Guest guest Posted July 17, 2009 Report Share Posted July 17, 2009 Hi - I am so sorry that the OCD is so strong now. That is so difficult. Have you already learned about OCD therapy, called Exposure and Ritual Prevention? The challenge for us as parents, is to understand that it is not defient behavior - it is OCD. But that they can learn to control it with the correct therapist. It's not your daughter that is having this behavior - it is her illness. It isn't easy to understand. Your husband may need therapy himself, to understand how to parent this child for the next few months - it is really critical that he understand what is going on, so that you can both help her. If you have not already found an EPR therapist, let us know, and we can recommend ways to find one. You might start at the OCD Foundations website, www.ocfoundation.org. Have you already read books such as What to do when your Child has OCD: Strategies and Solutions - by Aureen Pinto Wagner? You may want to ask your husband to read this as well, or to leave the house during the bedtime hours. There are also some wonderful places around the country, where she could go for intensive therapy, if that is what would be best for her. But I'd find an ERP therapist first. My heart goes out to you - let us know how you are doing. Best - in NC > > Donna, My 13 yr old daughter does the same to me at bedtime. Total defiance of any bed-time rule. She says she cannot go to sleep if she is anxious and she is always anxious. I give her benadryl to knock her out around 10:30 which sometimes works and sometimes doesn't. She lashes out with physical violence, throwing things, and abusive words towards me. My husband works 5 nights a week and on the nights he is here he cannot contain his temper with her defiant behavior. I try to calm them both down but things usually escalate to my husband dragging her into bed screaming and crying. I feel like my family is disintegrating before my eyes. My husband tells me I set no boundaries for her. I do, but she refuses to comply. Just to get her to shower once every 5 days is an all day chore. I am so exhausted most nights I just let her fall asleep with the TV on. She stays up till 2 AM most nights because she is afraid of bad dreams. We are in OCD hell here. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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