Guest guest Posted October 10, 2006 Report Share Posted October 10, 2006 Cyndi, When you said *dirty deed* I thought you meant something else! :0) I guess I am just used to the poo thing and don't think of it that way anymore. LOL Sounds like anything that could go wrong did. Is your last name ? LOL That was very nice of Walmart to give you the wipes you needed. I'm thinking life only gets better when things like that don't bother you anymore. Seth is 10 and it's still a routine thing here. It's only better because I shrug my shoulders and say, here we go again. Last year I took Seth to a birthday party. Well, we didn't even get down the sidewalk to the yard and he had a blow out. Ugh.....It was from head to toe in seconds. He was wiping and licking as fast as he could. I had a box of wipes with me, but even the whole box wouldn't have been enough the way he was smearing it. I just asked for a garbage bag, set him on it in the car and came home. My party time was spent scrubbing Seth and the car. I can sympathize with you. Sorry you had such a rough day. Gail :-) Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2006 Report Share Posted October 10, 2006 Geez, Cyndi. BTDT too many times. I think we need to break down once in a while or we will really lose it! CYBER HUGS TO YOU! Liz I had a melt down Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2006 Report Share Posted October 10, 2006 Oh Cyndi, {{{{{{{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}} POOP is the worst! I " m so sorry that you had all that happen in a row like that! I remember one time - I completely lost it after pooped and smeared for like the 5th day in a row. I lost it. I'm in the bathroom crying as I'm cleaning him, me, the floor, the wall, etc.... crying, and saying in a raised voice outloud to no one, " I don't know anyone who could handle this sh*t on a day to day basis!!!! " , and many other colorful quotes that I won't share but I'm sure you've thought or possibly said in the same situation - perhaps just during this very fresh experience you just went through! It's awful, no if's, and's or but(t)'s! (ha ha - couldn't help it). Thank goodness Walmart understood your situation and was sympathetic to your need for wipes. Were you toting with you all through Walmart with poo all over him while you went on your quest for wipes???? Is Walmart next door to the therapist? Oh my goodness this must have been a scene you don't ever care to play out again! HUGS and virtual good smelling scents! UGH! The joys of the big A!!! (that's autism not !) LOL! Hang in there! Jayne wrote: Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B --------------------------------- Talk is cheap. Use Yahoo! Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2006 Report Share Posted October 10, 2006 Ooooooooooooooooooooo. I remember " those days. " I have to say that I'm forever thankful that Andy is pretty good about using bathrooms and letting me know. Except for " sometimes. " But the unexpected messes in public are a distant memory. It does get better. But Oh my.......there are days when WE ARE ALLOWED TO CRY! You are a good Mom. You did your very best under very human circumstances. Unfortunately,others don't always get that you're just donig the best you can. I " m glad the folks at Walmart were understanding. Do something nice for you tonight. Joan --- wrote: > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the > therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in > the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy > wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a > resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I > picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " > take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I > did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my > little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I > would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his > bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started > crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? > Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? > Cyndi B > > > > > > -------------------------------------------------- > Checkout our homepage for information, > bookmarks, and photos of our kids. Share favorite > bookmarks, ideas, and other information by including > them. Don't forget, messages are a permanent record > of the archives for our list. > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ > -------------------------------------------- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2006 Report Share Posted October 10, 2006 - BIG {{{HUGS}}} ! ! ! Sometimes we do feel like if we did not have bad luck, we'd have no luck at all... and fingerpainting (handpainting!) with poop is just about the worst. Kudos to the people at WalMart for being understanding. YOU are a trooper! You kept it together enough to meet the need at hand. And you do need to treat yourself special tonight or tomorrow. YOU deserve it. And poor , so unknowing as to why mommy is so upset, I'm sure. I hope you can someday look back on this day with a sense of humor and laugh about it. I'm sure for now it still hurts. It helps so much to have this group to lend a shoulder to cry on though. And to send understanding hugs your way : ) Prayers for strength and hope are sent to you from me. Again, Hugs- Donnell (mom to DJ-age11) wrote: Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2006 Report Share Posted October 10, 2006 Hi Cyndi, Could relate to your story on the poop issues when my son was younger. Funny how I came to cool down as I walked into the dining