Re: Anyone here feel pychotic sexual frustration?

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Nope, thanks to Lexapro I'm emotionally as flat as a pancake. Ironically, it makes it easier for me to talk to women because I'm not worried about trying to have sex with them. Funny how the dampening of your sex drive makes it easier to do the one thing you need to do to have sex... But then you don't really care if you do or you don't. Chrisreedpower23 wrote: Everytime I talk to a hot girl or see one, I feel this sexual frustration. Or if i hear shes got a

boyfriend or whatever.....it sucks...It never use to be like this before the anti-d's. ALSO, i get angry all the time over the smallest things. __________________________________________________

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> Nope, thanks to Lexapro I'm emotionally as flat as a pancake.

Ironically, it makes it easier for me to talk to women because I'm not

worried about trying to have sex with them. Funny how the dampening of

your sex drive makes it easier to do the one thing you need to do to

have sex... But then you don't really care if you do or you don't.

True, but intellectually you have to know what you're missing. That's

what hits me the hardest. I find I don't have the highs and lows

anymore either. Adrenaline fatigue? I don't get that shock for

instance when I hit an icy patch on the road.

Atomicat

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Intellectualy, yes, I know what I'm missing. Emotionally though I just don't give a damn. I've noticed the lack of adrenaline rush too myself. I've had a few close calls while driving. They don't phase me a bit. I've always been able to calmly think myself through a tight situation but afterwards I was always left shaking from adrenaline. Now I can get in a situation - like driving - where I'm inches from death or serious injury and not even get a heart flutter. It's kinda spooky. I don't feel fear even in situations where it's definitely warranted. Fear - at least some fear - is supposed to be a healthy emotion; it's what keeps you out of dangerous situations. I'm still able to avoid dangerous situations through reason but almost never do I have feelings of panic or adrenaline rush. Without that feeling of fear, how is one supposed to really appreciate life? Not that

I'm entirely devoid of fear. I was climbing up an observation tower in a state park over the summer and experienced a profound fear of heights. The observation tower was old and a little shaky and the higher I went the harder I found it to go even higher. It was really odd because I've never had a fear of heights. I had to stop halfway up to reason things out and reassure myself that I was not going to fall off as long as I held the handrail. I still didn't get shaky though, just a little dizziness accompanied by a feeling of dread. I guess it's not really that I don't have any emotions at all it's just that they are all severely muted from what they used to be. It's nice to be able to remain calm and think things through but I do miss the rush of sexual attraction when looking at a pretty woman. ChrisAtomic Nixon wrote: > Nope, thanks to Lexapro I'm emotionally as flat as a pancake.Ironically, it makes it easier for me to talk to women because I'm notworried about trying to have sex with them. Funny how the dampening ofyour sex drive makes it easier to do the one thing you need to do tohave sex... But then you don't really care if you do or you don't.True, but intellectually you have to know what you're missing. That'swhat hits me the hardest. I find I don't have the highs and lowsanymore either. Adrenaline fatigue? I don't get that shock forinstance when I

hit an icy patch on the road.Atomicat __________________________________________________

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yep me too, I feel so freaking damaged, in that numb

way you descried emotionally. Its like nothing is what

it used to be. I wonder if this will be permament,

sucks huh? Damn.... Its like I cant feel or experience

anything like I ever have before, like how a average

person should. Its scary. Its just like your emotions

and feelings get muted just like you say, im glad im

not the only one going through that. MY only hope is

my girl, who i do feel lots of love for. thank God

huh..

--- chris wilkison wrote:

> Intellectualy, yes, I know what I'm missing.

> Emotionally though I just don't give a damn.

>

> I've noticed the lack of adrenaline rush too

> myself. I've had a few close calls while driving.

> They don't phase me a bit. I've always been able to

> calmly think myself through a tight situation but

> afterwards I was always left shaking from

> adrenaline. Now I can get in a situation - like

> driving - where I'm inches from death or serious

> injury and not even get a heart flutter. It's kinda

> spooky. I don't feel fear even in situations where

> it's definitely warranted.

