Guest guest Posted February 19, 2009 Report Share Posted February 19, 2009 Hi my name is Barb and I am new to the group and wanted to introduce myself. I am a mother of three and married for 18 years. My 10 year old son who is the baby of the family has anxiety and ocd. I myself have the same. I sometimes blame myself for this happening to my son and it is very hard to see him suffer. I have not yet been able to find a child therapist that specializes in these disorders to help him. In the past we had seen a doctor which he was the one that had said that he had at that time ocd tendencies and severe anxiety. But since then I havent been able to find anyone that can help him other then just your standard therapist. It is very hard with our insurance to find quality help especially for children with this. Does anyone know what a parent can do in this type of situation? Any advice would be a blessing. Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2009 Report Share Posted February 19, 2009 Hi, Barb. Welcome to the group. It's easy to feel guilty and to blame. But, honestly that doesn't help anything. (((you))) I know, because I've been there. I felt responsible for our son's anxiety/OCD for years, because I had multiple serious health problems that affected him horribly when he was young. These were things that were out of my control, yet he was still affected by them. So, I felt guilt for something that I couldn't change and had no control over. I found it's better to concentrate and use your energy on what " is " , rather than guilt. So, I want to encourage you to not beat yourself up over something that is out of your control. It can be incredibly difficult to find someone who specializes in the treatment of OCD. Then to find one who is in-network with your insurance is even harder. We kept widening our perimeters as we searched, realizing we would have to make a drive to find someone who could truly help. We also found we were going to have to go out of network. If you cannot do either of those things, there are some great books that can walk you through CBT/ERP at home. You could try that. It works for some. These are all good books, but the last two are workbooks that walk you through therapy for OCD. . . What to do when your Child has Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder by Aureen Pinto Wagner Ph.D. Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder by Tamar E. Chansky Helping Your Child With Ocd: A Workbook for Parents of Children With Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder by Lee Fitzgibbons and Cherry Pedrick Talking Back to OCD by March What do you do for your own OCD, Barb? (Just curious) Is your son's OCD more severe than yours? My husband also has OCD, but not nearly as severe as our son's. Glad you found us and are here. BJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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