room and there is pee all over the floor, this is what I still have to deal with but this time I did not fall as this has happen several times. My down time to cool down was to come and read from the computer and then to read this, you are not alone. Hugs! Irma Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Well bless the folks at Wal mart. You did the best you could and you coped! Good for you....I say try to treat yourself to something also. Sometime it is all just too hard....but you will be able to laugh about it sometime, as someone else said. Thre are a lot of people who do understand though. Keep up the good work. Brigid Re: I had a melt down Ooooooooooooooooooooo. I remember " those days. " I have to say that I'm forever thankful that Andy is pretty good about using bathrooms and letting me know. Except for " sometimes. " But the unexpected messes in public are a distant memory. It does get better. But Oh my.......there are days when WE ARE ALLOWED TO CRY! You are a good Mom. You did your very best under very human circumstances. Unfortunately,others don't always get that you're just donig the best you can. I " m glad the folks at Walmart were understanding. Do something nice for you tonight. Joan --- wrote: > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the > therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in > the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy > wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a > resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I > picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " > take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I > did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my > little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I > would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his > bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started > crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? > Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? > Cyndi B > > > > > > -------------------------------------------------- > Checkout our homepage for information, > bookmarks, and photos of our kids. Share favorite > bookmarks, ideas, and other information by including > them. Don't forget, messages are a permanent record > of the archives for our list. > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ > -------------------------------------------- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Hi , I have had a few of those days too. My car still smells like urine on those damp days. I was never without wipes and a change of clothes when Zeb was younger. Zeb still has difficulty wiping himself. I was working at a fair this past summer and Zeb came back from the restroom with hands and shirt smeared. I had no extra clothes with me, thankfully, I was able to run to the fair office and buy him a shirt while dh washed him up before anyone saw him. It does get better. Charlyne Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? wrote: Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Cyndi, I have had my own meltodwns several times before and usually it helps just to get it out.For my family things are better because Mic had so many medical issues and we are past most of those now. My dh usually sees me beginning to melt and either takes Mic out or just gives me a break.Things get easier in some ways and harder in others.This am I almost had a meltdown at the bus driver I have to pick Mic up and put him in the carseat in the bus well I am 5 foot tall and can barely pick Mic up the bus driver just sits there and watches me.Fortunately we are moving so this wont be happening with the next bus driver because I am going to tell them.I remember xmas shopping on Xmas eve and had a cart full and all done shopping when Mic decided he wasnt happy waiting in line and started screaming and kicking and I had to leave the store and leave the presents Major meltdown crying because I didnt have any xmas presents to give anybody..Mic plays in poop too fortunately not out in public yet.I can imagine how you felt and I would have had it too. We all need breaks.Do something just for yourself, nobody else even if you feel guilty you will feel better.And this group has helped me thru some very rough times because I think we all have similar issues if not the same issues and everyone here knows what we mean. Your not alone. Laurie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Jayne, It is so great that you understand and I am soooo sorry you and all of the rest of us have to go through this. No, the therapist is not anywhere near Wally world. Walmart is about 15 minutes away. had the " stinkys " but thank goodness had not smeared the " rear " yet.It is awlful no ifs,ands, or " Butts " , your right HA Ha now.Thanks for the virtual hug and the laughter. I really needed to see a funny side to this. How did your move go? Did you get things straigtened out with regulations for school time? Cyndi > > Oh Cyndi, > {{{{{{{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}} > > POOP is the worst! I " m so sorry that you had all that happen in a row like that! > I remember one time - I completely lost it after pooped and smeared for like the 5th day in a row. I lost it. I'm in the bathroom crying as I'm cleaning him, me, the floor, the wall, etc.... crying, and saying in a raised voice outloud to no one, " I don't know anyone who could handle this sh*t on a day to day basis!!!! " , and many other colorful quotes that I won't share but I'm sure you've thought or possibly said in the same situation - perhaps just during this very fresh experience you just went through! It's awful, no if's, and's or but(t)'s! (ha ha - couldn't help it). > > Thank goodness Walmart understood your situation and was sympathetic to your need for wipes. Were you toting with you all through Walmart with poo all over him while you went on your quest for wipes???? Is Walmart next door to the therapist? Oh my goodness this must have been a scene you don't ever care to play out again! HUGS and virtual good smelling scents! UGH! The joys of the big A!!! (that's autism not !) LOL! > > Hang in there! > Jayne > > > wrote: > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Talk is cheap. Use Yahoo! Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Gail, OMG about the party you missed because of Seth doing the dirty deed.I have had that mess at home before a party and we both had to take a shower again.This was 2 times this week for me he had just done this at the hair dressers.I wonder why what lesson our we supposed to learn from this, over and over, and over?Thanks for sharing your story I know I am not the only one " butt " none of us should have to go through this, and I hope your next party you will be able to attend. Thanks Cyndi > > > Cyndi, > When you said *dirty deed* I thought you meant something else! :0) I > guess I am just used to the poo thing and don't think of it that way anymore. > LOL Sounds like anything that could go wrong did. Is your last name ? > LOL That was very nice of Walmart to give you the wipes you needed. I'm > thinking life only gets better when things like that don't bother you anymore. > Seth is 10 and it's still a routine thing here. It's only better because I > shrug my shoulders and say, here we go again. Last year I took Seth to a > birthday party. Well, we didn't even get down the sidewalk to the yard and he > had a blow out. Ugh.....It was from head to toe in seconds. He was wiping > and licking as fast as he could. I had a box of wipes with me, but even the > whole box wouldn't have been enough the way he was smearing it. I just asked > for a garbage bag, set him on it in the car and came home. My party time was > spent scrubbing Seth and the car. I can sympathize with you. Sorry you had > such a rough day. > Gail :-) > > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Liz, It is so frustrating and I know you understand " Butt " it just ain't fair. Thanks for feeling my pain, and the cyber hugs. Cyndi > > Geez, Cyndi. BTDT too many times. I think we need to break down once in a while or we will really lose it! > > CYBER HUGS TO YOU! > Liz > I had a melt down > > > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Joan, I have had therapist try to help me with this problem. It is in his IEP at school and they are trying to potty train him and well as I. Only once or twice has he given me the potty pic, and once he sat on the potty with his pants on.How did you stop this? Cyndi > > Ooooooooooooooooooooo. > > I remember " those days. " I have to say that I'm > forever thankful that Andy is pretty good about using > bathrooms and letting me know. Except for " sometimes. " > But the unexpected messes in public are a distant > memory. > > It does get better. > > But Oh my.......there are days when WE ARE ALLOWED TO > CRY! > > You are a good Mom. You did your very best under very > human circumstances. Unfortunately,others don't always > get that you're just donig the best you can. > > I " m glad the folks at Walmart were understanding. > > Do something nice for you tonight. > > Joan > > --- wrote: > > > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the > > therapist with when > > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in > > the car.When I got > > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy > > wipes and I did not > > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a > > resturant the night > > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I > > picked an .86 cent > > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " > > take what you > > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I > > did not want to > > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my > > little guy while he > > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I > > would use all the > > wipes for his hands before I could clean his > > bottom. is very fast > > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started > > crying and > > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? > > Why does anybody > > have to go through this? When does life get better? > > Cyndi B > > > > > > > > > > > > -------------------------------------------------- > > Checkout our homepage for information, > > bookmarks, and photos of our kids. Share favorite > > bookmarks, ideas, and other information by including > > them. Don't forget, messages are a permanent record > > of the archives for our list. > > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ > > -------------------------------------------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Donnell, Yes I have to be thankful that Walmart was willing to help with the wipes.Now at the time I was thinking what do I have to be thankful for?I think my little guy knows it upsets me, the little " shit " is laughing and giggling the whole time I am cleaning him up.I wonder what others thank in the stalls next to us as I am saying stop, stop, no .Thank goodnes for you and the others in this group supporting me with this. I am sure one day it will be funnier than today " Butt " everyone has helped shed light on to this " stinky " subjest and make light hearted of a terrible day. Thanks for sharing yours, and the hug. Cyndi > BIG {{{HUGS}}} ! ! ! > > Sometimes