Re: To Horsemom (may be VERY offensive)

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/29/00 10:45:43 AM Eastern Standard Time,

tara_2424@... writes:

<< Your wa of thnking is very selfish, you don't take

other peoples perspectives into consideration and for that YOU

SUCK!!!!! Everyone else......Thank you and Goodbye...I will be sure to

persuade anyone I know NOT to be a part of this group. Thank you for

taking this from me!!!! >>

You are entitled to your opinion but you really could have chosen a more

respectful way of expressing it.

[Guest guest]

Tara,

[Guest guest]

sandy fields wrote:

original article:/group/tae-bo_on/?start=9482

> This looks like a personal message to Barb from Tara and should have

been

> sent to Barb via private email rather than subjecting the entire list

to

> this very personal attack.

>

> This, my friends, was a flame. It's OK to disagree with people.

That's

> what makes the world go round, and we've had disagreements here

before. But

> to specifically tell a person that their way of thinking is selfish

and to

> counter with a very childish " you suck " is a flame. I don't think

flaming

> is allowed on this list; and if that's the way Tara handles things

when she

> doesn't agree with someone, she's not going to last very long on the

> internet. She could have very simply voiced her disagreement with

Barb,

> and even indicated that it hurt her in some way, without getting

nasty and

> personal.

>

> We don't need that kind of nastiness here.

>

> -- Sandy

> Sannicron Web Design

> http://www.sannicron.com

[Guest guest]

I agree, Sandy...I got this yucky feeling in the pit of my stomach. We

all make mistakes ... we all state our opinions strongly...and we do

so, here, without hearing vocal inflections or seeing facial

expressions. This makes what we say easy to misinterpret or

misunderstand.

Tara, I'm sorry you were hurt. I've been hurt here before and

considered not posting anymore. I am glad I stayed onboard. I hope

you decide to stay...we've valued your presence here, but I also hope

you find better ways to cope with your feelings and how you express

them when conflict arises...and it will, because it's a part of life

and relating to others.

Barbara, you have been a huge source of support to the folks in this

groups. You have given so much of yourself to all of us here. I am

grateful you're here and a part of my life.

Peace to all of you,

F

sandy fields wrote:

original article:/group/tae-bo_on/?start=9482

> This looks like a personal message to Barb from Tara and should have

been

> sent to Barb via private email rather than subjecting the entire list

to

> this very personal attack.

>

> This, my friends, was a flame. It's OK to disagree with people.

That's

> what makes the world go round, and we've had disagreements here

before. But

> to specifically tell a person that their way of thinking is selfish

and to

> counter with a very childish " you suck " is a flame. I don't think

flaming

> is allowed on this list; and if that's the way Tara handles things

when she

> doesn't agree with someone, she's not going to last very long on the

> internet. She could have very simply voiced her disagreement with

Barb,

> and even indicated that it hurt her in some way, without getting

nasty and

> personal.

>

> We don't need that kind of nastiness here.

>

> -- Sandy

> Sannicron Web Design

> http://www.sannicron.com

[Guest guest]

This looks like a personal message to Barb from Tara and should have been

sent to Barb via private email rather than subjecting the entire list to

this very personal attack.

This, my friends, was a flame. It's OK to disagree with people. That's

what makes the world go round, and we've had disagreements here before. But

to specifically tell a person that their way of thinking is selfish and to

counter with a very childish " you suck " is a flame. I don't think flaming

is allowed on this list; and if that's the way Tara handles things when she

doesn't agree with someone, she's not going to last very long on the

internet. She could have very simply voiced her disagreement with Barb,

and even indicated that it hurt her in some way, without getting nasty and

personal.

We don't need that kind of nastiness here.

-- Sandy

Sannicron Web Design

http://www.sannicron.com

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/29/00 11:35:53 AM Eastern Standard Time,

srferron@... writes:

<< I agree, Sandy...I got this yucky feeling in the pit of my stomach. We

all make mistakes ... we all state our opinions strongly...and we do

so, here, without hearing vocal inflections or seeing facial

expressions. This makes what we say easy to misinterpret or

misunderstand.

Tara, I'm sorry you were hurt. I've been hurt here before and

considered not posting anymore. I am glad I stayed onboard. I hope

you decide to stay...we've valued your presence here, but I also hope

you find better ways to cope with your feelings and how you express

them when conflict arises...and it will, because it's a part of life

and relating to others.

Barbara, you have been a huge source of support to the folks in this

groups. You have given so much of yourself to all of us here. I am

grateful you're here and a part of my life.

Peace to all of you,

F

>>

I agree with you 100% Sandy. This group is wonderful and conflicts are a

natural part of life so of course they will occur in this group also. They

just need to be dealt with in a mature way. I'm also grateful for this group

and everyone in it. Thank-You !!

Pam

Pam

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 01/30/2000 8:14:05 PM Pacific Standard Time,

Pamela1897@... writes:

<< Peace to all of you,

F >>

Peace right back at you LOL

Amy

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 01/30/2000 8:14:05 PM Pacific Standard Time,

Pamela1897@... writes:

<< I'm also grateful for this group

and everyone in it. Thank-You !!

Pam

>>

We are grateful to you too Pam!!!

Amy