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Gail and Sara-

Enjoying your talks on signing IEP's. I agree with you Sara, I refuse to sign

anything until I have time to look it over. I finished the final meeting for my

son's IEP this past Tuesday (we had 3 two hour each sessions, one per week for 3

weeks, which made up the entire IEP annual meeting). I got a draft copy from

the SpEd Director that afternoon to take home to look over. I went through it

with a find tooth comb and because of some of my training I noticed some things

missing and some things that just needed changing. I flagged all the items and

called the SpEd Dir. the next day to ask her when we could meet to go over it.

We set the date for today, Tuesday, a week later than the last IEP meeting and

went over it. She had me initial any changes she made to the original document

and I signed that I agreed to it all. Since she is a person who is attentive to

detail she seemed to accept me attention to detail : ] AND then she had her Adm.

Assistant make me yet

another copy to keep! How great was that! When they really want to get

something done they can!!

Sara -you say you are going to have another IEP shortly. I have gotten the

best prepared I have ever felt by sending out a letter with the invitation to

the IEP requesting that I have copies of all reports, assessments and possible

goals at least 5 working days prior to the IEP meeting. Everyone groaned when I

first started this but now they expect it from me. I try to balance out things

by bringing homemade cookies to the IEP to say thank-you to all. I have even

sometimes brought written notes to each therapist/teacher/aide to say thank-you

for their work the past year and I noted something positive that I saw different

in my child because of their working with him.

When you can have the reports ahead of time, it helps you to come to terms

emotionally with what is written and hopefully be in a more objective frame of

mind when you aer sitting at that table!

Best wishes for a POSITIVE meeting.

Hugs-

Donnell (mom to DJ-age 11)

sara cohen wrote:

I take the last IEp with me to the meeting. As they talk, I make

notes.

When we have agreed to everything, they usually pass around a sheet for

everyone to sign - I will NOT sign it until I get home and decide if I like

what has been agreed upon. In PA - I got a copy of the IEp home THAT DAY>

Labeled as a draft. In GA, they just wnated me to sign that I was in

agreement. I DIDI NOT SIGN IT> I said that I couldn't decide if I agree,

until I had studied the document, since it was a LEGALLY BINDING document.

After I read my notes on the old IEP, I sent a note to school requesting

that certain changes be made - I wanted academic time specified as to what

was going to be worked on in reading and math. The teacher made the

changes, I received the final version about 3 weeks after the meeting (just

checked the dates) and then I signed that I attended and agreed to the IEP.

However, we will be having another IEP meeting shortly. I want ESY for Elie

since he doesn't tunr 22 until July. School ends in May. ESY is in June.

Right now they are stomewalling me. Anyone know how GA sits on this

issue??/

Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

>From: smilinggail@...

>Reply-To:

>To:

>Subject: Re: signing IEP's

>Date: Tue, 10 Oct 2006 12:06:41 EDT

>

>

>Sara,

>I wrote that I don't get a copy of Seth's IEP for 6-10 months. I meant

>weeks. Guess it doesn't matter. LOL I can't imagine having a copy to

>take home

>from the meeting. Don't stop the mini-breaks. They are what keep us

>going!

>Hope you enjoyed it. Sometimes it doesn't seem worth it when you try to

>play catch-up though.

>Gail :-)

>

>Ny certainly does do somethings different. But I don't even sign that I

>am

>in attendence until I have at least a working copy of the IEP. I also

>have

>to wwait - sometimes a month after a meeting- to get the " official " IEP,

>but

>I take a working copy with notes home with me.

>

>I will check the new IDEA and see if they have changed the requirement

>that

>parents sign off on it.

>

>That might take me awhile as I am very behind in e-mail - went away for 3

>days - must stop taking these mini-breaks. It just puts me behind. :~)

>

>

>

>Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

>

>

>

>

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>

>

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This is an interesting thread.... exactly what I'm going through at the moment.

Having moved SEVERAL times and experienced more versions of IEP forms than I

care to, my current new State of Residence does things in a whole new way. I've

always been to an IEP, been given a copy of the proposed draft to follow along

with, hashed it out, signed the document and gotten my copy right then and

there. Maybe a few times they mailed it the next day. First I'd sign the form

saying I was in attendence before the start of the IEP but that was the only

document I signed until I was happy with the proposed IEP.

Here in Maine, I just attended 's PET (pupil evaluation team) Meeting.

