Ren Fest I got a call from my daughter that the boss had called the police. We talked with them that afternoon about him paying restitution for the garbage can lid (anywhere from $90 -120) and told them that he was paying it out of his paper route checks and he was losing his pool pass as well. (with paying for the lid there was no money for the pass) Although it was obvious to anyone who saw his incident at the hotel that he was obsessing and lost it out of frustration - I am still unsure as to how things are going to go. I have no way of knowing what was said to the police (he didn't get the ticket until June 12th as the officer was out ill). I know his sister is very zero tolerance -she once threatened to leave him on the highway during an out of town trip due to his obsessing about being overheated. I love my daughter but I don't have to agree with her view of things.We do have a letter from his therapist that reads " To Whom it May Concern: is being treated for a history of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It has been difficult to obtain control over his impulsiveness. I believe that his impulsiveness contributed to his anger and distructive actions on 5-31-04. He met with Dr. M on 6-7-04 and his medication was increased. He has had better control since that change was made. I ask that the juvenile court take this into consideration. Thank you. MS ACSW LISW" I am not sure how much this will help. The juvenile court and department of human services seem to think that most if not all of 's behaviors are intentional and therefore should be treated as such.Any good thoughts you might be able to send our way for things going well tomorrow would be very much appreciated. I know that I have not written in way too long. So much is going on in our lives right now that I am about to pull all my hair out. Not only are we dealing with this but on June 10th my landlord called to let me know that he is selling the house that we have been living in for nearly 14 years (July 15 it will be fourteen years) He has asked me to have the house ready to have the realtor see it by June 30th. There is no way that is going to happen. My daughter is pregnant and advised by the doctor (high risk pregnancy) not to lift . helps some but not enough. I have tried to do it all but reinjured my back (ruptured disk between last lumbar vertebrae and pelvic girdle lifting furniture so that we could shampoo the carpets. The damage this time is so bad that my legs are numb from the mid thight down. I have been told by the doctor to limit my working hours - to not lift more than 2 lbs. and to depend on others to get the house ready as if I don't I may very well wind up in the hospital for surgery. I asked for my fulltime hours back (as there is more than enough to keep me busy for that length of time and they have just hired two new part time resident counselors.) When I went in to work today - after being flat on my back yesterday due to the injury and not being able to walk - I was told I was being written up for being absent too much in the past three months. Twice a month is all that I have been gone - all the times have been for migraines so bad I couldn't drive. I have even walked to work (over two miles and once in the rain) when the brakes went out in my car. ( I am not excusing my absences but there are other staff that have been gone significantly more often than I have - one for over a week for a migraine) I was also told that my kids call the site too often (probably true but I always try to get them off the phone as quickly as possible) and that I am too "depressed" and that I am not putting the site in a good light - that I should just put aside my problems for the time that I am at work. (kinda hard to do when I am not even sure that we will have a roof over our heads in a week and we have been going on the groceries I bought the first week of the month - no money to buy any more. Our utilities are overdue and I am at my wits end. I don't make enough to pay off the utilities - save for deposits and new rent while already paying rent on this house. We have had less than 25$ since the 9th. Today my daughter tells me that she has gotten notice that if she does not pay child support for her two children that live with their dad by the end of the month she will be considered in contempt of court and sent to jail. She has no job - has been looking hard for over a year with no luck - and I have no money to help her. I am sooooo overwhelmed.Sorry for the rant. I think I have just about handled as much as I can. I try to be self sufficient and all this happening at once is just taking more out of me than I can deal with right now.If any of you can manage some good thoughts - thank you. I appreciate it more than you know.hugssteph

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(((STEPH))))

Will most definetly be sending 'positive' thoughts your way today and

in the weeks that follow.

Been in the same situation with my son over the last 6 months

(incident at school... police filed charges after seeing a video tape

the school made of his meltdown). His way 4th degree assault to a

school staff (he grabbed her wrist when she threatened to call 911)

and we plead down to 5th degree, 20 hours community service and 6

months probation.

Its not an easy situation... just dealing with my son's

emotions 'getting through' court was enough to make me crazy. Felt

as if 'any' moment he was going to let the anxiety get away. But he

did fine..... and refused to plead 'innocent' because he says " I did

do something...and I know it was wrong " .

Breathe......... lots. Take the rest of your situation one day at

a time. You have any friends, relative etc that can help you pack?

Pack party.... most will be more than willing to lend a hand if you

ask I'm sure.

hang in there Steph... one step.. one day.

DES