Re: Question

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In a message dated 6/15/02 11:18:19 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

marycgould@... writes:

> When I turn that around and say " I don't wish I had a

> bigger house " it doesn't ring true. It's not true. I still wish I had a

> bigger house. It doesn't end my perpetual suffering because I'm

> always wishing for something more than what I have.

>

It has been my experience that behind those " wishes " is a belief that I

" should " have what I wish for...or that I " need " it. So I would try " I

should have a bigger house " or " I need a bigger house " and see if that rings

true for you...

I have found out some very interesting and wonderful things about myself by

investigating these kinds of beliefs

I'm glad you are here

Love,

[Guest guest]

You might look at the belief underlying the wish. If the belief is, " We don't

have a big enough house, " or " We have too little money/We need more money, "

you may find it easier to do the inquiry on that statement.

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cortemaderamom wrote:

> First and foremost, I have always envied others and think, " I wish

> I had a bigger house " , " I wish we had more money " , I wish I wish

> I wish. When I turn that around and say " I don't wish I had a

> bigger house " it doesn't ring true. It's not true. I still wish I

> had a bigger house. It doesn't end my perpetual suffering because

> I'm always wishing for something more than what I have.

>

> How can the work help me?

The Work is best done against a statement of belief or judgement. Why

do you wish for a bigger house? Why do you wish for more money? What

is it that you think you would gain if you had more money and a

bigger house?

When you dig down to the underlying beliefs that are creating your

discontent, you'll have found fertile ground for Inquiry.

Peace and love,

Warren

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Suzanne,

I don't know if this will help, but I also have a now 4 yr old son with very

similar issues.  First thing is that I never go back on my word.  If I say no,

that means no and that's it.  I used to give in now and then but it seemed as if

he could not accept that uncertainty and would keep at it and at it forever, so

now no means no ... always.

 

Second thing is that I take my son when he gets like that, put him on my lap and

wrap my arms around his arms and often half hold his head and hold him so that

he absolutely cannot move.  We call it " holding him tight " .  I tell him when he

is in control I will let him go.  I think of it as similar to a sensory need or

those weighted blankets.  He used to kick and scream, bang his head,  and fight

and try to bite, etc but we are very consistent and now if he gets like this, he

says, no, don't hold me tight or if we do, it only lasts for a minute until he

says he is calm.  We do it at home, at the grocery store, at church, outings,

etc.  I do think with him it is ocd of sorts and that feeling of someone else

having control allows him to let it go.  Now that he is past it some when we go

out and he is really in control, I will read him an extra story or play a game

and tell him we have extra time because he was in control.

 

Good luck!

in TN

Subject: Question

To:

Date: Sunday, March 15, 2009, 2:27 PM

Hi -

Does anyone has experience dealing with/ eliminating the following behaviors in

a 3.5yo, can you let me know?

a.. when he gets something on his mind (like watching movie in car, in the

garage) he can't let go of it, he can get quite violent when he doesnt get what

he wants, and if its something he can have, he may move onto the " next thing "

that pops into his head that he knows he can't have, or

b.. ***he tries to contol what he thinks he can - such as won't put on clothes -

he asks for help but won't let me help him.. or asks for help with bathroom or

get into car but then puts on a physical fight so that you cant help.

Thank you,

Suzanne

[Guest guest]

Suzanne,

I don't know if this will help, but I also have a now 4 yr old son with very

similar issues.  First thing is that I never go back on my word.  If I say no,

that means no and that's it.  I used to give in now and then but it seemed as if

he could not accept that uncertainty and would keep at it and at it forever, so

now no means no ... always.

 

Second thing is that I take my son when he gets like that, put him on my lap and

wrap my arms around his arms and often half hold his head and hold him so that

he absolutely cannot move.  We call it " holding him tight " .  I tell him when he

is in control I will let him go.  I think of it as similar to a sensory need or

those weighted blankets.  He used to kick and scream, bang his head,  and fight

and try to bite, etc but we are very consistent and now if he gets like this, he

says, no, don't hold me tight or if we do, it only lasts for a minute until he

says he is calm.  We do it at home, at the grocery store, at church, outings,

etc.  I do think with him it is ocd of sorts and that feeling of someone else

having control allows him to let it go.  Now that he is past it some when we go

out and he is really in control, I will read him an extra story or play a game

and tell him we have extra time because he was in control.