I'd never heard that acronym before. They say here, the PET meets to write the

IEP. Yadda yadda yadda.... Anyway. At this meeting, I wasn't given anything

to follow along with. It was just me " listening " to what they had to say. I'm

a very visual person, like Mother like son right! They went off his current IEP

from Virginia and read their PLOP, etc... Everyone went over their things and I

was given a chance to add my 2 cents. Then without my seeing a final copy, they

wanted me to sign so they could implement the new IEP. I said, " I'm sorry but

having been burned before, I can't sign this IEP until I've seen a hard copy and

read through everything. " I could tell they were a bit annoyed (this was days

after I " extended " their day by 25 minutes by stopping the early release that

had been occuring) but they knew where I was coming from. We had the meeting

last week and I have yet to

receive my copy yet of the proposed IEP! I just wish IDEA was somehow

followed the same way in every State and the same forms used in every State. I

know lofty dreams....

Anyway, I figure I'll send a little note in tomorrow just inquiring about the

IEP hard copy.

Just thought I'd chime in with my experiences on this....

Take care,

Jayne in Maine!

I take the last IEp with me to the meeting. As they talk, I make notes.

When we have agreed to everything, they usually pass around a sheet for

everyone to sign - I will NOT sign it until I get home and decide if I like

what has been agreed upon. In PA - I got a copy of the IEp home THAT DAY>

Labeled as a draft. In GA, they just wnated me to sign that I was in

agreement. I DIDI NOT SIGN IT> I said that I couldn't decide if I agree,

until I had studied the document, since it was a LEGALLY BINDING document.

After I read my notes on the old IEP, I sent a note to school requesting

that certain changes be made - I wanted academic time specified as to what

was going to be worked on in reading and math. The teacher made the

changes, I received the final version about 3 weeks after the meeting (just

checked the dates) and then I signed that I attended and agreed to the IEP.

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I had to " request " that I receive the finished copy as well. I did it thru

the SPec. ed director rather than the teacher. I got it home with an

apology the next day.

And because of you, I stopped the absolutel waste of Elie's day. He gets to

school 40 minutes before school starts and leaves 40 minutes early. Now his

school day starts with instruction at 7:30A. I will drop in one day this

week to make sure it is not a mere " word " and that he is being instructed.

Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

>

>Reply-To:

>To:

>Subject: Re: signing IEP's

>Date: Tue, 10 Oct 2006 19:02:18 -0700 (PDT)

>

>This is an interesting thread.... exactly what I'm going through at the

>moment. Having moved SEVERAL times and experienced more versions of IEP

>forms than I care to, my current new State of Residence does things in a

>whole new way. I've always been to an IEP, been given a copy of the

>proposed draft to follow along with, hashed it out, signed the document and

>gotten my copy right then and there. Maybe a few times they mailed it the

>next day. First I'd sign the form saying I was in attendence before the

>start of the IEP but that was the only document I signed until I was happy

>with the proposed IEP.

>

> Here in Maine, I just attended 's PET (pupil evaluation team)

>Meeting. I'd never heard that acronym before. They say here, the PET

>meets to write the IEP. Yadda yadda yadda.... Anyway. At this meeting, I

>wasn't given anything to follow along with. It was just me " listening " to

>what they had to say. I'm a very visual person, like Mother like son

>right! They went off his current IEP from Virginia and read their PLOP,

>etc... Everyone went over their things and I was given a chance to add my

>2 cents. Then without my seeing a final copy, they wanted me to sign so

>they could implement the new IEP. I said, " I'm sorry but having been

>burned before, I can't sign this IEP until I've seen a hard copy and read

>through everything. " I could tell they were a bit annoyed (this was days

>after I " extended " their day by 25 minutes by stopping the early release

>that had been occuring) but they knew where I was coming from. We had the

>meeting last week and I have yet to

> receive my copy yet of the proposed IEP! I just wish IDEA was somehow

>followed the same way in every State and the same forms used in every

>State. I know lofty dreams....

>

> Anyway, I figure I'll send a little note in tomorrow just inquiring

>about the IEP hard copy.

>

> Just thought I'd chime in with my experiences on this....

>

> Take care,

> Jayne in Maine!

>

>

>

>

>

> I take the last IEp with me to the meeting. As they talk, I make notes.

