Guest guest Posted August 12, 2004 Report Share Posted August 12, 2004 , Thanks for the tip on trying to get my son's attention. I have so much to learn and am so looking forward to ways to work with . He's a great kid. Last night we were at the playground and he was on the second level of the play area. I kept calling .. pause, pause, pause .. no answer. I was getting looks from parents like " What a disrespectful child you have! " and he's so not .. he's a sweet boy. I wanted to go up there and get directly in his face but I had my other young son down below with me. When he finally strolled down, and not because he ever heard me, he had pooped in his pants (he's 5). I just cried on the way home. I didn't get mad at him cause I really don't think its his fault. He always tells me he can't feel poop coming. Is this possible? Do any of you find that when they are tired, its worse? use to nap 2 to 3 hours a day but recently has been skipping them. It seems so much worse now. , any tips on the loud talking? And, how to help them have a conversation? Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 12, 2004 Report Share Posted August 12, 2004 My son will be 5 next month... September 11th to be exact! He has been a loud talker since he started talking at age 3 months. He has AS. I was told that it was a trait of AS. So you some just may have AS. Its hard to deal with sometimes, but I love him to death. He is my miracle boy. I hope this helps. Myers > > I was wondering if anyone else experiences a HFA that cannot use a > > indoor voice. We want to test his ears but he freaks out when > they > > try the test. We've tried the whisper game but he's not getting > it. > > > > Also, what did some of you think of the lifetime movie " miracle > > run " ? I thought they did a good job of introducing autism to > > america. Not as dramatic as the 60 minute show on ABA. Contrary > to > > what 60 minutes portrayed, there is life after autism. You just > have > > to work harder to get there! > > > > julia in Oregon > > mom of 10yo son w/ aspergers and 5 yo son with HFA. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 12, 2004 Report Share Posted August 12, 2004 Hi Kathy, > He's a great kid. Last night we were at the playground and he was > on the second level of the play area. I kept calling .. pause, > pause, pause .. no answer. I was getting looks from > parents like " What a disrespectful child you have! " and he's so > not .. he's a sweet boy. I wanted to go up there and get directly > in his face but I had my other young son down below with me. It is likely that he didn't know he was expected to answer you. You have to always give very *explicit* instructions eg " <pause>, can you answer me " or <pause>, come down off that climbing frame, it's time to go home " , or whatever. > When he finally strolled down, and not because he ever heard me, he had > pooped in his pants (he's 5). I just cried on the way home. I > didn't get mad at him cause I really don't think its his fault. > > He always tells me he can't feel poop coming. Is this possible? Not only possible, but incredibly common in those with ASD. It is related to 2 things: one, an inability to recognise signals coming from within the body, so he literally doesn't realise that the early signs mean he needs to go to the toilet; two, the fact that when his attention is engaged it is *fully* engaged (so that he'd even miss a nuclear explosion!) and so signals about bodily functions just get ignored. > > Do any of you find that when they are tired, its worse? use > to nap 2 to 3 hours a day but recently has been skipping them. It > seems so much worse now. > Definitely. Doing the 'pretending to be normal' thing (ie trying their hardest to fit in within a world which really just is a mass of confusion where people don't say what they mean etc) is mentally exhausting. It is much harder to do it when tired. Try to make sure he has plenty of time where he is not expected to interact with people (including family), which is what sleeping used to achieve for him. in England Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 13, 2004 Report Share Posted August 13, 2004 Austin will also be 5 next month and he also would rather play with girls. He is more interested in girl things like baby dolls and barbies. I think in his case, he likes girls because he is more used to girls. I have two nieces and he plays really well with them because they have been told since day one about Austin's problems. I have learned that kids actually want to understand why children and people act the way they do. So he automatically takes to girls better because of this. Austin whines and screams just like your son, and at times it can get pretty frustrating.... especially in the car. But my nieces understand him and that helps. I read a book to them called " Little Rainman " and it really helped them see why Austin acts the way he does. I think if a child understands about the disease it makes it a little better for them to cope with the situation. I also try to tell the girls when he does whine to keep reminding him that he is a big boy and he needs to use his words to tell us what is wrong. They also have been getting into the habit of telling him to " stop and think " before he goes to hit them. They can tell by his facial cues when he is going to strike or when he becomes overstimulated. So if this little girl is going to be around him so often, maybe you should try to familiarize her with his disease. Myers Finance Westminster Union Bank *********************************************************************** The opinion expressed in this e-mail message are those of the sender alone and do not represent the position of Mercantile Bankshares Corporation or its Affiliates unless specifically so stated herein. Additionally, the information contained in this message is intended only for the persons to whom it is addressed and may contain confidential or privileged material. Copying, distributing, dissemination, reliance on, or other use of the information by persons other than the intended recipient(s) is prohibited. If you received this message in error, please notify the sender and delete the entire message from any computer. *********************************************************************** To: autism-aspergers From: momofomar[saminats]@yahoo.com Date: Thu, 12 Aug 2004 20:44:24 -0000 Subject: Re: loud talker Reply-To: autism-aspergers X-HDT-HopCount: 1 > I was wondering if anyone else experiences a HFA that cannot use a > indoor voice. We want to test his ears but he freaks out when they > try the test. We've tried the whisper game but he's not getting it. > Hi and all, My son (AS) will turn 5 next month and has no " inside voice " ; I don't think I have ever heard talk at a normal volume. He also started interrupting people more and more. The little girl we carpool with to summer camp complains about these issues. She used to play with regularly but seems to dislike him more and more because of these issues and his other faux pas, i.e. my son's insistence on " copying her " and his loud whining when she says she's playing exclusively with other girls. Yes, it's a bit rude that she brags about leaving out (and I've talked to her about that). But I wish he wouldn't take it so hard, because the louder he whines about it in front of her, the more she doesn't want to play with him. True, girls at this age are increasingly interested in playing exclusively with girls. And unfortunately, all the kids his age on our street are girls. But I do think my son's above-mentioned lack of social skills contribute to his isolation. I have tried to find male friends for him, but it isn't easy. We got together for a playdate with a Mom and her son (a classmate) and her 3 yr.-old daughter. Our sons hardly interacted. seemed to play much more alongside the little girl, especially when, at his house, the 4-yr old boy closed himself in a room to play video games. Incidentally, based on my observations and some tidbits the classmate's Mom told me (i.e. he sometimes spins and is not very social), that her son has Aspergers' as well. Has anyone found, AS or not, that it is difficult to arrange playdates for 4-5 yr. boys? Or is this really an AS problem? For those parents who have young boys with AS, have you found that your sons prefer to socialize with girls? This may seem trivial to some, but I am trying to understand my son better, and determine what I can do to help him socially for the road ahead. Any suggestions would be appreciated as well. ~Sam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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