Re: Single or Divorced Parents with Autistic Children. Do you experience the same?

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On 12/14/03 10:23 PM, " (Roslyn) Brittany's Mother "

wrote:

What a heartbreaking story. I am in the middle of a divorce right now

myself. No the jerk and your other sister aren¹t right. She does not have

to stay in that kind of a relationship. There are good men out there who

will love her and her son. She just needs to be patient. She does not

deserve to be stuck with a man like that nor does she have to. I want to

take your other sister and put her over my knee for encouraging her own

sister to stay with a man who treats her so horribly.

Shauna

> Was my sister’s former abusive husband right? My sister was married

> to her husband for 17 agonizing years, she suffered much abuse both

> physically, and mentally. She’s much better, but dealing with

> loneliness. Her ex-husband once told her that she might as well stay

> married to him, because no one else would be interested in her with

> her retarded son. Our older sister is supporting to return to

> the abusive relationship because she too believes that the only

> person wants her is the ex. I believe differently. I’m finding it

> quite challenging trying to be the positive one in the group, but

> have no proof to back my positive talk. Was my sister’s former

> abusive husband right? Is ’s chance for love over? She's

> beautiful, but when a guy find out about her son , they have a

> sudden change of heart. I told her to find someone who shares the

> same experience with his or her own child. That way, understanding

> would be reached. I need help and advice, If you can help me, help my

> sister, I would truly appreciate it. Thanks!

>

> If you could point me in the right direction, perhaps there’s a

> singles group in Houston with like interest?

>

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[Guest guest]

Shauna,

Thanks again for responding. I'm so concern for because if

any of her children mess up and get in trouble, she blames herself

and the decision to leave her marriage. Now, she's blaming us for

helping her and the kids excape the abuse. It's awful! At first, I

could talk to her about anything, but when I tell her that I'm mad at

my husband for some reasdon, she goes into this long bit about how I

should stay in my marriage. I said nothing about leaving my husband,

he's wonderful, just drives me crazy with his junk collections. But

when I tell anything negative, she'll tell me not to divorce him

because my daughter will turn out bad. And all of a sudden, it's

about her and not the person who's complaining. Sorry for the long

post, but I'm getting frustrated.