Guest guest Posted May 5, 2001 Report Share Posted May 5, 2001 How old is she? What sort of place is this. Is it on the web. Does she go to school during the day and then go to a group home. Find out if the behaviors are the same at both parts of the school. JEAN My broken heart I have not posted much here, But I am reading. Tonight I am going out. Something I have not done In a long time. But My kids found other places to be and I decided to take advantage of it and blow off some steam. But I feel guilty knowing that is in crisis Somewhere in an RTC. And I have the gall to go dancing. She is crashing, Having a terrible time. There has been talk of putting her in a hospital to stablize her so they can deal with her. She is out of control... exhibiting the same behaviors she did at home. She is this little shell of a girl filled with complete anger and fearless. a deadly combination. I heard them say that she is in crisis and that she is requiring 24 hour adult.. 2 feet away supervsion.. HELLO-- Ya Think? I am devastated and at the same time relieved. It's not me. Its not me. I was beginning to think her behavior was because of me. But Its not.. Its her. Its who she is. Its how she is made up and for the first time I am realizing we may not be able to fix it. That I will have to accept that there may be no magic cure. That loving her will mean more than anything.. Acceptance. Not only of her but also of the fact that I am not wonder woman and that I will have to have help before she can come home. Help that is not here. Help that I will have to make if I want it. help that I will have to swall ow my pride and beg for So that I can have that child home that Noone else wants. My broken heart is one of sadness but also some sence of healing and strength. Thinking if I can make it through this. I will be the one who was meant to help her. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 5, 2001 Report Share Posted May 5, 2001 "her behavior was because of me. But " These children in crisis have behaviors and triggers from everywhere. Abbie would have home triggers and school triggers. Even seeing certain car. Have they done an EEG Have they check meds. Some meds cause this. Have they made sure she does not have an underlying medical condition or metabolic problem. (this is what happened to my friends boy having a storage disorder and the docs missed it) What sort of day does she have. Is the staff trained? In WHAT? Are they making her worst with restraints and time outs I know what you are going through. How old is she JEAN Mom to a little residential student at Boston Higashi School WHO was like this before. Not easy now but at least sane. My broken heart I have not posted much here, But I am reading. Tonight I am going out. Something I have not done In a long time. But My kids found other places to be and I decided to take advantage of it and blow off some steam. But I feel guilty knowing that is in crisis Somewhere in an RTC. And I have the gall to go dancing. She is crashing, Having a terrible time. There has been talk of putting her in a hospital to stablize her so they can deal with her. She is out of control... exhibiting the same behaviors she did at home. She is this little shell of a girl filled with complete anger and fearless. a deadly combination. I heard them say that she is in crisis and that she is requiring 24 hour adult.. 2 feet away supervsion.. HELLO-- Ya Think? I am devastated and at the same time relieved. It's not me. Its not me. I was beginning to think her behavior was because of me. But Its not.. Its her. Its who she is. Its how she is made up and for the first time I am realizing we may not be able to fix it. That I will have to accept that there may be no magic cure. That loving her will mean more than anything.. Acceptance. Not only of her but also of the fact that I am not wonder woman and that I will have to have help before she can come home. Help that is not here. Help that I will have to make if I want it. help that I will have to swall ow my pride and beg for So that I can have that child home that Noone else wants. My broken heart is one of sadness but also some sence of healing and strength. Thinking if I can make it through this. I will be the one who was meant to help her. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2001 Report Share Posted May 11, 2001 Sharon, I just saw your post. I hope things are going better. I used to think that my daughter's behaviors were my fault too. Things got so much better (or maybe I just felt better) once I realized that she wasn't directing her anger at me, she was just trying to communicate the only way she could when something was bothering her. It took me a long time to realize that her lashing out at me was her way of saying " Hey, pay attention - something's wrong! " I just wanted to write and tell you I'm praying for you and your daughter. Hang in there! Theresa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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