Guest guest Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 In a message dated 7/9/2006 8:11:12 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, rylan_becky@... writes: Patty ~ I hear you completely. I've been in that situation too many times myself. And IT IS FRUSTRATING! No " typical " parents get it. And, Happy 7th Birthday to tomorrow! Becky Thanks Becky, I feel better already. patty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Hi Patty, If I took Seth to the picnic the list had, I would have been in the same situation. I'm very fortunate that his Dad likes to stay home with Seth. We were on an 8 day trip, so neither Seth or dh could make the trip. I only take Seth to events that I'm willing to sacrifice any socialization for me at. And, that's not many because I don't get to be around adults much and enjoy the times I do get to socialize. I don't even feel guilty about it either! LOL Gail :-) Hi guys, I just have to vent a minute, and you all are the only people I know who truly understand. I just left a backyard end of the softball season, BBQ, pool party for my daughters team. loves to swim but needs total attention and requires me to be the only parent in a bathing suit to be on guard at all times. Mean while, all the other parents are sitting drinking wine and beer and eating all these great munchies, and chatting not even having to look at the pool to check on their children. And then when he was done swimming is when the actual work and chasing begin. I can't let him wander because there is too much stuff he can get into or he will fall into the pool. He can't go near the adults because he's soaking wet and he might hug them or something. Not one person came over to talk to me, expect this Dad who asked if I was using the chair by me and then he picked it up and walked away. I left upset as usual and all I could think of was how much I wish I had experienced the picnic you all had in PA. It would have been so nice to be with people who understand. OK that's it for now. Patty, mom to (7 years old tomorrow) DD 12 -- my softball player Kelsey (14 -- away at camp, and I miss her and her help) PS. I feel petty complaining about these issues when there is so much going on -- Liz my prayers are with you. And little I am praying is doing better. And for all of the wonderful moms and dads who understand and are living through these " picnics " everyday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Hi Gail, I thought about going and not taking , but I want to bring him and I want to meet everyone's kids. But we all know how hard it is to socialize with our kids, who require complete supervision. I was thinking maybe next years picnic we should arrange for a local agency or church group to have volunteers to watch our kids while we " socialize " . I know a few places around here that would be able to help us out. Just a thought for the next event. patty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Patty ~ I hear you completely. I've been in that situation too many times myself. And IT IS FRUSTRATING! No " typical " parents get it. And, Happy 7th Birthday to tomorrow! Becky hamburgpatti@... wrote: Hi guys, I just have to vent a minute, and you all are the only people I know who truly understand. I just left a backyard end of the softball season, BBQ, pool party for my daughters team. loves to swim but needs total attention and requires me to be the only parent in a bathing suit to be on guard at all times. Mean while, all the other parents are sitting drinking wine and beer and eating all these great munchies, and chatting not even having to look at the pool to check on their children. And then when he was done swimming is when the actual work and chasing begin. I can't let him wander because there is too much stuff he can get into or he will fall into the pool. He can't go near the adults because he's soaking wet and he might hug them or something. Not one person came over to talk to me, expect this Dad who asked if I was using the chair by me and then he picked it up and walked away. I left upset as usual and all I could think of was how much I wish I had experienced the picnic you all had in PA. It would have been so nice to be with people who understand. OK that's it for now. Patty, mom to (7 years old tomorrow) DD 12 -- my softball player Kelsey (14 -- away at camp, and I miss her and her help) PS. I feel petty complaining about these issues when there is so much going on -- Liz my prayers are with you. And little I am praying is doing better. And for all of the wonderful moms and dads who understand and are living through these " picnics " everyday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Yes, Jayne, it is exhausting! I wish I had gone to the picnic -- is the same age as . It would have been nice to see him with the other kids. Does talk?? is still non verbal, and I wonder if he ever will talk. Yn a message dated 7/10/2006 5:52:06 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, jacksonsmom99@... writes: Oh Patty, I completely understand!!I While we were on the trip visiting family, we were gathered at the 4th of July BBQ and I'm chasing here there and everywhere and having to get in the pool with him and endure splashing in the face, kicking, biting, etc... The next day we went out for dinner and my family talked about how well he's doing - " he's really calm and doing so well on the trip for you. " Guess they missed all the bruises and bite marks on me! It's like having a toddler when I'm at those kinds of functions. I pray it gets better too. Thinking of you, Jayne Mom to 3 including (7) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Oh Patty, I completely understand!!!! While we were on the trip visiting family, we were gathered at the 4th of July BBQ and I'm chasing here there and everywhere and