we do feel like if we did not have bad luck, we'd have no luck at all... > and fingerpainting (handpainting!) with poop is just about the worst. Kudos to the people at WalMart for being understanding. YOU are a trooper! You kept it together enough to meet the need at hand. And you do need to treat yourself special tonight or tomorrow. YOU deserve it. And poor , so unknowing as to why mommy is so upset, I'm sure. I hope you can someday look back on this day with a sense of humor and laugh about it. I'm sure for now it still hurts. > > It helps so much to have this group to lend a shoulder to cry on though. And to send understanding hugs your way : ) Prayers for strength and hope are sent to you from me. > > Again, Hugs- > Donnell (mom to DJ-age11) > > wrote: > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Irma, It's not funny that you have fallen afterall you may have or could really hurt yourself. Afterall each year we are not getting any younger. But the way you worded your story made me laugh. Thanks for that.I think all rooms in homes should have vinaly floors. This makes life much easier to clean up.Thanks for the words of encouragement. Cyndi > > Hi Cyndi, > Could relate to your story on the poop issues when my son was younger. > Funny how I came to cool down as I walked into the dining room and > there is pee all over the floor, this is what I still have to deal with > but this time I did not fall as this has happen several times. My down > time to cool down was to come and read from the computer and then to > read this, you are not alone. > > Hugs! > Irma > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Brigid,Thanks so much for responding and letting me know that you guys understand what this life is like.Thanks for words of encouragement it really helps me. Cyndi > > Well bless the folks at Wal mart. You did the best you could and you coped! Good for you....I say try to treat yourself to something also. Sometime it is all just too hard....but you will be able to laugh about it sometime, as someone else said. Thre are a lot of people who do understand though. Keep up the good work. > Brigid > Re: I had a melt down > > > Ooooooooooooooooooooo. > > I remember " those days. " I have to say that I'm > forever thankful that Andy is pretty good about using > bathrooms and letting me know. Except for " sometimes. " > But the unexpected messes in public are a distant > memory. > > It does get better. > > But Oh my.......there are days when WE ARE ALLOWED TO > CRY! > > You are a good Mom. You did your very best under very > human circumstances. Unfortunately,others don't always > get that you're just donig the best you can. > > I " m glad the folks at Walmart were understanding. > > Do something nice for you tonight. > > Joan > > --- wrote: > > > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the > > therapist with when > > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in > > the car.When I got > > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy > > wipes and I did not > > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a > > resturant the night > > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I > > picked an .86 cent > > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " > > take what you > > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I > > did not want to > > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my > > little guy while he > > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I > > would use all the > > wipes for his hands before I could clean his > > bottom. is very fast > > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started > > crying and > > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? > > Why does anybody > > have to go through this? When does life get better? > > Cyndi B > > > > > > > > > > > > -------------------------------------------------- > > Checkout our homepage for information, > > bookmarks, and photos of our kids. Share favorite > > bookmarks, ideas, and other information by including > > them. Don't forget, messages are a permanent record > > of the archives for our list. > > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ > > -------------------------------------------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Laurie, I have had those shopping trips when was through shopping and started screaming.When everyone looks at you like please get that screaming child out of here and you are 1 away from being at the cashier.About the bus driver I was told here that the driver or the assistant is not allowed to pick up the child but, they can get someone from the school if the child needs assistance on a regular basis. But the school needs to be aware. Just a thought.Thank goodness I am not alone or you are not alone we have our group to vent.I hope this Christmas shopping trip is better. hardly ever throws a fit in the store.Now he throws a fit on the way home from the store and screams for 2-3 hrs.I do not know what he hates about coming home.He has free roam of the house, toys, tv, etc.I wish I had this much freedom when I was a kid. Thanks again for your support. Cyndi > > Cyndi, I have had my own meltodwns several times before and usually it helps just to get it out.For my family things are better because Mic had so many medical issues and we are past most of those now. My dh usually sees me beginning to melt and either takes Mic out or just gives me a break.Things get easier in some ways and harder in others.This am I almost had a meltdown at the bus driver I have to pick Mic up and put him in the carseat in the bus well I am 5 foot tall and can barely pick Mic up the bus