 

Good luck!

in TN

Subject: Question

To:

Date: Sunday, March 15, 2009, 2:27 PM

Hi -

Does anyone has experience dealing with/ eliminating the following behaviors in

a 3.5yo, can you let me know?

a.. when he gets something on his mind (like watching movie in car, in the

garage) he can't let go of it, he can get quite violent when he doesnt get what

he wants, and if its something he can have, he may move onto the " next thing "

that pops into his head that he knows he can't have, or

b.. ***he tries to contol what he thinks he can - such as won't put on clothes -

he asks for help but won't let me help him.. or asks for help with bathroom or

get into car but then puts on a physical fight so that you cant help.

Thank you,

Suzanne

[Guest guest]

Hi, Suzanne. With OCD, they try to control the situation to lessen their

anxiety, because the OCD is controlling them. They can become very rigid, with

a single minded focus, to accomplish what they feel NEEDS to be done. When our

son was young, he used to get so frustrated by things. OCD wanted them to be a

certain way, yet he couldn't get them that way. He would ask for help, yet we

were unable to attain what OCD wanted either.

Your son is so young. I wonder if he could even grasp the concept of the OCD

making him feel things need to be a certain way, and how to talk back to it. Do

you think he could? Especially if it was made to be like a game? Do you have a

good therapist? Have you tried distractions? Or is he too focused to be able

to be distracted? Is there fear or anxiety attached to what he is focused on?

For instance, why watch a movie in the car, in the garage, rather than the

house. Is there some contamination fear going on that you can detect? Or

something else?

When our son was young, and I didn't know it was OCD we were dealing with, I

used to make a big deal out of something else to get his focus off of whatever

was frustrating him. It's hard when they are so young and don't understand what

is happening.

Sorry for all the questions, just trying to figure it out. )

BJ

>

> Hi -

>

> Does anyone has experience dealing with/ eliminating the following behaviors

in a 3.5yo, can you let me know?

> a.. when he gets something on his mind (like watching movie in car, in the

garage) he can't let go of it, he can get quite violent when he doesnt get what

he wants, and if its something he can have, he may move onto the " next thing "

that pops into his head that he knows he can't have, or

> b.. ***he tries to contol what he thinks he can - such as won't put on

clothes - he asks for help but won't let me help him.. or asks for help with

bathroom or get into car but then puts on a physical fight so that you cant

help.

> Thank you,

> Suzanne

>

>

[Guest guest]

OMG! This is exactly what we did with our son too. In fact we'd call it a " hold

tight. " The first time I wasn't sure we'd win he carried on so long, but each

time he fought for less time. In a short time he stopped that behavior all

together. We'd only need to ask him if he'd like a " hold tight " and he'd stop.

We'd calmly tell him he was not going to get his way and we'd let go as soon as

he stopped kicking and carrying on, as well as apologized.

It's hard to hold all those flying limbs :-)

From: Ruley <ruleytampabay (DOT) rr.com>

Subject: Question

To: @ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, March 15, 2009, 2:27 PM

Hi -

Does anyone has experience dealing with/ eliminating the following behaviors in

a 3.5yo, can you let me know?

a.. when he gets something on his mind (like watching movie in car, in the

garage) he can't let go of it, he can get quite violent when he doesnt get what

he wants, and if its something he can have, he may move onto the " next thing "

that pops into his head that he knows he can't have, or

b.. ***he tries to contol what he thinks he can - such as won't put on clothes -

he asks for help but won't let me help him.. or asks for help with bathroom or

get into car but then puts on a physical fight so that you cant help.

Thank you,

Suzanne

[Guest guest]

Unfortunately, that has never worked with our son. We tried is so many times

though. I wish it would have worked. We are pretty determined parents, but his

outbursts were strong and even my husband couldn't keep a consistent hold on him

and he's a Marine. He could go for more than an hour of holding him. I couldn't

understand why OCD was considered a mental illness, but it all became clear to

me during his meltdowns. Life would have been much easier if the holding

technique worked. He's nearly 7 now, and we are pretty sure he has had OCD since

around his 3rd birthday. He is considered around moderate and was diagnosed

about a year and a half ago.

