RE: I need to vent

[Guest guest]

I'm a male, so...

Why not get a Wireless Access Point/router so your husband doesn't have

to swap cables? $150 seems like a small amount for your sanity. Where

I grew up when dogs did something really bad they got shot. Typically,

the neighbor would shoot them after they wandered on to his property and

chased his chickens. Lost 7 or 8 by the time I was 11. Probably won't

work in your case. Lots more photos up at

http://spaces.msn.com/members/babyavsbabyb.

I need to vent

Hello to all,

I needed to vent a little and it has nothing to do with Ds!

My husband is an insulin dependant diabetic and the day after Christmas

while at his parents house he had a low sugar episode. He was going

into their garage for something and passed out cold. his sister

followed him in seconds later and found him face down. She called his

name and he got up. I got some juice in him and he was fine.... from

that. He complained about his pinky toe hurting and to make a long

story short, he had broken the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th toe as well as

dislocating his pinky. He had surgery on Thursday where they placed

three pins in the broken toes and he has been on his back with his foot

higher than his heart since December 26th. that means that I have done

EVERYTHING for him and my four kids and still trying to keep everyone at

my job happy. I'm stressing out. I am sick of waking up at 4:45 to get

myself ready before I wake everyone else up so that they can all eat

breakfast before gets on the bus at 7am. After I fix Brad

breakfast, I take the other 3 to daycare and get to work myself. When I

come home, I fix dinner, bathe the boys, get them in front of a Baby

Einstein movie, get the girls in the tub, feed the dogs, put a load of

clothes in, put the boys to bed, clean up from dinner, load the

dishwasher, read to the girls, brush their teeth, get them to bed,

switch the clothes, and clean up the house, and try to get into bed by

11p. What bothers me the most is that although Brad can't do anything, I

have asked two things of him. I have asked that he keep the dogs out of

the living room because I think it makes Will's breathing worse when he

rolls around on the floor with dog stuff on it and to switch the cords

and restart the computer when he changes it to use his laptop. Not too

much to ask, right?????? Last night I tried to get on line to send my

Mom a cute picture and he had switched the cords for his laptop so I had

to unplug his, plug mine back in and restart it. I know it doesn't

sound like a big deal but it bugs me and he knows it. well, tonight, I

came in here to email 's school with updated info and again, his

plug was in. I sighed LOUDLY and he went off on me.

He yelled at me saying that I was trying to make him feel bad that I was

so stressed out. I told him that what I was complaining about was the

computer and he told me that I shouldn't stress out about the little

stuff and it wasn't a big deal. that was after I came home to find him

on the sofa (where I do want him to be) with the three dogs laying on

the floor in there with him in the living room. He has TWO jobs while

he is laid up and he doesn't do them but he yells at me? Oh, Lord, give

me strenght!!! Thank you for letting me vent. I had to get it out or I

would have EXPLODED! I keep thinking that I am so glad it was just his

foot. He could have broken his neck and I'd be doing this for the rest

of my life so what is 8 weeks? Right? Well, I've got to go, tomorrow

is garbage day and I have to roll the cans to the street.

mom to (6), (3)

Will(ds) and Jake(14 months)

More pictures of our kids:

http://www.pbase.com/urriegrl/multiplesds

[Guest guest]

,

I hope I am not alone in saying this is a great place to vent because while

we may all have different challenges we do all have challenges.

My husband had surgery in June and by September we were separated. There

was something about doing it all and scrubbing his armpits that just broke

me. I had two children in two hospitals two hours apart and he couldn't be

at either place because he was too stressed out. How is it we can have a

c-section and be caring for newborns and toddlers within hours?