>

> Fear - at least some fear - is supposed to be a

> healthy emotion; it's what keeps you out of

> dangerous situations. I'm still able to avoid

> dangerous situations through reason but almost never

> do I have feelings of panic or adrenaline rush.

> Without that feeling of fear, how is one supposed to

> really appreciate life?

>

> Not that I'm entirely devoid of fear. I was

> climbing up an observation tower in a state park

> over the summer and experienced a profound fear of

> heights. The observation tower was old and a little

> shaky and the higher I went the harder I found it to

> go even higher. It was really odd because I've never

> had a fear of heights. I had to stop halfway up to

> reason things out and reassure myself that I was not

> going to fall off as long as I held the handrail. I

> still didn't get shaky though, just a little

> dizziness accompanied by a feeling of dread.

>

> I guess it's not really that I don't have any

> emotions at all it's just that they are all severely

> muted from what they used to be. It's nice to be

> able to remain calm and think things through but I

> do miss the rush of sexual attraction when looking

> at a pretty woman.

>

> Chris

>

> Atomic Nixon wrote:

> > Nope, thanks to Lexapro I'm emotionally

> as flat as a pancake.

> Ironically, it makes it easier for me to talk to

> women because I'm not

> worried about trying to have sex with them. Funny

> how the dampening of

> your sex drive makes it easier to do the one thing

> you need to do to

> have sex... But then you don't really care if you do

> or you don't.

>

> True, but intellectually you have to know what

> you're missing. That's

> what hits me the hardest. I find I don't have the

> highs and lows

> anymore either. Adrenaline fatigue? I don't get that

> shock for

> instance when I hit an icy patch on the road.

>

> Atomicat

>

>

>

>

>

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I think what your all saying is that....LIFE IS TOTALLY MEANINGLES AND

POINTLESS now. Its like the king who lost his daughter. the gold has

lots its luster. we're all drones now, no fun no pleasure, just work-a-

day boring lives. thanks a lot zoloft.

[Guest guest]

Harsh words that I don't agree with. I felt like you do a while

back, but I've gotten to the point where I enjoy all the things I

used to prior to Celexa – playing guitar, sports, movies, etc. With

the exception of sex. It took HARD work to get to this point, and I

still feel I can improve further. I've been dating someone for a

while, the topic of sex hasn't come up, yet. This is where it could

get awkward, but I hope she'll decide to fight through it with me.

This is a terrible condition to have, but there a ways to manage as

long as you put the work in and keep pushing forward.

Luther

>

> I think what your all saying is that....LIFE IS TOTALLY MEANINGLES

AND

> POINTLESS now. Its like the king who lost his daughter. the gold

has

> lots its luster. we're all drones now, no fun no pleasure, just

work-a-

> day boring lives. thanks a lot zoloft.

>

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Yep, thank God for the few people in my life that can still make me feel SOME emotion; my 2 1/2 year-old daughter being one of them. notgiving wrote: yep me too, I feel so freaking damaged, in that numbway you descried emotionally. Its like nothing is whatit used to be. I wonder if this will be permament,sucks huh? Damn.... Its like I cant feel or experienceanything like I ever have before, like how a averageperson should. Its

scary. Its just like your emotionsand feelings get muted just like you say, im glad imnot the only one going through that. MY only hope ismy girl, who i do feel lots of love for. thank Godhuh..--- chris wilkison <flyrcsw> wrote:> Intellectualy, yes, I know what I'm missing.> Emotionally though I just don't give a damn.> > I've noticed the lack of adrenaline rush too> myself. I've had a few close calls while driving.> They don't phase me a bit. I've always been able to> calmly think myself through a tight situation but> afterwards I was always left shaking from> adrenaline. Now I can get in a situation - like> driving - where I'm inches from death or serious> injury and not even get a heart flutter. It's kinda> spooky. I don't feel fear even in situations where> it's definitely warranted.>

