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Hmm

to paraphrase a song:

I can see clearly now, my judgments gone!

There are no obstacles in my way.

thanks all

steve

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martha,

thanks for your thought about thoughts - i can see my judgements more clearly

now...

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Martha

Thanks for the I am afraid part. For now, I think I wil add it to my working

template.

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i am afraid

dear lynn,

you wrote:

" I search X's face looking for signs of danger and signs of what I hope

for--love that overcomes our challenge--but not finding that

grace, instead finding that pushing away, those hurtful cutting looks. "

in here it seems to me you do say pretty simply what you are wanting/needing

from X:

love

grace

i need X to love me

i need X to give me grace

* * *

for awhile i played with this exercise: every time i did the Work, when

answering " How do you feel when you believe this? " , i would include the

statement: " I am afraid _________. " i would try to put into words what

i was afraid of. and then inquire into the truth of that.

i discover that every single piece i work on involves fear. (usually of

being abandoned, helpless, alone, ultimately some kind of end of me.)

it comes to seem to me that inside me fear is the ground of every

painful belief. and it seems to always be the same essential fear: " i

am " fears " i " -not.

and each time i rediscover how fear is not real. the work gives me a

respite from my constant fear.

wow! maybe the reason the work expands and spreads its peace internally

within is because the experience of freedom it gives is timeless: the

moments of freedom while doing the inquiry might seem to only last a few

seconds, but the nature of that freedom is outside all measurement . .

..

to :

as i am writing my insights and understandings, i am not present. i am

mentally playing/working with concepts. yet i write and share with the

belief that by doing so i somehow support an inner movement toward

conscious awakening. i understood something, both mentally and more

wholly; i try to articulate it, in words, i send it in a message, others

may resonate in words i read, all this may arise again out of memory

some day to wake me up again when i've forgotten it . . . i believe this

has happened: " oh yes! here i am AGAIN, i've been here before " . . . i

wonder if this is really true. . . and how i might be getting in my own

way by believing it . . . (probably i never really left)

a thought turned around is still a thought, written on paper. the work

itself seems to suggest to me that the writing down of thoughts, and

sharing of them, has a great power. advaita teaching, as i understand

it, is that the mind cannot undo the mind, and yet -- in the work it's

the mind that we ride at first, that carries us, until it doesn't, into

freedom.

just playing with thoughts again

enjoying your offerings

love

martha

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Martha, I love your clarity.

" each time i rediscover how fear is not real "

I'd love to hear you elaborate on this, how it plays out for you.

Do you feel the sensation of fear in your body, stay with it,

accompany it , so to speak, and find it can dissipate into nothing.

That's often my experience. I remind myself consciously that this

fear is not real, it is not the truth of my being, it's just showing

up looking to be felt and released.

I like Adyashanti's statement " illusions are dying to open " .

Love, Margaret

Just remembering how A Course in Miracles says there are only two

emotions - love and fear. Anything other than the experience of love

will have to spring from fear so your inquiry into " I am afraid

__________ " makes good sense.

> " I search X's face looking for

> signs of danger and signs of what I hope

> for--love that overcomes our

> challenge--but not finding that grace,

> instead finding that pushing away,

> those hurtful cutting looks. "

>

> in here it seems to me you do say pretty simply what you are

> wanting/needing from X:

> love

> grace

>

> i need X to love me

> i need X to give me grace

> * * *

>

> for awhile i played with this exercise: every time i did the Work,

when

> answering " How do you feel when you believe this? " , i would include

the

> statement: " I am afraid _________. " i would try to put into words

what

> i was afraid of. and then inquire into the truth of that.

>

> i discover that every single piece i work on involves fear.

(usually of

> being abandoned, helpless, alone, ultimately some kind of end of

me.)

> it comes to seem to me that inside me fear is the ground of every

> painful belief. and it seems to always be the same essential

fear: " i

> am " fears " i " -not.

>

> and each time i rediscover how fear is not real. the work gives me

a

> respite from my constant fear.