having to get in the pool with him and endure splashing in the face, kicking, biting, etc... The next day we went out for dinner and my family talked about how well he's doing - " he's really calm and doing so well on the trip for you. " Guess they missed all the bruises and bite marks on me! It's like having a toddler when I'm at those kinds of functions. I pray it gets better too. Thinking of you, Jayne Mom to 3 including (7) hamburgpatti@... wrote: Hi guys, I just have to vent a minute, and you all are the only people I know who truly understand. I just left a backyard end of the softball season, BBQ, pool party for my daughters team. loves to swim but needs total attention and requires me to be the only parent in a bathing suit to be on guard at all times. Mean while, all the other parents are sitting drinking wine and beer and eating all these great munchies, and chatting not even having to look at the pool to check on their children. And then when he was done swimming is when the actual work and chasing begin. I can't let him wander because there is too much stuff he can get into or he will fall into the pool. He can't go near the adults because he's soaking wet and he might hug them or something. Not one person came over to talk to me, expect this Dad who asked if I was using the chair by me and then he picked it up and walked away. I left upset as usual and all I could think of was how much I wish I had experienced the picnic you all had in PA. It would have been so nice to be with people who understand. OK that's it for now. Patty, mom to (7 years old tomorrow) DD 12 -- my softball player Kelsey (14 -- away at camp, and I miss her and her help) PS. I feel petty complaining about these issues when there is so much going on -- Liz my prayers are with you. And little I am praying is doing better. And for all of the wonderful moms and dads who understand and are living through these " picnics " everyday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2006 Report Share Posted July 11, 2006 Hi Patty, There is nothing petty about what you experienced at the BBQ- folks can be so rude and oblivious at times and it does make you feel horrible. I've been through similar situations with a local Moms club. I'm glad that you feel comfortable to share your experiences here because you do have a support system who really understands first hand how you feel. I hope that had a wonderful birthday!! Best, Mom to , 34 mos. DS/PDD-NOS > >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: picnics >Date: Sun, 9 Jul 2006 17:10:44 -0700 (PDT) > >Patty ~ I hear you completely. I've been in that situation too many times >myself. And IT IS FRUSTRATING! No " typical " parents get it. > > And, Happy 7th Birthday to tomorrow! > > Becky > >hamburgpatti@... wrote: > Hi guys, >I just have to vent a minute, and you all are the only people I know who >truly understand. >I just left a backyard end of the softball season, BBQ, pool party for my >daughters team. loves to swim but needs total attention and >requires >me to be the only parent in a bathing suit to be on guard at all times. >Mean >while, all the other parents are sitting drinking wine and beer and eating >all these great munchies, and chatting not even having to look at the pool >to >check on their children. And then when he was done swimming is when the >actual work and chasing begin. I can't let him wander because there is too >much >stuff he can get into or he will fall into the pool. He can't go near the >adults because he's soaking wet and he might hug them or something. Not one >person came over to talk to me, expect this Dad who asked if I was using >the >chair by me and then he picked it up and walked away. I left upset as usual >and >all I could think of was how much I wish I had experienced the picnic you >all had in PA. It would have been so nice to be with people who understand. >OK that's it for now. >Patty, mom to (7 years old tomorrow) DD > 12 -- my softball player >Kelsey (14 -- away at camp, and I miss her and her >help) > >PS. I feel petty complaining about these issues when there is so much going >on -- Liz my prayers are with you. And little I am praying is doing >better. And for all of the wonderful moms and dads who understand and are >living through these " picnics " everyday. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2006 Report Share Posted July 11, 2006 In a message dated 7/11/2006 2:44:38 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, brendamcdonnell@... writes: Hi Patty, There is nothing petty about what you experienced at the BBQ- folks can be so rude and oblivious at times and it does make you feel horrible. I've been through similar situations with a local Moms club. I'm glad that you feel comfortable to share your experiences here because you do have a support system who really understands first hand how you feel. I hope that had a wonderful birthday!! Best, Mom to , 34 mos. DS/PDD-NOS Thanks , that's nice of you to say. It's amazing how we all identify with these particular situations -- it's like " somebody else is walking in my shoes and understands " . 's birthday was good. He started his first day of summer school, and I visited to see what was happening up there. It was the teacher's very first day teaching ever! And it showed -- she had absolutely no idea what to do with these kids. Fortunately his aid has experience and she seems like she'll be good. So, we'll see how things progress. Ughh. But, we had cake and sang to him in the evening and he had the giggles all night. When he starts laughing it is the most infectious laugh and we can't help but join in laughing with him. He's just so happy -- and it's times like these that make up for 100 picnics. patty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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