>When we have agreed to everything, they usually pass around a sheet for

>everyone to sign - I will NOT sign it until I get home and decide if I like

>what has been agreed upon. In PA - I got a copy of the IEp home THAT DAY>

>Labeled as a draft. In GA, they just wnated me to sign that I was in

>agreement. I DIDI NOT SIGN IT> I said that I couldn't decide if I agree,

>until I had studied the document, since it was a LEGALLY BINDING document.

>After I read my notes on the old IEP, I sent a note to school requesting

>that certain changes be made - I wanted academic time specified as to what

>was going to be worked on in reading and math. The teacher made the

>changes, I received the final version about 3 weeks after the meeting (just

>checked the dates) and then I signed that I attended and agreed to the IEP.

>

>

>

>

>

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>

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Hi Jayne,

It used to be that not every IEP form was the same in each district, never

mind throughout the state. The state's mandated that certain information must be

on the forms but the districts had the authority to use their own unique forms.

I think you were very smart asking to review the IEP before signing anything.

Many states also do not require parents to sign the IEP just agree to the

proposed program etc. The entire process is not parent friendly. Off to a school

meeting, wish me luck!

Charlyne

Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD?

Jayne Hickey wrote:

This is an interesting thread.... exactly what I'm going through at

the moment. Having moved SEVERAL times and experienced more versions of IEP

forms than I care to, my current new State of Residence does things in a whole

new way. I've always been to an IEP, been given a copy of the proposed draft to

follow along with, hashed it out, signed the document and gotten my copy right

then and there. Maybe a few times they mailed it the next day. First I'd sign

the form saying I was in attendence before the start of the IEP but that was the

only document I signed until I was happy with the proposed IEP.

Here in Maine, I just attended 's PET (pupil evaluation team) Meeting.

I'd never heard that acronym before. They say here, the PET meets to write the

IEP. Yadda yadda yadda.... Anyway. At this meeting, I wasn't given anything to

follow along with. It was just me " listening " to what they had to say. I'm a

very visual person, like Mother like son right! They went off his current IEP

from Virginia and read their PLOP, etc... Everyone went over their things and I

was given a chance to add my 2 cents. Then without my seeing a final copy, they

wanted me to sign so they could implement the new IEP. I said, " I'm sorry but

having been burned before, I can't sign this IEP until I've seen a hard copy and

read through everything. " I could tell they were a bit annoyed (this was days

after I " extended " their day by 25 minutes by stopping the early release that

had been occuring) but they knew where I was coming from. We had the meeting

last week and I have yet to

receive my copy yet of the proposed IEP! I just wish IDEA was somehow followed

the same way in every State and the same forms used in every State. I know lofty

dreams....

Anyway, I figure I'll send a little note in tomorrow just inquiring about the

IEP hard copy.

Just thought I'd chime in with my experiences on this....

Take care,

Jayne in Maine!

I take the last IEp with me to the meeting. As they talk, I make notes.

When we have agreed to everything, they usually pass around a sheet for

everyone to sign - I will NOT sign it until I get home and decide if I like

what has been agreed upon. In PA - I got a copy of the IEp home THAT DAY>

Labeled as a draft. In GA, they just wnated me to sign that I was in

agreement. I DIDI NOT SIGN IT> I said that I couldn't decide if I agree,

until I had studied the document, since it was a LEGALLY BINDING document.

After I read my notes on the old IEP, I sent a note to school requesting

that certain changes be made - I wanted academic time specified as to what

was going to be worked on in reading and math. The teacher made the

changes, I received the final version about 3 weeks after the meeting (just

checked the dates) and then I signed that I attended and agreed to the IEP.

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I ALWAYS take food to a meeting. Something non-messy like non-sticky

cookies or fruit with toothpicks. I want them to have indegestion from food

not the discussion.

I always have received evals and reports ahead of time so I didn't even

think about that. It is so important to get the assesments and evals first.

Without them, one cannot make a rational decision.

Early on, I took the biggest photo of Elie that I had and put it on the

table to make sure that all attending knew we were talking about a real

person.

For years, I took someone with me. We always dressed like professionals.

One of my dearest friends always took her father in his Sunday Suit with a

pad of paper and a pen. He never said a word because he was aphasic after a

stroke, but he looked VERY OFFICIAL.

She always had good results at her IEP meetings because she negotiated well,

but the people in the room always thought it was because of her " advocate "

in the back of the room.

Perceptions are everything.

Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

>

>Reply-To:

>To:

>Subject: Re: signing IEP's

>Date: Tue, 10 Oct 2006 17:32:52 -0700 (PDT)

>

>Gail and Sara-

> Enjoying your talks on signing IEP's. I agree with you Sara, I refuse

>to sign anything until I have time to look it over. I finished the final

>meeting for my son's IEP this past Tuesday (we had 3 two hour each

>sessions, one per week for 3 weeks, which made up the entire IEP annual

>meeting). I got a draft copy from the SpEd Director that afternoon to take

>home to look over. I went through it with a find tooth comb and because of

>some of my training I noticed some things missing and some things that just

>needed changing. I flagged all the items and called the SpEd Dir. the next

>day to ask her when we could meet to go over it. We set the date for

>today, Tuesday, a week later than the last IEP meeting and went over it.

>She had me initial any changes she made to the original document and I

>signed that I agreed to it all. Since she is a person who is attentive to

>detail she seemed to accept me attention to detail : ] AND then she had her

>Adm. Assistant make me yet

> another copy to keep! How great was that! When they really want to get

>something done they can!!

>

> Sara -you say you are going to have another IEP shortly. I have gotten

>the best prepared I have ever felt by sending out a letter with the

>invitation to the IEP requesting that I have copies of all reports,

>assessments and possible goals at least 5 working days prior to the IEP

>meeting. Everyone groaned when I first started this but now they expect it

>from me. I try to balance out things by bringing homemade cookies to the

>IEP to say thank-you to all. I have even sometimes brought written notes

>to each therapist/teacher/aide to say thank-you for their work the past

>year and I noted something positive that I saw different in my child

>because of their working with him.

> When you can have the reports ahead of time, it helps you to come to

>terms emotionally with what is written and hopefully be in a more objective

>frame of mind when you aer sitting at that table!

>

> Best wishes for a POSITIVE meeting.

>

> Hugs-

> Donnell (mom to DJ-age 11)

>

>sara cohen wrote:

> I take the last IEp with me to the meeting. As they talk, I make

>notes.

>When we have agreed to everything, they usually pass around a sheet for

>everyone to sign - I will NOT sign it until I get home and decide if I like

>what has been agreed upon. In PA - I got a copy of the IEp home THAT DAY>

>Labeled as a draft. In GA, they just wnated me to sign that I was in

>agreement. I DIDI NOT SIGN IT> I said that I couldn't decide if I agree,

>until I had studied the document, since it was a LEGALLY BINDING document.

>After I read my notes on the old IEP, I sent a note to school requesting

>that certain changes be made - I wanted academic time specified as to what

>was going to be worked on in reading and math. The teacher made the

>changes, I received the final version about 3 weeks after the meeting (just

>checked the dates) and then I signed that I attended and agreed to the IEP.

>

>However, we will be having another IEP meeting shortly. I want ESY for Elie

>since he doesn't tunr 22 until July. School ends in May. ESY is in June.

>Right now they are stomewalling me. Anyone know how GA sits on this

>issue??/

>

>Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

>

> >From: smilinggail@...

> >Reply-To:

> >To:

> >Subject: Re: signing IEP's

> >Date: Tue, 10 Oct 2006 12:06:41 EDT

> >

> >

> >Sara,

> >I wrote that I don't get a copy of Seth's IEP for 6-10 months. I meant

> >weeks. Guess it doesn't matter. LOL I can't imagine having a copy to

> >take home

> >from the meeting. Don't stop the mini-breaks. They are what keep us

> >going!

> >Hope you enjoyed it. Sometimes it doesn't seem worth it when you try to

> >play catch-up though.

> >Gail :-)

> >

> >Ny certainly does do somethings different. But I don't even sign that I

> >am

> >in attendence until I have at least a working copy of the IEP. I also

> >have

> >to wwait - sometimes a month after a meeting- to get the " official " IEP,

> >but

> >I take a working copy with notes home with me.

> >

> >I will check the new IDEA and see if they have changed the requirement

> >that

> >parents sign off on it.

> >

> >That might take me awhile as I am very behind in e-mail - went away for 3

> >days - must stop taking these mini-breaks. It just puts me behind. :~)

> >

> >

> >

> >Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

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Sara-

I am laughing so hard I am crying! =,D Perception IS everything! That story

about the friend who took her dad in his Sunday suit has me in stitches.

I have to remind myself at IEP's: what am I afraid of? That they will become

physically abusive to me?! It is only words that they use to try to get their

way, and when I come prepared I have exactly the same weapon. . . words. And

sometimes my greatest weapon can even be silence and a stare, followed by a

restating of what I asked for initially... " I understand your hesitation (or

unwillingness, etc.) but I really must insist that we include _____________ in

my son's IEP because it is important to his education! " Standing my ground has

been my hardest won lesson, but not easily forgotten.