Simplify what you can. Paper plates are good. Stouffers Lasagna and bag

salad is good. Eggo waffles are good. He can fold laundry while sitting on

the couch. Give everyone a laundry basket of their own (use different

colors or label) and ask them to put their stuff in it at the end of the day

(toys, etc.) and carry it to their room. Admit your house probably isn't

going to be in Good Housekeeping magazine in the next couple months and

anyone coming over better bring a casserole. Have your son's pediatrician

(especially if it is a man) call your husband about the dogs because maybe

he doesn't understand directions in " feminese. " You could lose the laptop

cable in the toy box too, but that only if things get really desperate.

It is the small stuff that makes us and breaks us so please hang in there.

Suze mom to Nicolas and Kristopher (Identical/13/Opitz) and Gavin (4/DS)

I need to vent

Hello to all,

I needed to vent a little and it has nothing to do with Ds!

My husband is an insulin dependant diabetic and the day after

Christmas while at his parents house he had a low sugar episode. He

was going into their garage for something and passed out cold. his

sister followed him in seconds later and found him face down. She

called his name and he got up. I got some juice in him and he was

fine.... from that. He complained about his pinky toe hurting and

to make a long story short, he had broken the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th toe

as well as dislocating his pinky. He had surgery on Thursday where

they placed three pins in the broken toes and he has been on his

back with his foot higher than his heart since December 26th. that

means that I have done EVERYTHING for him and my four kids and still

trying to keep everyone at my job happy. I'm stressing out. I am

sick of waking up at 4:45 to get myself ready before I wake everyone

else up so that they can all eat breakfast before gets on the

bus at 7am. After I fix Brad breakfast, I take the other 3 to

daycare and get to work myself. When I come home, I fix dinner,

bathe the boys, get them in front of a Baby Einstein movie, get the

girls in the tub, feed the dogs, put a load of clothes in, put the

boys to bed, clean up from dinner, load the dishwasher, read to the

girls, brush their teeth, get them to bed, switch the clothes, and

clean up the house, and try to get into bed by 11p. What bothers me

the most is that although Brad can't do anything, I have asked two

things of him. I have asked that he keep the dogs out of the living

room because I think it makes Will's breathing worse when he rolls

around on the floor with dog stuff on it and to switch the cords and

restart the computer when he changes it to use his laptop. Not too

much to ask, right?????? Last night I tried to get on line to send

my Mom a cute picture and he had switched the cords for his laptop

so I had to unplug his, plug mine back in and restart it. I know it

doesn't sound like a big deal but it bugs me and he knows it. well,

tonight, I came in here to email 's school with updated info

and again, his plug was in. I sighed LOUDLY and he went off on me.

He yelled at me saying that I was trying to make him feel bad that I

was so stressed out. I told him that what I was complaining about

was the computer and he told me that I shouldn't stress out about

the little stuff and it wasn't a big deal. that was after I came

home to find him on the sofa (where I do want him to be) with the

three dogs laying on the floor in there with him in the living

room. He has TWO jobs while he is laid up and he doesn't do them

but he yells at me? Oh, Lord, give me strenght!!! Thank you for

letting me vent. I had to get it out or I would have EXPLODED! I

keep thinking that I am so glad it was just his foot. He could have

broken his neck and I'd be doing this for the rest of my life so

what is 8 weeks? Right? Well, I've got to go, tomorrow is garbage

day and I have to roll the cans to the street.

mom to (6), (3)

Will(ds) and Jake(14 months)

More pictures of our kids:

http://www.pbase.com/urriegrl/multiplesds

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

This is a great place to vent. You weren't out of line, as I would be dealing with the stress you have right now, the same way. I don't have a lot of time to write, now; just know that I am thinking of you and understand how you feel--it is a lot of work being a mom to 4 children and a husband who is laid up. Caretakers need to take care of themselves, most importantly. Share your story and then ask for help, plan something that will re-energize you.

Keep in touch and let us know how things are going.

Marcia

Mom to Sara (DS) and Gabe 11 and Lucas 15

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

DITTO on what Marcia and the others said! Thank you for sharing. You said it perfect when you described all that has to be done for the children, and that's if they are healthy! I don't understand how men seem to be able to put stuff in their heads in order to be comfortable with not being a good husband and role model for their kids, as far as making a contribution to the home. A contribution is not just about bringing a paycheck home. Way too many guys are "checked out" emotionally or act like just another child in the home.

