Re: second child

[Guest guest]

My husband and I also worried about having another child after we found out our

daughter was autistic. He wanted another child since all the therapists kept

saying a sibling was " the best therapy! " My response was always the

same......Hell No! I was afraid that I'd end up in therapy with another child!

However, after our daughter turned 5 we found out I was pregnant. My duaghter

had slowly progressed and I was terrified but we met the challenge head on. All

I can say is that our second child (8 months old now) is the biggest blessing my

daughter could receive. Don't get me wrong, the first 2 months were awful. I

thought I was going to have to give the baby up for adoption just for Her

protection! Ha Ha Joking! My older daughter was angry, aggressive, and would

try to hurt herself during the first 2 months. But we kept on and took things

slowly. Yes there were lots of tears and prayers but one day my older daughter

just looked at the baby and said, " That's Georgi's baby sister! " She was

starting to speak in complete sentences so the sentence alone was a big thing.

The thing was that up to that point, Georgi did not really socialize with anyone

unless she wanted to. So, some days she was here but not " really " here. Since

that day, Georgi tries to involve herself into our lives. She talks to her

" baby sister " and talks to ME!!! I can even ask her a question and she will

respond on a good day! To be honest, I am not sure what caused the sudden

change in Georgi but all I can say is that my husband and I feel adding a

sibling to the mix sure did make her want to join us in our everyday lives. She

still has her days and she still does things that sets her apart from the

" normal " kids but for the first time in her life, I feel like I have a daughter

that knows I exist.

CL

[Guest guest]

--I was hesitating to ask this question about second child. I am soo

glad I did. thanks for all the wonderful replies and opinions, it

helps

thanks

Bharathi

- In Texas-Autism-Advocacy , stringerup@a... wrote:

> CL,

> Your story is very beautiful. It made me cry.

> Best wishes,

> Lori

>

> In a message dated 10/23/2003 9:54:44 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

elopez@n... writes:

>

> > My husband and I also worried about having another child after we

found out our daughter was autistic. He wanted another child since

all the therapists kept saying a sibling was " the best therapy! " My

response was always the same......Hell No! I was afraid that I'd

end up in therapy with another child! However, after our daughter

turned 5 we found out I was pregnant. My duaghter had slowly

progressed and I was terrified but we met the challenge head on. All

I can say is that our second child (8 months old now) is the biggest

blessing my daughter could receive. Don't get me wrong, the first 2

months were awful. I thought I was going to have to give the baby up

for adoption just for Her protection! Ha Ha Joking! My older

daughter was angry, aggressive, and would try to hurt herself during

the first 2 months. But we kept on and took things slowly. Yes

there were lots of tears and prayers but one day my older daughter

just looked at the baby and said, " That's Georgi's baby sister! "

She was starting to speak in complete sentences so the sentence alone

was a big thing. The thing was that up to that point, Georgi did

not really socialize with anyone unless she wanted to. So, some days

she was here but not " really " here. Since that day, Georgi tries to

involve herself into our lives. She talks to her " baby sister " and

talks to ME!!! I can even ask her a question and she will respond

on a good day! To be honest, I am not sure what caused the sudden

change in Georgi but all I can say is that my husband and I feel

adding a sibling to the mix sure did make her want to join us in our

everyday lives. She still has her days and she still does things

that sets her apart from the " normal " kids but for the first time in

her

> > life, I feel like I have a daughter that knows I exist.

> >

> > CL