In addition to OCD, we found out my son has low frustration tolerance (i.e.,

" The Explosive Child). I'm not sure if this element makes a difference when

dealing with a young child in these types of situations. I do know that using

suggestions from the Explosive child book has helped us out A LOT. We know how

to manuever around these things. If the holding technique doesn't seem to work,

you may want to find " The Explosive Child. " I found it at our base library, and

I would think public libraries may carry it as well. It is also a pretty good

price online. Good luck with everything. Many of us know what you are going

through. I just hope your little one doesn't throw shoes at you while you are

driving like mine did. If so, we need to talk more than I realized : )

>

>

>

> From: Ruley <ruleytampabay (DOT) rr.com>

>

> Subject: Question

>

> To: @ yahoogroups. com

>

> Date: Sunday, March 15, 2009, 2:27 PM

>

>

>

> Hi -

>

>

>

> Does anyone has experience dealing with/ eliminating the following behaviors

in a 3.5yo, can you let me know?

>

> a.. when he gets something on his mind (like watching movie in car, in the

garage) he can't let go of it, he can get quite violent when he doesnt get what

he wants, and if its something he can have, he may move onto the " next thing "

that pops into his head that he knows he can't have, or

>

> b.. ***he tries to contol what he thinks he can - such as won't put on clothes

- he asks for help but won't let me help him.. or asks for help with bathroom or

get into car but then puts on a physical fight so that you cant help.

>

> Thank you,

>

> Suzanne

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Only once have we been able to distrct him. He is perfectly happy playing in

the familyroom where the TV is. I think he has a facination with cars and it

makes him feel important. He also goes bonkers around meals, but not about

cleanliness - just about controlling where I sit and when I sit...basically he

wants to stop lunch so he'll walk in front of me slowly or stop. Then he'll

hit/beat my leg while I make it. I put him in Time out for that. Thenhe'll lay

across my chair and not let me sit - or stand in front of it, and wont let me

sit in any other chair and won't sit first. Even when there is no quiet time or

nap time after lunch he may do this... And he'll do things like tell me what he

wants to eat and when I make it he wants the other thing and puts on a big to-do

about it. I won't make something else. We are very firm about it.

It could be OCD or ODD or ADHD some other acronym or none at all... there is no

diagnosis although we have him on some meds for hyperactivity to help him with

his interal motor running on overdrive. He's adopted, and been with us for 9

months so it could have to do with his earlier life and need for control when he

had none before. Offering options usually makes it worse although last week he

was totally into it...

We had a behavioral psychologist and now we also have a therapist who we started

working with. No suggestions so far - we're in the assessment stage.

Suz

Re: Question

Hi, Suzanne. With OCD, they try to control the situation to lessen their

anxiety, because the OCD is controlling them. They can become very rigid, with a

single minded focus, to accomplish what they feel NEEDS to be done. When our son

was young, he used to get so frustrated by things. OCD wanted them to be a

certain way, yet he couldn't get them that way. He would ask for help, yet we

were unable to attain what OCD wanted either.

Your son is so young. I wonder if he could even grasp the concept of the OCD

making him feel things need to be a certain way, and how to talk back to it. Do

you think he could? Especially if it was made to be like a game? Do you have a

good therapist? Have you tried distractions? Or is he too focused to be able to

be distracted? Is there fear or anxiety attached to what he is focused on? For

instance, why watch a movie in the car, in the garage, rather than the house. Is

there some contamination fear going on that you can detect? Or something else?

When our son was young, and I didn't know it was OCD we were dealing with, I

used to make a big deal out of something else to get his focus off of whatever

was frustrating him. It's hard when they are so young and don't understand what

is happening.

Sorry for all the questions, just trying to figure it out. )

BJ

>

> Hi -

>

> Does anyone has experience dealing with/ eliminating the following behaviors

in a 3.5yo, can you let me know?