> Fear - at least some fear - is supposed to be a> healthy emotion; it's what keeps you out of> dangerous situations. I'm still able to avoid> dangerous situations through reason but almost never> do I have feelings of panic or adrenaline rush.> Without that feeling of fear, how is one supposed to> really appreciate life?> > Not that I'm entirely devoid of fear. I was> climbing up an observation tower in a state park> over the summer and experienced a profound fear of> heights. The observation tower was old and a little> shaky and the higher I went the harder I found it to> go even higher. It was really odd because I've never> had a fear of heights. I had to stop halfway up to> reason things out and reassure myself that I was not> going to fall off as long as I held the handrail. I> still didn't get shaky though, just a little> dizziness

accompanied by a feeling of dread.> > I guess it's not really that I don't have any> emotions at all it's just that they are all severely> muted from what they used to be. It's nice to be> able to remain calm and think things through but I> do miss the rush of sexual attraction when looking> at a pretty woman.> > Chris> > Atomic Nixon <atomicnixonhotmail> wrote:> > Nope, thanks to Lexapro I'm emotionally> as flat as a pancake.> Ironically, it makes it easier for me to talk to> women because I'm not> worried about trying to have sex with them. Funny> how the dampening of> your sex drive makes it easier to do the one thing> you need to do to> have sex... But then you don't really care if you do> or you don't.> > True, but intellectually you have to

know what> you're missing. That's> what hits me the hardest. I find I don't have the> highs and lows> anymore either. Adrenaline fatigue? I don't get that> shock for> instance when I hit an icy patch on the road.> > Atomicat> > > > > > __________________________________________________>

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I'd have to agree with you Luther. I still have many intellectual pursuits that invigorate me and keep me going and it's not like my emotions are COMPLETELY gone; just nowhere near what they used to be. And I figure I'll get my sex life back someday, it's just a matter of when. Chrislightsoutluther wrote: Harsh words that I don't agree with. I felt like you do a while back, but I've gotten to the point where I enjoy all the things I used to prior

to Celexa – playing guitar, sports, movies, etc. With the exception of sex. It took HARD work to get to this point, and I still feel I can improve further. I've been dating someone for a while, the topic of sex hasn't come up, yet. This is where it could get awkward, but I hope she'll decide to fight through it with me. This is a terrible condition to have, but there a ways to manage as long as you put the work in and keep pushing forward. Luther>> I think what your all saying is that....LIFE IS TOTALLY MEANINGLES AND > POINTLESS now. Its like the king who lost his daughter. the gold has > lots its luster. we're all drones now, no fun no pleasure, just work-a-> day boring lives. thanks a lot

zoloft.> __________________________________________________

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This is my first post/response and I'm crying as I write it, yet I

know that this will not help me. I am sensitive to meds and in

addition to losing sexual function from Celexa (off of the generic for

3 weeks), I lost my sense of taste when taking Strattera (a non SSRI)

when the doctor told me to open the capsule and eat it with yogurt. I

went to a neurologist who assured me there were no lasting effects

from taking Celexa. I was so glad to be orgasmic and enjoy sex so

much. Even when I didn't have my sense of taste I would tell myself

that many women are not as high functioning as I am in this way. I'm

not sure what I have to offer to any guy. I have food allergies, I'm

neurotic, can't taste food and I currently have fibromyalgia and am

unemployed. Three years ago none of this was true other than the

depression and anxiety. I don't feel so much the sexual frustration as

I feel pyschotic over this happening to me, like I'd like to kill the

doctors responsible. I feel psychotic rage. But you're right about the

sexual release. It was very important to me. Now all I have is

memories about the past and I think " was that vacation when I could

taste food? " . Now I'll be thinking, " was that when I could feel

orgasims? " . It's like the before and after. I know I'm not paralyzed

in a wheelchair, g-d forbid, but I'm not taking this well at all. I

was only somewhat depressed before and now I feel like living isn't as

worthwhile. Thanks for listening to me.