driver just sits there and watches me.Fortunately we are moving so this wont be happening with the next bus driver because I am going to tell them.I remember xmas shopping on Xmas eve and had a cart full and all done shopping when Mic decided he wasnt happy waiting in line and started screaming and kicking and I had to leave the store and leave the presents Major meltdown crying because I didnt have any xmas presents to give anybody..Mic plays in poop too fortunately not > out in public yet.I can imagine how you felt and I would have had it too. We all need breaks.Do something just for yourself, nobody else even if you feel guilty you will feel better.And this group has helped me thru some very rough times because I think we all have similar issues if not the same issues and everyone here knows what we mean. Your not alone. Laurie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Charlyne,What a terrible thing to happen at the fair and I am sure it was really hot that day. Not helping the smell.Zeb was being a little " stinker " .I bought this stuff at a Petsmart or is it Pets Mart. That helps get rid of urine and fecal smells called Stain and Odor remover made by Simple Solution. They even make a carpet shampoo that is great. I have an old do that went insane this year and he goes outside and comes it and tinkles again. I had to buy diapers for my dog.Well the diapers recommended for a shitzu were not big enough even though my dog weights like 6 lbs because my dogs little winky is bigger than him. So I had to buy this simple solution. is not even trying to wipe he pulls his hand back if I try to make him. I know life will get better I just keep hoping real soon. Thanks for sharing your misfortune and it helps to know I am not alone. Cyndi > > Hi , > I have had a few of those days too. My car still smells like urine on those damp days. I was never without wipes and a change of clothes when Zeb was younger. Zeb still has difficulty wiping himself. I was working at a fair this past summer and Zeb came back from the restroom with hands and shirt smeared. I had no extra clothes with me, thankfully, I was able to run to the fair office and buy him a shirt while dh washed him up before anyone saw him. It does get better. > Charlyne > Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? > > wrote: > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2006 Report Share Posted October 11, 2006 Hi , LOL, the dog, too! I drive a 12 yr old car so whatever. If I ever get anything new I will remember to try that Simple Solution. Yes, it was a hot day but considering that I have a food trailer with a sh---- kid doesn't do well for inviting customers. Thankfully we cleaned him up before anyone saw him. Charlyne Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? wrote: Charlyne,What a terrible thing to happen at the fair and I am sure it was really hot that day. Not helping the smell.Zeb was being a little " stinker " .I bought this stuff at a Petsmart or is it Pets Mart. That helps get rid of urine and fecal smells called Stain and Odor remover made by Simple Solution. They even make a carpet shampoo that is great. I have an old do that went insane this year and he goes outside and comes it and tinkles again. I had to buy diapers for my dog.Well the diapers recommended for a shitzu were not big enough even though my dog weights like 6 lbs because my dogs little winky is bigger than him. So I had to buy this simple solution. is not even trying to wipe he pulls his hand back if I try to make him. I know life will get better I just keep hoping real soon. Thanks for sharing your misfortune and it helps to know I am not alone. Cyndi > > Hi , > I have had a few of those days too. My car still smells like urine on those damp days. I was never without wipes and a change of clothes when Zeb was younger. Zeb still has difficulty wiping himself. I was working at a fair this past summer and Zeb came back from the restroom with hands and shirt smeared. I had no extra clothes with me, thankfully, I was able to run to the fair office and buy him a shirt while dh washed him up before anyone saw him. It does get better. > Charlyne > Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? > > wrote: > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2006 Report Share Posted October 12, 2006 Butt it is still very frustrating!!! =) I had a melt down > > > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist with when > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I got > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did not > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the night > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want to > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy while he > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all the > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very fast > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2006 Report Share Posted October 12, 2006 In a message dated 10/10/2006 10:24:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, jegm2002@... writes: I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started > crying and > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? > Why does anybody > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi, I roared laughing at Jayne's remark......TODAY? LOL It's true though. We deserve meltdowns, and a good cry along with it. I have them, trust me. Once I had Maddie and Allie (a year older) at the dentist, and Maddie was sitting in the cute little playhouse he had in his office. Next thing I knew, she'd pooped and smeared it all over the little house. There I was, on