Hugs-

Donnell

(mom to DJ-age 11)

sara cohen wrote:

I ALWAYS take food to a meeting. Something non-messy like non-sticky

cookies or fruit with toothpicks. I want them to have indegestion from food

not the discussion.

I always have received evals and reports ahead of time so I didn't even

think about that. It is so important to get the assesments and evals first.

Without them, one cannot make a rational decision.

Early on, I took the biggest photo of Elie that I had and put it on the

table to make sure that all attending knew we were talking about a real

person.

For years, I took someone with me. We always dressed like professionals.

One of my dearest friends always took her father in his Sunday Suit with a

pad of paper and a pen. He never said a word because he was aphasic after a

stroke, but he looked VERY OFFICIAL.

She always had good results at her IEP meetings because she negotiated well,

but the people in the room always thought it was because of her " advocate "

in the back of the room.

Perceptions are everything.

Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

>

>Reply-To:

>To:

>Subject: Re: signing IEP's

>Date: Tue, 10 Oct 2006 17:32:52 -0700 (PDT)

>

>Gail and Sara-

> Enjoying your talks on signing IEP's. I agree with you Sara, I refuse

>to sign anything until I have time to look it over. I finished the final

>meeting for my son's IEP this past Tuesday (we had 3 two hour each

>sessions, one per week for 3 weeks, which made up the entire IEP annual

>meeting). I got a draft copy from the SpEd Director that afternoon to take

>home to look over. I went through it with a find tooth comb and because of

>some of my training I noticed some things missing and some things that just

>needed changing. I flagged all the items and called the SpEd Dir. the next

>day to ask her when we could meet to go over it. We set the date for

>today, Tuesday, a week later than the last IEP meeting and went over it.

>She had me initial any changes she made to the original document and I

>signed that I agreed to it all. Since she is a person who is attentive to

>detail she seemed to accept me attention to detail : ] AND then she had her

>Adm. Assistant make me yet

> another copy to keep! How great was that! When they really want to get

>something done they can!!

>

> Sara -you say you are going to have another IEP shortly. I have gotten

>the best prepared I have ever felt by sending out a letter with the

>invitation to the IEP requesting that I have copies of all reports,

>assessments and possible goals at least 5 working days prior to the IEP

>meeting. Everyone groaned when I first started this but now they expect it

>from me. I try to balance out things by bringing homemade cookies to the

>IEP to say thank-you to all. I have even sometimes brought written notes

>to each therapist/teacher/aide to say thank-you for their work the past

>year and I noted something positive that I saw different in my child

>because of their working with him.

> When you can have the reports ahead of time, it helps you to come to

>terms emotionally with what is written and hopefully be in a more objective

>frame of mind when you aer sitting at that table!

>

> Best wishes for a POSITIVE meeting.

>

> Hugs-

> Donnell (mom to DJ-age 11)

>

>sara cohen wrote:

> I take the last IEp with me to the meeting. As they talk, I make

>notes.

>When we have agreed to everything, they usually pass around a sheet for

>everyone to sign - I will NOT sign it until I get home and decide if I like

>what has been agreed upon. In PA - I got a copy of the IEp home THAT DAY>

>Labeled as a draft. In GA, they just wnated me to sign that I was in

>agreement. I DIDI NOT SIGN IT> I said that I couldn't decide if I agree,

>until I had studied the document, since it was a LEGALLY BINDING document.

>After I read my notes on the old IEP, I sent a note to school requesting

>that certain changes be made - I wanted academic time specified as to what

>was going to be worked on in reading and math. The teacher made the

>changes, I received the final version about 3 weeks after the meeting (just

>checked the dates) and then I signed that I attended and agreed to the IEP.

>

>However, we will be having another IEP meeting shortly. I want ESY for Elie

>since he doesn't tunr 22 until July. School ends in May. ESY is in June.

>Right now they are stomewalling me. Anyone know how GA sits on this

>issue??/

>

>Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

>

> >From: smilinggail@...

> >Reply-To:

> >To:

> >Subject: Re: signing IEP's

> >Date: Tue, 10 Oct 2006 12:06:41 EDT

> >

> >

> >Sara,

> >I wrote that I don't get a copy of Seth's IEP for 6-10 months. I meant

> >weeks. Guess it doesn't matter. LOL I can't imagine having a copy to

> >take home

> >from the meeting. Don't stop the mini-breaks. They are what keep us

> >going!

