counsellor; was: AW: violence; was: AW: AW: Very tasty person?

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Dear Candace

You wrote

> Gesendet: Freitag, 18. Januar 2002 19:53

> Thank you for this.

Not thank me, thank yourself. It is Your power to open Your eyes and

take a new glimps and see a new situation. My words are only my

words, nothing else. And You found Your sence in it.

> Only this morning I have been doing the work on some of

> my stories about being a counsellor.

I found it a wonderful job being a counsellor. My clients mostly

brought me into my material and guided me to be first a attentive

counsellor for me.

>

> Since I've been doing the Work I have noticed my thoughts

> of helping, changing, giving advice etc. etc. are causing

> me such pain. I have been having a lot of discomfort/stress

> when I am with my clients.

It seems to me I know that too :-))

>

> So many of my stories about what a counsellor " should " be

> are based on the idea that there is something to be fixed

> .....something to be changed and the idea that I know

> something or have something to give them.

Isn't that a good idea? There sits a client. Because he/she made him-

/herself to a client she/he knows there is something to be fixed or

to be changed in her/his life. And You? You know much and You give

much. But You know too it is the clients concern to take this

knowledge in his/hers heart. And You give Your beeing in one room

with her/him. You are a hearer, a listener, that is great. Needs it

the words? In silence can spring the spark from heart to heart. I

found the less knowledge I had the better it was sparkling :-)

> I love what you said about it being pure fantasy to think

> that I know what someone else needs and yes it does feel

> like violence.

today I can say that in terms of The Work. And I knew it as a child,

poor parents, poor teachers.

>

> I'm in a strange place right now in my work and just last

> night I shared with a friend that I no longer know what it

> means to " be a counsellor " .

Oh, might be that You are on the way to become a great counsellor!

> I have this sense that my " job " is to just show up and be

> there in the space of love, understanding and compassion.

Big words >love, understanding and compassion<. Are there smaller

ones? Easier to handle ones? Like attention, not blaming, sympathy. I

beg You, for a time please to keep Your love, understanding and

compassion first for You.

> My stories are undoing.

The power is with You

Gruß

Jans

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