>

> I think what your all saying is that....LIFE IS TOTALLY MEANINGLES

AND

> POINTLESS now. Its like the king who lost his daughter. the gold has

> lots its luster. we're all drones now, no fun no pleasure, just

work-a-

> day boring lives. thanks a lot zoloft.

>

[Guest guest]

I'm with you. During the past few years, relationship after

relationship has ended because I couldn't muster up excitement

(emotional or sexual) for the guy and they ended up feeling wounded/

unwanted/ unloved (this is simplifying it somewhat, of course, but

looking back it's very true). I had an epiphany recently when I

realized it's the PSSD that's responsible. I'm not frigid and unloving

and asexual, I'm just an unfortunate casualty of a horrible drug side-

effect. This realization makes it paradoxically easier and more

difficult to deal with. Easier, because I now have something to point

to and blame and something to focus on finding a solution to. More

difficult, because it may be harder to find a solution to this problem

than it was when I thought my problem was just that I kept finding

myself with the " wrong guys. "

I would encourage you to keep venting. Vent to good friends, to the

people on this site who can relate to you, call a crisisline if you

need to. And, research, research, and try different herbs and

lifestyle changes. And, bottom line, remember, that there are always

worse things that could happen, and that everyone has stuff that

they're dealing with. This is just your particular stuff.

> >

> > I think what your all saying is that....LIFE IS TOTALLY MEANINGLES

> AND

> > POINTLESS now. Its like the king who lost his daughter. the gold has

> > lots its luster. we're all drones now, no fun no pleasure, just

> work-a-

> > day boring lives. thanks a lot zoloft.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, I see a lot of parallels to my situation here. I don't have any psychotic rage, anxiety or depression but I do have the lack of emotion and sexual function. I can have sex but I'm just not that interested in it anymore and it just doesn't feel as good. It's affecting my relationship because my wife thinks that I just don't want her anymore. Anger and frustration seem to be the only emotions I'm good at expressing anymore. It's not really rage but more disgust and aggravation. It's a lot more controlled and focused than rage. I do sometimes sit and try to remember times when I really enjoyed sex and when I could experience a wide range of emotions. My life has become very boring, it's like living the same day over and over again. It's like I just can't find anything to excite or invigorate. All I know to do is keep trying to find a way to change it. Chrisfrecklesargentina wrote: I'm with you. During the past few years, relationship afterrelationship has ended because I couldn't muster up excitement(emotional or sexual) for the guy and they ended up feeling wounded/unwanted/ unloved (this is simplifying it somewhat, of course, butlooking back it's very true). I had an epiphany recently when Irealized it's the PSSD that's responsible. I'm not frigid and unlovingand asexual, I'm just an

unfortunate casualty of a horrible drug side-effect. This realization makes it paradoxically easier and moredifficult to deal with. Easier, because I now have something to pointto and blame and something to focus on finding a solution to. Moredifficult, because it may be harder to find a solution to this problemthan it was when I thought my problem was just that I kept findingmyself with the "wrong guys."I would encourage you to keep venting. Vent to good friends, to thepeople on this site who can relate to you, call a crisisline if youneed to. And, research, research, and try different herbs andlifestyle changes. And, bottom line, remember, that there are alwaysworse things that could happen, and that everyone has stuff thatthey're dealing with. This is just your particular stuff. > >> > I think what your all saying is that....LIFE IS TOTALLY MEANINGLES > AND > >

POINTLESS now. Its like the king who lost his daughter. the gold has > > lots its luster. we're all drones now, no fun no pleasure, just > work-a-> > day boring lives. thanks a lot zoloft.> >>

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True - you are not paralyzed and in a wheel chair but you did have some major losses in your life. Any kind of loss is devestating. Cry sometimes but try to have times of feeling strong. Maybe we'll all get past this.