>

> wow! maybe the reason the work expands and spreads its peace

internally

> within is because the experience of freedom it gives is timeless:

the

> moments of freedom while doing the inquiry might seem to only last

a few

> seconds, but the nature of that freedom is outside all

measurement . .

> .

>

> to :

>

> as i am writing my insights and understandings, i am not present.

i am

> mentally playing/working with concepts. yet i write and share with

the

> belief that by doing so i somehow support an inner movement toward

> conscious awakening. i understood something, both mentally and more

> wholly; i try to articulate it, in words, i send it in a message,

others

> may resonate in words i read, all this may arise again out of memory

> some day to wake me up again when i've forgotten it . . . i believe

this

> has happened: " oh yes! here i am AGAIN, i've been here

before " . . . i

> wonder if this is really true. . . and how i might be getting in my

own

> way by believing it . . . (probably i never really left)

>

> a thought turned around is still a thought, written on paper. the

work

> itself seems to suggest to me that the writing down of thoughts, and

> sharing of them, has a great power. advaita teaching, as i

understand

> it, is that the mind cannot undo the mind, and yet -- in the work

it's

> the mind that we ride at first, that carries us, until it doesn't,

into

> freedom.

>

> just playing with thoughts again

>

> enjoying your offerings

>

> love

> martha

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Margaret,

I have done the work on fear, anger, and sadness with some very interesting

results

ie this is anger - is it true? - it doesnt go away so much as i viscerally

realize that to experience what i am epxeriencing is wonderful, alive, vital,

joyous without my story that it is fear, anger, sadness

fear is so close to excitement - sadness is so close to tender hearted joy -

anger is so close to feeling ecstatic celebration - without the story

the bodily experience apart from the thought " anger, fear, sadness " ... is much

more life affirming in my experience -

some of the most viscerally potent work i've done was on my story on these

emotions.....not on the story associated with the emotion...but the story about

the experience itself...

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" fear is so close to excitement - sadness is so close to tender

hearted joy -

anger is so close to feeling ecstatic celebration - without the story

the bodily experience apart from the thought " anger, fear,

sadness " ... is much

more life affirming in my experience "

I've noticed that when I remember/am able to drop the story/thoughts

about the emotion, it really is felt as just sensations in the body,

not so bad at all, really.

I've been feeling anger coursing through me the last few days, not a

vicious anger but more like a force, an energy that's proclaiming " I

don't give a shit what people think anymore " and that feels

celebratory.

Sadness can feel deliciously sweet, at times.

I contract more around fear - it's my least favorite emotion.

Love, Margaret

> Margaret,

> I have done the work on fear, anger, and sadness with some very

interesting results

>

> ie this is anger - is it true? - it doesnt go away so much as i

viscerally realize that to experience what i am epxeriencing is

wonderful, alive, vital, joyous without my story that it is fear,

anger, sadness

>

> fear is so close to excitement - sadness is so close to tender

hearted joy - anger is so close to feeling ecstatic celebration -

without the story

>

> the bodily experience apart from the thought " anger, fear,

sadness " ... is much more life affirming in my experience -

>

> some of the most viscerally potent work i've done was on my story

on these emotions.....not on the story associated with the

emotion...but the story about the experience itself...

>

>

>

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Fear Sucks

OOPs time to take out another worksheet.

steve

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I contract more around fear - it's my least favorite emotion.

Love, Margaret

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" each time i rediscover how fear is not real "

Haven't you learned the acronym?

False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

Of course, as Neale Walsch says, it can also mean

F**k

Everything

And

Run

:-)

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Margaret said:

> Just remembering how A Course in Miracles says there are only two

> emotions - love and fear. Anything other than the experience of love

> will have to spring from fear so your inquiry into " I am afraid

> __________ " makes good sense.

ACM also says only love is real; fear is an illusion, just as light is real and

dark is merely its

absence. Fear is only a forgetting of love, and when we do The Work and look

fear in the

face, we find it hasn't one. And there's the love.

Sam

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