Re: Re: Dad plays Mom for a day

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Irma! You are the MOM!!!!

Re: Dad plays Mom for a day

Hi Liz,

Hope Tori is feeling better.

How can I relate to the " Dad plays for a day " , once upon a time my dh

use to have a cow in the past and that was just for one day too.

I was even employed at the time too.

I even had it easy where it did not even involve anything to do with

preparing food, etc.

I always have everyones clothes clean, yes organized where its easy

to get to like example if had a restroom accident he would be

able to know where to find change of clothes, cleaning supplies, or

clean bed sheets, whatever needed.

Queen of Tupperware and the Foodsaver so it was convenient to just

reheat and follow my instructions. If anything was thrown off boy he

was too tired and mind you I had everything ready where he would not

have the extra work.

When I had my set back undergoing my health issues doc had restricted

me not to do too much, then my dh had to actually try to things from

scratch somewhat as my family and close friends would help out so he

did get a little break but this made him appreciate what I do for the

family.

I had to figure out how to work around when I'm away also for

's older brother when he is under their care or they will allow

to be in bed all morning or have him watch TV all day.

Last week the men in my life experience it the entire week & weekend

while I had some training going on, this time I had them actually

follow some visual schedules in the areas needed this helped

tremendously. Plus I even told them to allow to do things

independently as much as possible.

I'm not that organized but when it comes to especially under a

new protoccol/treatment he is undergoing I did not want anything

messed up.

Everyone survived and this made them not have any anxiety attack and

actually made some type of connection with .

This week I am having to get back on track as there were some

areas that was able to manipulate them but this was

understandable as I saw it as a typical young adult pulling one of

his numbers or testing them when mama bear is away. I let it be, of

course its not 100 % but some relief to know that I can count on them

as they felt proud being brothers or the daddy interacting with

and not thrown to the side.

Learning about ABA, Visual supports,etc. worked for my family.

My 3 y/o grandson has also benefit too when he is with us.

I was actually able to come home and relax.

I had to figure ways to work around this as it was becoming a broken

record instead I had turn this around into something positive to help

me not lose it since they are adapted to their everyday routine.

Yep, you do what you have to, whatever works.

Irma,18,DS/ASD

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In a message dated 2/13/2007 8:00:51 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

mzdaisee@... writes:

You've heard of selective hearing -- he has selective vision!

Don't forget " selective smelling " !

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In a message dated 2/13/2007 8:00:03 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

mzdaisee@... writes:

I love having time off once in a while to find myself when I reach

the breakdown stage...

When my dh has been working late for several nights in a row and I feel like

he must get home I simply call his office and say in a very ultra sweet

voice , " Hi, dear, just want you to know that your wife and kids are

fine......(pause and than in a very deep husky voice...) FOR NOW!!!!! "

Then I just hang up. I usually get a call back very quickly with an offer

to bring home take out!

It doesn't always work but sometimes it does.

DH and I just had a conversation last night about our " jobs " .

had emptied all of his clothes and piled everything he could from

his room in front of his door to block my older son from entering. Of course

he than managed to squeeze out of the room leaving everything still in front

of the door.

My dh came home and went to go into the room. He was like, " What the

heck??? " and I explained to him what happened. He burst out laughing and

said, " " That kid cracks me up " To which I replied how he also cracks me up but

in a

much different way......I am literally cracking up. DH than told me how much

credit he gives me and conceded that he could never spend a full day alone

with the children without losing it.

I told him he would get his chance this Sat because I was taking a " personal

day " so he would just have to deal.

I am going to meet with friends at 10 am to celebrate 2 of them adopting

recently and I just don't know when I may get back.

Blessings, W

in CT

homeschooling mom to AJ (12), (8), ^l^,

(just turned 5, Trisomy 18 mosaic aka syndrome) and Birgitta (age 3,

adoption finalized 2/1/05 !!, Trisomy 21 aka Down's Syndrome, Fetal Alcohol

Syndrome, Autism, SID )

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In a message dated 2/13/2007 8:18:27 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

stamtorch@... writes:

am going to meet with friends at 10 am to celebrate 2 of them adopting

recently and I just don't know when I may get back.

Good for you -- have a great time with your friends.You deserve it.

DH will manage just fine.

Have fun.

Patty

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Are you sure your husband & mine aren't related???? My DH loves PC bowling,

Madden Football, Online Scrabble. At times, it is like talking to a wall.

Hello, Wall????