the floor of the dentist's office, scrubbing his carpet......with a roomful of patients watching me. Yep, I cried at the one for sure. Hugs, Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2006 Report Share Posted October 12, 2006 Yep, totally agree, I had even had back sugery due to the wear and tear of all the meltdowns that had for numerous of years and I remember posting this that I had fallen during my recovering time. Then had several falls due to the peeing incidents and had to refrain from doing anything my doc's orders which I do not like doing as I'm usually on the go but I guess everything happens for a reason had to do alot o low-back stretches, so the muscles would not tighten along with some pain relievers as needed. I'm just glad I can control my emotions now before I do anything stupid barking away like when he was younger. The Bangee in me would come out, not anymore oh and the guilt afterwards really takes the cake. I have to find a strategy that will work for my son to understand to initiate to the restroom independently. We do have some visual strategies/schedules that he follows but has regressed or should I say going through a withdrawal these days. I'm going to try out a strategy that Temple Grandin had suggested and that is using a watch with an alarm and using a pic or signing of toilet or restroom. is under the GF/CF diet, also allergic to eggs so you can imagine going through this learning curve, have seen the positive changes it has done so worth it when I succeed in this area. But, there will be those days that someone else out of the blue will leave the forbidden food out that will make him go through an Opiod effect, like having some Morphine due the enzymes when not properly broken down, it is a vicious cycle. He ended up last Tuesday eating 2 huge hamburgers boy was he enjoying them but the consequences I am seeing has drained me with the extra cleaning and monitoring when he has a low-grade fever being a detective once again, this diet must be strict as even people whom work with him have noticed the negative changes too and the past months he has been doing wonderful. He is coming around finally but he was throwing himself down on the floor again or pressing himself on a cushion when he would sit on the couch, now everyone understands he is not masturbating, that he is seeking that comfort relief on his low abdominal area. Then he had his low grade fever that he has actually been coming around not having them like he did periodically in the past. He is definitely in a very slow mode, perservating, requiring lots of verbal or physical prompting. Is really going through alot of sensory seeking as the OT yesterday had told me which I already knew and glad he had his activities to accomodate the sensory input. This morning while waiting on the school bus, I actually saw him smiling at me, so this was a good sign. Here are to these days of moving on, thanks. Irma,18,DS/ASD > > Irma, It's not funny that you have fallen afterall you may have or > could really hurt yourself. Afterall each year we are not getting any > younger. But the way you worded your story made me laugh. Thanks for > that.I think all rooms in homes should have vinaly floors. This makes > life much easier to clean up.Thanks for the words of encouragement. > Cyndi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2006 Report Share Posted October 12, 2006 I use really strong solutions osf vinegar water and leave the windows of the car open. For years, on a damp day, the car smelled of vomit because Elie HAD to have his milk in a cup which he would spill in the car, soak in the rug and then sour.. Vinegar got rid of it when I learned to use it. I now use vinegar for dog spots too. And did you know that apple cider vinegar with a couple of drops of dish soap kill fruit flies too?????? Now if vinegar would only take the " sour " out of the politicians I am dealing with............... Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: Re: I had a melt down >Date: Wed, 11 Oct 2006 22:26:49 -0700 (PDT) > >Hi , > LOL, the dog, too! I drive a 12 yr old car so whatever. If I ever get >anything new I will remember to try that Simple Solution. Yes, it was a hot >day but considering that I have a food trailer with a sh---- kid doesn't do >well for inviting customers. Thankfully we cleaned him up before anyone saw >him. > Charlyne > Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? > > wrote: > Charlyne,What a terrible thing to happen at the fair and I am >sure >it was really hot that day. Not helping the smell.Zeb was being a >little " stinker " .I bought this stuff at a Petsmart or is it Pets >Mart. That helps get rid of urine and fecal smells called Stain and >Odor remover made by Simple Solution. They even make a carpet >shampoo that is great. I have an old do that went insane this year >and he goes outside and comes it and tinkles again. I had to buy >diapers for my dog.Well the diapers recommended for a shitzu were >not big enough even though my dog weights like 6 lbs because my dogs >little winky is bigger than him. So I had to buy this simple >solution. is not even trying to wipe he pulls his hand back if I >try to make him. I know life will get better I just keep hoping real >soon. Thanks for sharing your misfortune and it helps to know I am >not alone. Cyndi > > > > Hi , > > I have had a few of those days too. My car still smells like >urine on those damp days. I was never without wipes and a change of >clothes when Zeb was younger. Zeb still has difficulty wiping >himself. I was working at a fair this past summer and Zeb came back >from the restroom with hands and shirt smeared. I