Hang in there, Girl!

Regards,

Granata

-----Original Message-----From: Multiples-DS [mailto:Multiples-DS ]On Behalf Of Rrietmann@...Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2006 11:34 AMTo: Multiples-DS Subject: Re: I need to vent

Hi ,

This is a great place to vent. You weren't out of line, as I would be dealing with the stress you have right now, the same way. I don't have a lot of time to write, now; just know that I am thinking of you and understand how you feel--it is a lot of work being a mom to 4 children and a husband who is laid up. Caretakers need to take care of themselves, most importantly. Share your story and then ask for help, plan something that will re-energize you.

Keep in touch and let us know how things are going.

Marcia

Mom to Sara (DS) and Gabe 11 and Lucas 15

[Guest guest]

Oh , I just read your e-mail-----and I already read your updated e-mail. It really does help to vent. I also loved everyone's responses. I, too , believe that females are just too good at multitasking and men are just......well......men. One thing I gave up for New Year's is food shopping. I have a food shopping order delivered to my door every Wednesday between 3:00-5:00 and it really helps not having to make stops at the food store. It saves a lot of time. I do an entire food order on line in about 20 minutes and if I went to the grocery store it would be an hour in there, 5 minutes ride home, then about a half hour bringing it in and putting it all away. Huge time saver; I don't know if you have this option but I thought I would put it out there. I'm glad you and Brad talked and I hope he's doing better. Hang in there.....

Sherrill

mom to Jillian 8, and (D/s) 4

and wife to Sam who works about 80 hours a week!!!!!

[Guest guest]

Thank you all so much for understanding. I calmed down after I posted and Brad

said he was sorry and we talked about why I got upset so all is well in my world

now. He is just feeling like a slug but I think he feels better now that we

talked. Thanks again for letting me vent and all of the support and advice.

>

> From: Rrietmann@...

> Date: 2006/01/10 Tue AM 11:33:42 EST

> To: Multiples-DS

> Subject: Re: I need to vent

>

> Hi ,

>

> This is a great place to vent. You weren't out of line, as I would be dealing

> with the stress you have right now, the same way. I don't have a lot of time

> to write, now; just know that I am thinking of you and understand how you

> feel--it is a lot of work being a mom to 4 children and a husband who is laid

up.

> Caretakers need to take care of themselves, most importantly. Share your

> story and then ask for help, plan something that will re-energize you.

>

> Keep in touch and let us know how things are going.

>

> Marcia

> Mom to Sara (DS) and Gabe 11 and Lucas 15

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks, good idea about the food. I'll have to look into it.

>

> From: SETREB@...

> Date: 2006/01/10 Tue PM 10:53:22 EST

> To: Multiples-DS

> Subject: Re: I need to vent

>

> Oh , I just read your e-mail-----and I already read your updated

> e-mail. It really does help to vent. I also loved everyone's responses. I,

too

> , believe that females are just too good at multitasking and men are

> just......well......men. One thing I gave up for New Year's is food

shopping. I

> have a food shopping order delivered to my door every Wednesday between

> 3:00-5:00 and it really helps not having to make stops at the food store. It

saves a

> lot of time. I do an entire food order on line in about 20 minutes and if I

> went to the grocery store it would be an hour in there, 5 minutes ride home,

> then about a half hour bringing it in and putting it all away. Huge time

> saver; I don't know if you have this option but I thought I would put it out

> there. I'm glad you and Brad talked and I hope he's doing better. Hang in

> there.....

>

> Sherrill

> mom to Jillian 8, and (D/s) 4

> and wife to Sam who works about 80 hours a week!!!!!

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

You're so funny; you always crack me up. I totally agree with you. I have few precious hours to myself and lately I have been keeping them for myself and watching Regis and or reading a book (a true crime or juicy hot romance) instead of cramming a million things that are on my LIST!!!!