Liz

Re: Dad plays Mom for a day

In my husband's case, the whole process never quite gets completed when

there's a poop incident (fortunately very rare for a while now) because he

simply doesn't see the poopy clothes on the floor or walls or in Janie's

hair! You've heard of selective hearing -- he has selective vision! And it

still drains him to " babysit " even if he spends most of his time on the

computer doing jigsaw puzzles... Just as our kids are individual, so are our

husbands! I love having time off once in a while to find myself when I reach

the breakdown stage...

P.

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<<When my dh has been working late for several nights in a row and I feel like

he must get home I simply call his office and say in a very ultra sweet

voice , " Hi, dear, just want you to know that your wife and kids are

fine......(pause and than in a very deep husky voice...) FOR NOW!!!!! "

Then I just hang up. I usually get a call back very quickly with an offer

to bring home take out!>>

Oh you're really kind. When dh is gone for long periods of time in the summer

(in the bahamas fishing....terrible job) I let him know when he calls at tnight

that when he gets home it's going to look like that scene from the Gladiator

with Russel Crowe??? Anybody see that? He comes home from war and finds his wife

and daughter hanging from their feet in the doorway burnt to a crisp. I know I'm

evil ;-))

Sherry

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In a message dated 2/14/2007 7:05:04 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

gldcst@... writes:

I let him know when he calls at tnight that when he gets home it's going to

look like that scene from the Gladiator with Russel Crowe???

What an image! Gee, my dh has to travel to the Bahamas for business several

times a year. I WILL NOT tell him your dh will be there fishing!!!!!!!!!

His business trips will suddenly run longer.

Blessings, W

in CT

homeschooling mom to AJ (12), (8), ^l^,

(just turned 5, Trisomy 18 mosaic aka syndrome) and Birgitta (age 3,

adoption finalized 2/1/05 !!, Trisomy 21 aka Down's Syndrome, Fetal Alcohol

Syndrome, Autism, SID )

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LOL-You guys are just too funny!

Well, since the weather has been Oh So cooperative here in Pa., schools have

been closed and will remain so throughout Monday. Tori is still sick, and I

will definitely be ready for a drink first thing Tuesday morning!!!!!

Liz

Re: Re: Dad plays Mom for a day

<<When my dh has been working late for several nights in a row and I feel like

he must get home I simply call his office and say in a very ultra sweet

voice , " Hi, dear, just want you to know that your wife and kids are

fine......(pause and than in a very deep husky voice...) FOR NOW!!!!! "

Then I just hang up. I usually get a call back very quickly with an offer

to bring home take out!>>

Oh you're really kind. When dh is gone for long periods of time in the summer

(in the bahamas fishing....terrible job) I let him know when he calls at tnight

that when he gets home it's going to look like that scene from the Gladiator

with Russel Crowe??? Anybody see that? He comes home from war and finds his wife

and daughter hanging from their feet in the doorway burnt to a crisp. I know I'm

evil ;-))

Sherry

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In a message dated 2/15/2007 7:19:38 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

liz.desantis@... writes:

Tori is still sick, and I will definitely be ready for a drink first thing

Tuesday morning!!!!!

LOLOL Liz. Hey, I hear ya!!!!!! Maddie's been home for 2 days because

of snow, and is off tomorrow AND Monday. I may join you for that Tuesday

drink....LOL While I was trying to finish up scones for the cafe, she

squirted a bottle of Selson Blue (Yes, it's very blue) all over herself and

the second floor....walked in it and took into every room. What fun!!!!!!!

Don't feel too bad for me though....Duff is planning to take me away

overnight down the shore Saturday. The older ones will have Maddie

detail!!!! I may be comatose by the time we leave though....;-)

Donna

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In a message dated 2/15/2007 2:20:28 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

duffey48@... writes:

Duff is planning to take me away

overnight down the shore Saturday.

awwwwwwe, that's so nice. Enjoy.

Patty

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<<What an image! Gee, my dh has to travel to the Bahamas for business several

times a year. I WILL NOT tell him your dh will be there fishing!!!!!!!!!

His business trips will suddenly run longer. >>

, it's not as glamorous as it sounds. Dh actually has 7 bosses who all own

a share of the boat (and of him). It's like being a glorified slave. Some are

better than others but he has mullet blood in his veins as they say in the

fishing world and there's nothing he'd rather do. he'll never make a million but

at least he's happy and he doesn't even own a tie...he has one jacket for

funerals and weddings. Otherwise it's khaki shorts all year long.

Sherry