Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 Elie is so perseverative lately that ANYTHING that goes inhis brain bank is repeated endlessly until we are all crazed. This week it is Santa, before that it was Thanksgiving, next week it will be going to CAmp. And right this second he is playing Dick Van Dykes solioquey on how much MR Banks loves his children - over and over and over again. We are DOOMED - can't get an appointment until spring with the clinic in ATL> Maybe I will try the Benedryl again to calm him down. Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: Chrarlyne/Sara Xmas is a coming - but so is >Hanukah >Date: Mon, 11 Dec 2006 11:42:56 -0800 (PST) > >Charlyne - well said. I happen to be Christian and do refer to Christmas >as Xmas, especially when typing in emails to shorten things. We are here >in the group to support each other because our children have similar needs, >no matter what religion we are or where we come from. > > Sara, that's interesting the school is doing that. Our schools are >really very good at making sure that there is a good mix of all holidays, >not just " santa. " Dylan doesn't get Santa (at least I think), and I've >never really played on thae santa/toys thing. Someone said something to >him about Santa and he signed " mommy " so I don't know if he got that from >kids talking at school or what. > > I guess if it were me in your shoes I would talk to the teacher, it >seems like you have a good relationship with her. Maybe if she knew about >your traditions she could incorportate them into the classroom or be more >careful about not " promoting " Santa - so Elie wouldn't get so wrapped up in >it. I guess I would also consider keeping him home, but at the same time >would he continue to talk about it because he wasn't able to go? > > Good luck > > Becky > > harlyne olko wrote: > In defense of Sara, no disrespect was intended to her fellow >Christains. The group prides itself on kindness and sharing not political >correctness in posts. Let's extend every member that kindness and >compassion in this holiday season and throughout the year. >Charlyne > >dean schafer wrote: >IT IS NOT SPELLED XMAS THIS HOLIDAY SEASON IS SPELLED >CHRISTMAS. >--- sara cohen wrote: > > > Now here is a problem I have not had before. This > > year Elie suddenly > > realizes that there is a Santa as something more > > than a song one sings. He > > keeps telling me that Santa brings presents. His > > class is going tomorrow to > > " visit Santa " . My inclination is to keep him home. > > This is not our holiday > > . Normally, I would protest anyone going - what > > part of school and in whose > > IEP is THAT???? But this teacher is so geat with > > Elie, that I really don't > > want to rain on her parade over Santa - but I also > > do not want Elie to be > > part of the Snata myth. > > > > Well, Santa is not in our house. We celebrate > > Hanukah - and that has > > NOTHING to do with presents. We donot have a Hanukah > > bush, sing songs that > > sound like Xmas songs but call them Hanukah melodies > > - none of that. With > > our now grown children, we did give little token > > gifts on each night of the > > holiday - things like candy money to play Hannukah > > games, their own Hanuka > > menorah, a book of movie tickets - something small > > as that is not the reason > > for this season!!! > > > > Elie has never recognized any of this except that he > > always has had his own > > candles which he is permitted to blow out - as that > > has been his thrill. > > > > Now that all the siblings are grown and only return > > home en masse at > > Thanksgiving, we have taken to giving each other > > little gifts when we are > > together - just because we are together. Usually > > this is something handmade > > or a specialty food only available where each one > > lives or the best - a new > > batch of pix of each of them in their lives. > > > > So now, any ideas on how to handle this? > > > > > > > > Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about > > the lemons. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Reply-To: > > >To: < > > > >Subject: Re: not getting a dx..cause ?? > > >Date: Mon, 11 Dec 2006 07:27:13 -0600 > > > > > >I sometimes wonder if the " Trauma " of their > > illnesses and all involved with > > >it doesn't have an impact on their diagnosis of > > " autism spectrum " . My son > > >Andy seemed to be developing normally for a child > > with Down syndrome until > > >he had his heart surgery which went terribly around > > 15 months.He went > > >through a terrible ordeal with it..needing to be > > " revived " several times > > >during and after surgery, getting a staph aurous > > infection and being cut > > >open without any anesthesia 7 days after his > > surgery. And healing from the > > >inside out as he was never stitched up again. His > > behavior completely > > >changed after surgery. From his perspective it must > > have seemed like child > > >abuse...and I was helping. I regret how I handled > > it all ..now 23 years > > >ago. I wanted to be with him at all times and now I > > wonder what he through > > >about that. Like why are you letting them do this > > to me mommy? He was and > > >is still a very loving fellow, but with all of the > > markers of autism. > > >Little speech.(much of it echolalia) Takes our > > hand,and brings us to what > > >he wants. Lines up his " toys " (things) Very upset if > > a change in routine. Of > > >course others would say that autism may just be > > starting to show at around > > >14 months...but I always associate it with his > > surgery. > > >Brigid > > > [sPAM] Re: Re: not getting > > a dx > > > > > > I am new to the group too. My son is 14 & > > wasn't diagnosed until he > > >was > > > 9 1/2. He did not have many of the classic > > symptoms of arm flapping, > > > head-banging, and so forth. The main thing to > > remember is that they are > > >all > > > unique. My son doesn't have a lot of behavioral > > issues, he just doesn't > > >know > > > how to relate to others or play very well. He is > > also not on any > > >medicines. > > > > > > He does have issues with eating foods with > > texture and will not bite > > >and/or > > > chew his food. He is also very developmentally > > delayed and is in the MO > > > state school. > > > > > > How old is your daughter now? > > > > > >=== message truncated === > >__________________________________________________________ >Any questions? Get answers on any topic at www.Answers.yahoo.com. Try it >now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 <<And right this second he is playing Dick Van Dykes solioquey on how much MR Banks loves his children - over and over and over again.>> Oh wow, is a mary poppins nut (it's on TV tonight on the family channel at 7 EST- in case there is anyone in the world who hasn't watched it 5 zillion times) I printed out the lyrics to all the songs yesterday so I'd have something new to sing her to sleep with and dh and I proceeded to put on our own version of the new broadway musical. I hope that makes it down to Florida someday soon. I just scored some more Pop-pop ( talk) paraphernelia on Ebay for her last night. My husband says this movie taught him to be a good dad. And he still tears up when he watches it. We usually get to hear " IT'S THE MASTER " (yelling) rewound over and over till you want to punch something. Sherry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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