> >Hope you enjoyed it. Sometimes it doesn't seem worth it when you try to

> >play catch-up though.

> >Gail :-)

> >

> >Ny certainly does do somethings different. But I don't even sign that I

> >am

> >in attendence until I have at least a working copy of the IEP. I also

> >have

> >to wwait - sometimes a month after a meeting- to get the " official " IEP,

> >but

> >I take a working copy with notes home with me.

> >

> >I will check the new IDEA and see if they have changed the requirement

> >that

> >parents sign off on it.

> >

> >That might take me awhile as I am very behind in e-mail - went away for 3

> >days - must stop taking these mini-breaks. It just puts me behind. :~)

> >

> >

> >

> >Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

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I actually had a friend who made up tee-shirts that said " Due Process " on

them. She wore the shirt proudly to every IEP meeting she went to. It's

also a great idea to place a recording device of some kind right smack in

the middle of the table. There, to the best of my knowledge, isn't anything

in the law books that says an IEP meeting can't be recorded. If they start

to object, I've always used the excuse that I'm a very poor note taker and

this helps to refresh my memory of what's been said. Our meetings last

between 4 and 6 hours broken up into about two or three meetings so I bring

lots of tapes and label each one with the date and time and tape number. I

used to be a transcriptionist, so I am very good at typing verbatim. ;-)

Judi

Re: signing IEP's

> I have to remind myself at IEP's: what am I afraid of? That they will

become physically abusive to me?! It is only words that they use to try to

get their way, and when I come prepared I have exactly the same weapon. .

.. words. And sometimes my greatest weapon can even be silence and a stare,

followed by a restating of what I asked for initially... " I understand your

hesitation (or unwillingness, etc.) but I really must insist that we include

_____________ in my son's IEP because it is important to his education! "

Standing my ground has been my hardest won lesson, but not easily forgotten.

>

> Hugs-

> Donnell

> (mom to DJ-age 11)

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Another great idea I got from a local advocate many years ago is take a black &

white notebook in with you. This automatically makes the attendees weary

because you carry your IDEA book with you and that is where ALL the LAWS are

kept!

Liz

Re: signing IEP's

> I have to remind myself at IEP's: what am I afraid of? That they will

become physically abusive to me?! It is only words that they use to try to

get their way, and when I come prepared I have exactly the same weapon. .

. words. And sometimes my greatest weapon can even be silence and a stare,

followed by a restating of what I asked for initially... " I understand your

hesitation (or unwillingness, etc.) but I really must insist that we include

_____________ in my son's IEP because it is important to his education! "

Standing my ground has been my hardest won lesson, but not easily forgotten.

>

> Hugs-

> Donnell

> (mom to DJ-age 11)

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Liz,

I received for the Parent Education Network, the entire CFR's for IDEA.

Free of charge. I've kept it in a five inch binder along with every single

IEP Jordan's ever had - in order by year. I've got so many sticky tabs

sticking out of the CFR that it's unreal. I put that right in front of me

open on the table so they can all see it.

Judi

Re: signing IEP's

> Another great idea I got from a local advocate many years ago is take a

black & white notebook in with you. This automatically makes the attendees

weary because you carry your IDEA book with you and that is where ALL the

LAWS are kept!

>

> Liz

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One thing I have learned is that the more info you carry with you, the less

problems you will have. Do use post it notes or tabs on IDEA so you can

flip to what you need.

I also use a black and wite notebook to take cumulative notes in and as a

log book of responses received. Not as pretty as when I carried a laptop

but really easy to access.

Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

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>Subject: Re: signing IEP's

>Date: Thu, 12 Oct 2006 09:02:42 -0400

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>Liz,

>I received for the Parent Education Network, the entire CFR's for IDEA.

>Free of charge. I've kept it in a five inch binder along with every single

>IEP Jordan's ever had - in order by year. I've got so many sticky tabs

>sticking out of the CFR that it's unreal. I put that right in front of me

>open on the table so they can all see it.

>

>Judi

>

> Re: signing IEP's

>

>

> > Another great idea I got from a local advocate many years ago is take a

>black & white notebook in with you. This automatically makes the attendees

>weary because you carry your IDEA book with you and that is where ALL the

>LAWS are kept!

> >

> > Liz

>

>

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