> a.. when he gets something on his mind (like watching movie in car, in the

garage) he can't let go of it, he can get quite violent when he doesnt get what

he wants, and if its something he can have, he may move onto the " next thing "

that pops into his head that he knows he can't have, or

> b.. ***he tries to contol what he thinks he can - such as won't put on

clothes - he asks for help but won't let me help him.. or asks for help with

bathroom or get into car but then puts on a physical fight so that you cant

help.

> Thank you,

> Suzanne

>

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Nikki,

I'd like to be able to answer your questions but only can address the malpractice insurance; yes, you definitely need this and USLCA site has info on insurance. I am an RN, as well, and use insurance through my organization. I suggest you sign up with the private practice group which is a group for private practice LC's and those planning soon to open a practice. A search of their archives could also answer your questions. Best of luck in opening your practice!

Barbara

Hi, my name is Nikki Katsuki, who would like to start my own practice as IBCLC hopefully soon.I've gotten your e-mail address from Lactation Consultant directory as a prefered consultant, so I'm sure you are in a great success in your career.I have some questions for you. In order for me to start my own practice, do I need any additional license in addition to IBCLC and CLC?Do I also need a malpractice insurance? Would you recommend any good company?If I register my practice as LLC or Corporation, should I do as "professional" like doctors or lawyers or "non-professional"?I'm very appreciate your time consuming and kindness.Sincerely, Nikki Katsuki, IBCLC, CLC

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Thanks Donna! I actually didn't mean to send this to the list I was just giving her info on the PP list and typed the address in the CC section of my mail to copy into the body of the letter and forgot to delete the CC.

Oops!

Barbara

Barb I just got this email as well. Looks like from her phone number she is in Queens / NYC area so I invited her to join our local ilca chapter LILCA and ILCA as well - Oops should have added NYLCA to that list -- which I will now

Donna B. Kimick, IBCLC, RLC

Lakeshore Lactation Center

Pres. of LILCA

www.lilca.org

Re: Question

Dear Nikki,

I'd like to be able to answer your questions but only can address the malpractice insurance; yes, you definitely need this and USLCA site has info on insurance. I am an RN, as well, and use insurance through my organization. I suggest you sign up with the private practice group which is a group for private practice LC's and those planning soon to open a practice. A search of their archives could also answer your questions. Best of luck in opening your practice!

Barbara

In a message dated 5/21/2010 8:51:55 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, naokowashiohotmail writes:

Hi, my name is Nikki Katsuki, who would like to start my own practice as IBCLC hopefully soon.I've gotten your e-mail address from Lactation Consultant directory as a prefered consultant, so I'm sure you are in a great success in your career.I have some questions for you. In order for me to start my own practice, do I need any additional license in addition to IBCLC and CLC?Do I also need a malpractice insurance? Would you recommend any good company?If I register my practice as LLC or Corporation, should I do as "professional" like doctors or lawyers or "non-professional"?I'm very appreciate your time consuming and kindness.Sincerely, Nikki Katsuki, IBCLC, CLC

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Barb I just got this email as well. Looks like from her phone number she is in Queens / NYC area so I invited her to join our local ilca chapter LILCA and ILCA as well - Oops should have added NYLCA to that list -- which I will now

Donna B. Kimick, IBCLC, RLC

Lakeshore Lactation Center

Pres. of LILCA

www.lilca.org

Re: Question

Dear Nikki,

I'd like to be able to answer your questions but only can address the malpractice insurance; yes, you definitely need this and USLCA site has info on insurance. I am an RN, as well, and use insurance through my organization. I suggest you sign up with the private practice group which is a group for private practice LC's and those planning soon to open a practice. A search of their archives could also answer your questions. Best of luck in opening your practice!

Barbara

In a message dated 5/21/2010 8:51:55 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, naokowashiohotmail writes:

Hi, my name is Nikki Katsuki, who would like to start my own practice as IBCLC hopefully soon.

I've gotten your e-mail address from Lactation Consultant directory as a prefered consultant, so I'm sure you are in a great success in your career.

I have some questions for you.