had no extra >clothes with me, thankfully, I was able to run to the fair office >and buy him a shirt while dh washed him up before anyone saw him. It >does get better. > > Charlyne > > Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? > > > > wrote: > > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist >with when > > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I >got > > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did >not > > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the >night > > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want >to > > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy >while he > > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all >the > > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very >fast > > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2006 Report Share Posted October 12, 2006 Hi Sara, Great tip, thanks. Charlyne sara cohen wrote: I use really strong solutions osf vinegar water and leave the windows of the car open. For years, on a damp day, the car smelled of vomit because Elie HAD to have his milk in a cup which he would spill in the car, soak in the rug and then sour.. Vinegar got rid of it when I learned to use it. I now use vinegar for dog spots too. And did you know that apple cider vinegar with a couple of drops of dish soap kill fruit flies too?????? Now if vinegar would only take the " sour " out of the politicians I am dealing with............... Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: Re: I had a melt down >Date: Wed, 11 Oct 2006 22:26:49 -0700 (PDT) > >Hi , > LOL, the dog, too! I drive a 12 yr old car so whatever. If I ever get >anything new I will remember to try that Simple Solution. Yes, it was a hot >day but considering that I have a food trailer with a sh---- kid doesn't do >well for inviting customers. Thankfully we cleaned him up before anyone saw >him. > Charlyne > Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? > > wrote: > Charlyne,What a terrible thing to happen at the fair and I am >sure >it was really hot that day. Not helping the smell.Zeb was being a >little " stinker " .I bought this stuff at a Petsmart or is it Pets >Mart. That helps get rid of urine and fecal smells called Stain and >Odor remover made by Simple Solution. They even make a carpet >shampoo that is great. I have an old do that went insane this year >and he goes outside and comes it and tinkles again. I had to buy >diapers for my dog.Well the diapers recommended for a shitzu were >not big enough even though my dog weights like 6 lbs because my dogs >little winky is bigger than him. So I had to buy this simple >solution. is not even trying to wipe he pulls his hand back if I >try to make him. I know life will get better I just keep hoping real >soon. Thanks for sharing your misfortune and it helps to know I am >not alone. Cyndi > > > > Hi , > > I have had a few of those days too. My car still smells like >urine on those damp days. I was never without wipes and a change of >clothes when Zeb was younger. Zeb still has difficulty wiping >himself. I was working at a fair this past summer and Zeb came back >from the restroom with hands and shirt smeared. I had no extra >clothes with me, thankfully, I was able to run to the fair office >and buy him a shirt while dh washed him up before anyone saw him. It >does get better. > > Charlyne > > Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? > > > > wrote: > > Oh Group yesterday was awlful. I was at the therapist >with when > > he did the " dirty Deed " .Of course I left his bag in the car.When I >got > > to the car " no wipes " . I went to Walmart to buy wipes and I did >not > > have any cash and I had left my credit card at a resturant the >night > > before. Walmart told me to gets some wipes so I picked an .86 cent > > pack and the girl opened the package and told me, " take what you > > need " .I felt like I might need the whole pack but I did not want >to > > seem ungreatful,so I took 1/4.I was cleaning up my little guy >while he > > is spreeding you know what everywhere.I was afraid I would use all >the > > wipes for his hands before I could clean his bottom. is very >fast > > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started crying and > > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? Why does anybody > > have to go through this? When does life get better? Cyndi B > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2006 Report Share Posted October 12, 2006 Donna, Thanks for sharing one of your devastingly hard times with me. I would have cried to if I was you.Knowing that all of us deal with the same things is very helpful. Thanks for sharing your bad day. Cyndi > > > In a message dated 10/10/2006 10:24:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > jegm2002@... writes: > > I really needed a pair of handcuffs. I just started > > crying and > > crying.I felt " why " do I have to go through this? > > Why does anybody > > have to go through this? When does life get better? > > > > Cyndi, I roared laughing at Jayne's remark......TODAY? LOL It's true > though. We deserve meltdowns, and a good cry along with it. I have them, > trust me. Once I had Maddie and Allie (a year older) at the dentist, and > Maddie was sitting in the cute little playhouse he had in his office. > Next thing I knew, she'd pooped and smeared it all over the little house. > There I was, on the floor of the dentist's office, scrubbing his > carpet......with a roomful of patients watching me. Yep, I cried at the one for sure. > Hugs, > Donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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