Hey, I never received a Christmas card from you; I was dying to put faces with the names I know so well......

Sherrill

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I just read your reply to 's e-mail and thought I was reading my own!!!! We should make our own Stepford Wives movie!!! I love that movie.

Sherrill

mom to Jillian 8, and (D/s) 4

[Guest guest]

Oh please! I love my husband and my kids but good Lord...enough is enough sometimes. I never signed up for all of this overwhelming daily stuff. Really...five other people are totally dependent on me to put food...well....from the grocery store to the cupboard to the table....every day...3 times a day! Laundry! BORING. I have been a stay-at-home Mom for 10 years. This is the first year that all of them are in school full time...I am like livin in Nirvana compared to the last couple of years. I have 6 hours a day to get what I need to get done...DONE! I'm still behind. Homework for three of them takes forever. I sit there and really think that stabing myself with the pencil will be more enjoyable than grammar school homework times 3. Uggggggggggggg

On the flip I have found somethings to do all by myself. I started taking guitar lessons and cross country skiing again. I know you all are so busy and have little time but I really do believe it is crucial to carve out your own niche...do something. Saturday mornings I go to the gym and out for coffee with my girl friend. I love that time. For years I stayed home and stayed home and oh...went to the grocery or Walmart. YEARS. It'll get better....just believe it...it has to get better. Sometimes you have to do something to make it better but life always has to get better...right?

Quinn-9, Sara and Maggie-7, Teddy-5

[Guest guest]

Hi , Your email made me laugh, and gave me hope... Thank you! HA-HA! -- ...all these dependent people on me AND groceries and Walmart, and Costco and Target -- MANNNN, do you have me pegged... Gym; coffee w/ a girlfriend -- what's that? Thanks, Granata

-----Original Message-----From: Multiples-DS [mailto:Multiples-DS ]On Behalf Of StaufferSent: Wednesday, January 11, 2006 8:39 PMTo: Multiples-DS Subject: RE: I need to vent

Oh please! I love my husband and my kids but good Lord...enough is enough sometimes. I never signed up for all of this overwhelming daily stuff. Really...five other people are totally dependent on me to put food...well....from the grocery store to the cupboard to the table....every day...3 times a day! Laundry! BORING. I have been a stay-at-home Mom for 10 years. This is the first year that all of them are in school full time...I am like livin in Nirvana compared to the last couple of years. I have 6 hours a day to get what I need to get done...DONE! I'm still behind. Homework for three of them takes forever. I sit there and really think that stabing myself with the pencil will be more enjoyable than grammar school homework times 3. Uggggggggggggg

On the flip I have found somethings to do all by myself. I started taking guitar lessons and cross country skiing again. I know you all are so busy and have little time but I really do believe it is crucial to carve out your own niche...do something. Saturday mornings I go to the gym and out for coffee with my girl friend. I love that time. For years I stayed home and stayed home and oh...went to the grocery or Walmart. YEARS. It'll get better....just believe it...it has to get better. Sometimes you have to do something to make it better but life always has to get better...right?

Quinn-9, Sara and Maggie-7, Teddy-5

[Guest guest]

Thats funny, Sherrill!

Never saw Stepford Wives - but I will put it on my list of movies to see when the kids are grown up - yeah, right! How 'bout us all having our own series of "Desperate Housewives" without any sex?! Whats that anyway?!

-, Mom to 3 under 3ish -- 2w/DS +1 who's a WILDMAN!

-----Original Message-----From: Multiples-DS [mailto:Multiples-DS ]On Behalf Of SETREB@...Sent: Wednesday, January 11, 2006 10:36 PMTo: Multiples-DS Subject: Re: I need to vent

Hi ,

I just read your reply to 's e-mail and thought I was reading my own!!!! We should make our own Stepford Wives movie!!! I love that movie.

Sherrill

mom to Jillian 8, and (D/s) 4