In order for me to start my own practice, do I need any additional license in addition to IBCLC and CLC?

Do I also need a malpractice insurance? Would you recommend any good company?

If I register my practice as LLC or Corporation, should I do as "professional" like doctors or lawyers or "non-professional"?

I'm very appreciate your time consuming and kindness.

Sincerely, Nikki Katsuki, IBCLC, CLC

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Hi All,Nikki is doing her homework. I invited her to join NYLCA and invited her to the two upcoming educational events. I also suggested she join USLCA.Leigh Anne Barb I just got this email as well. Looks like from her phone number she is in Queens / NYC area so I invited her to join our local ilca chapter LILCA and ILCA as well - Oops should have added NYLCA to that list -- which I will now Donna B. Kimick, IBCLC, RLCLakeshore Lactation CenterPres. of LILCAwww.lilca.org Re: Question Dear Nikki, I'd like to be able to answer your questions but only can address the malpractice insurance; yes, you definitely need this and USLCA site has info on insurance. I am an RN, as well, and use insurance through my organization. I suggest you sign up with the private practice group which is a group for private practice LC's and those planning soon to open a practice. A search of their archives could also answer your questions. Best of luck in opening your practice!Barbara In a message dated 5/21/2010 8:51:55 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, naokowashiohotmail writes:Hi, my name is Nikki Katsuki, who would like to start my own practice as IBCLC hopefully soon.I've gotten your e-mail address from Lactation Consultant directory as a prefered consultant, so I'm sure you are in a great success in your career.I have some questions for you. In order for me to start my own practice, do I need any additional license in addition to IBCLC and CLC?Do I also need a malpractice insurance? Would you recommend any good company?If I register my practice as LLC or Corporation, should I do as "professional" like doctors or lawyers or "non-professional"?I'm very appreciate your time consuming and kindness.Sincerely, Nikki Katsuki, IBCLC, CLCメールを一括ãƒã‚§ãƒƒã‚¯ï¼ä»–ã®ç„¡æ–™ãƒ¡ãƒ¼ãƒ«ã‚‚プロãƒã‚¤ãƒ€ãƒ¼ãƒ¡ãƒ¼ãƒ«ã‚‚。 メールを一括ãƒã‚§ãƒƒã‚¯ã—ãŸã„æ–¹ã¯ã€ã“ã¡ã‚‰ã€‚ Leigh Anne O'Connor, IBCLCleighanne625@...www.leighanneoconnor.com

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what does "preferred consultant" mean?

Re: Question

Dear Nikki,

I'd like to be able to answer your questions but only can address the malpractice insurance; yes, you definitely need this and USLCA site has info on insurance. I am an RN, as well, and use insurance through my organization. I suggest you sign up with the private practice group which is a group for private practice LC's and those planning soon to open a practice. A search of their archives could also answer your questions. Best of luck in opening your practice!

Barbara

In a message dated 5/21/2010 8:51:55 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, naokowashiohotmail writes:

Hi, my name is Nikki Katsuki, who would like to start my own practice as IBCLC hopefully soon.I've gotten your e-mail address from Lactation Consultant directory as a prefered consultant, so I'm sure you are in a great success in your career.I have some questions for you. In order for me to start my own practice, do I need any additional license in addition to IBCLC and CLC?Do I also need a malpractice insurance? Would you recommend any good company?If I register my practice as LLC or Corporation, should I do as "professional" like doctors or lawyers or "non-professional"?I'm very appreciate your time consuming and kindness.Sincerely, Nikki Katsuki, IBCLC, CLC

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Probably “ IBCLC.” She mentions a Lactation

Consultant Directory.

Ellen Simpson

Tampa, FL

] On Behalf Of Lyla

Wolfenstein

what does " preferred consultant " mean?

Hi, my name is Nikki

Katsuki, who would like to start my own practice as IBCLC hopefully soon.

I've gotten your e-mail address from Lactation Consultant directory as a

prefered consultant, so I'm sure you are in a great success in your career.

I have some questions for you.

[Guest guest]

Yes she is the wife of Bernd at Cenaverde.com, nice lady but never consulted with her

Mandi x

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