[Guest guest]

-Thanks for writing. I just feel terrible because I'm jobless and

have fibromyalgia in addition, and I lost my sense of taste from

taking Strattera. If I just had one of the problems, I would be

fine. Now, the psychologist I was going to is offering me a program

with intensive 9 hours a week of group therapy with other women. One

of my central problems is " anger mangement " and I think I would not

be so flipped out all of the time if I got a good, sound sleep. I

may try Neurontin but that has the weight gain side effects. I could

be " normal " if I could get calm enough, but that doesn't mean I'm

someone who needs to be fixed. They always give you the " would you

deny a diabetic insulin kind of talk " . Well, sorry not to write

sooner. I was staying with someone who was getting over an operation

and I've tried to put the SSRI thing in the back of my mind.

-- In SSRIsex , " frecklesargentina "

wrote:

>

> I'm with you. During the past few years, relationship after

> relationship has ended because I couldn't muster up excitement

> (emotional or sexual) for the guy and they ended up feeling

wounded/

> unwanted/ unloved (this is simplifying it somewhat, of course, but

> looking back it's very true). I had an epiphany recently when I

> realized it's the PSSD that's responsible. I'm not frigid and

unloving

> and asexual, I'm just an unfortunate casualty of a horrible drug

side-

> effect. This realization makes it paradoxically easier and more

> difficult to deal with. Easier, because I now have something to

point

> to and blame and something to focus on finding a solution to. More

> difficult, because it may be harder to find a solution to this

problem

> than it was when I thought my problem was just that I kept finding

> myself with the " wrong guys. "

>

> I would encourage you to keep venting. Vent to good friends, to the

> people on this site who can relate to you, call a crisisline if you

> need to. And, research, research, and try different herbs and

> lifestyle changes. And, bottom line, remember, that there are

always

> worse things that could happen, and that everyone has stuff that

> they're dealing with. This is just your particular stuff.

>

>

>

>

>

>

> > >

> > > I think what your all saying is that....LIFE IS TOTALLY

MEANINGLES

> > AND

> > > POINTLESS now. Its like the king who lost his daughter. the

gold has

> > > lots its luster. we're all drones now, no fun no pleasure,

just

> > work-a-

> > > day boring lives. thanks a lot zoloft.

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks, I guess they want to put me in a group, but I'm so skeptical

of the medical profession now. I may apply for SSRI because of the

Fibromyalgia and I guess the Major Depressive Disorder. I guess it's

so important not to get into the self pity too much. And when/if I

join the women's group, I'll be jealous of the people who still have

issues with boyfriends (because they can go to a restaurant and taste

food whereas I have no sense of taste and have to keep saying " yes,

it's good " and they can have sexual experiences). I'll get by one way

or another because I always do, but with my unemployment running out

I'm in a panic now and I do probably need some medication. -

>

> True - you are not paralyzed and in a wheel chair but you did have

some

> major losses in your life. Any kind of loss is devestating. Cry

sometimes but try

> to have times of feeling strong. Maybe we'll all get past this.

>

[Guest guest]

Be strong and remember what your feeling is normal. You should join the group but it would be good and maybe a little hard too. It's only normal to listen to people and hear about what they have or what they can do and think "why can't I or what about me?" It's ok to feel sorry for yourself but I guess allow yourself to do it for just a period of time and then tell yourself to move on. I'm trying to do that now. It's so hard to hear people talk about their sexual relationships and to sit there and know that you don't have one at all. I hate that. I work with mostly all women (close friends) and they share all their intimate times at home. I feel myself cringe when they do. I have to learn to hear about it and not get upset. I know I am happy for my friends and their good sex lives but . . .what about me??? I'm trying not to do that. It's hard but I'll get there one day.