Re: picnics

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In a message dated 7/9/2006 8:11:12 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

rylan_becky@... writes:

Patty ~ I hear you completely. I've been in that situation too many times

myself. And IT IS FRUSTRATING! No " typical " parents get it.

And, Happy 7th Birthday to tomorrow!

Becky

Thanks Becky, I feel better already.

patty

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Hi Patty,

If I took Seth to the picnic the list had, I would have been in the same

situation. I'm very fortunate that his Dad likes to stay home with Seth. We

were on an 8 day trip, so neither Seth or dh could make the trip. I only take

Seth to events that I'm willing to sacrifice any socialization for me at.

And, that's not many because I don't get to be around adults much and enjoy the

times I do get to socialize. I don't even feel guilty about it either! LOL

Gail :-)

Hi guys,

I just have to vent a minute, and you all are the only people I know who

truly understand.

I just left a backyard end of the softball season, BBQ, pool party for my

daughters team. loves to swim but needs total attention and

requires

me to be the only parent in a bathing suit to be on guard at all times.

Mean

while, all the other parents are sitting drinking wine and beer and eating

all these great munchies, and chatting not even having to look at the pool

to

check on their children. And then when he was done swimming is when the

actual work and chasing begin. I can't let him wander because there is too

much

stuff he can get into or he will fall into the pool. He can't go near the

adults because he's soaking wet and he might hug them or something. Not

one

person came over to talk to me, expect this Dad who asked if I was using

the

chair by me and then he picked it up and walked away. I left upset as

usual and

all I could think of was how much I wish I had experienced the picnic you

all had in PA. It would have been so nice to be with people who understand.

OK that's it for now.

Patty, mom to (7 years old tomorrow) DD

12 -- my softball player

Kelsey (14 -- away at camp, and I miss her and her

help)

PS. I feel petty complaining about these issues when there is so much

going

on -- Liz my prayers are with you. And little I am praying is doing

better. And for all of the wonderful moms and dads who understand and are

living through these " picnics " everyday.

[Guest guest]

Hi Gail,

I thought about going and not taking , but I want to bring him and I

want to meet everyone's kids. But we all know how hard it is to socialize

with our kids, who require complete supervision. I was thinking maybe next

years picnic we should arrange for a local agency or church group to have

volunteers to watch our kids while we " socialize " . I know a few places around

here that would be able to help us out. Just a thought for the next event.

patty

[Guest guest]

Patty ~ I hear you completely. I've been in that situation too many times

myself. And IT IS FRUSTRATING! No " typical " parents get it.

And, Happy 7th Birthday to tomorrow!

Becky

hamburgpatti@... wrote:

Hi guys,

I just have to vent a minute, and you all are the only people I know who

truly understand.

I just left a backyard end of the softball season, BBQ, pool party for my

daughters team. loves to swim but needs total attention and requires

me to be the only parent in a bathing suit to be on guard at all times. Mean

while, all the other parents are sitting drinking wine and beer and eating

all these great munchies, and chatting not even having to look at the pool to

check on their children. And then when he was done swimming is when the

actual work and chasing begin. I can't let him wander because there is too much

stuff he can get into or he will fall into the pool. He can't go near the

adults because he's soaking wet and he might hug them or something. Not one

person came over to talk to me, expect this Dad who asked if I was using the

chair by me and then he picked it up and walked away. I left upset as usual and

all I could think of was how much I wish I had experienced the picnic you

all had in PA. It would have been so nice to be with people who understand.

OK that's it for now.

Patty, mom to (7 years old tomorrow) DD

12 -- my softball player

Kelsey (14 -- away at camp, and I miss her and her

help)

PS. I feel petty complaining about these issues when there is so much going

on -- Liz my prayers are with you. And little I am praying is doing

better. And for all of the wonderful moms and dads who understand and are

living through these " picnics " everyday.

[Guest guest]

Yes, Jayne, it is exhausting! I wish I had gone to the picnic -- is

the same age as . It would have been nice to see him with the other

kids. Does talk?? is still non verbal, and I wonder if he

ever will talk.

Yn a message dated 7/10/2006 5:52:06 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

jacksonsmom99@... writes:

Oh Patty,

I completely understand!!I

While we were on the trip visiting family, we were gathered at the 4th of

July BBQ and I'm chasing here there and everywhere and having to get in

the pool with him and endure splashing in the face, kicking, biting, etc...

The next day we went out for dinner and my family talked about how well he's

doing - " he's really calm and doing so well on the trip for you. " Guess they

missed all the bruises and bite marks on me!

It's like having a toddler when I'm at those kinds of functions.

I pray it gets better too.

Thinking of you,

Jayne

Mom to 3 including (7)

[Guest guest]

Oh Patty,

I completely understand!!!!

While we were on the trip visiting family, we were gathered at the 4th of July

BBQ and I'm chasing here there and everywhere and having to get in the

pool with him and endure splashing in the face, kicking, biting, etc... The

next day we went out for dinner and my family talked about how well he's doing

- " he's really calm and doing so well on the trip for you. " Guess they missed

all the bruises and bite marks on me!

It's like having a toddler when I'm at those kinds of functions.

I pray it gets better too.

Thinking of you,

Jayne

Mom to 3 including (7)

hamburgpatti@... wrote:

Hi guys,

I just have to vent a minute, and you all are the only people I know who

truly understand.

I just left a backyard end of the softball season, BBQ, pool party for my

daughters team. loves to swim but needs total attention and requires

me to be the only parent in a bathing suit to be on guard at all times. Mean

while, all the other parents are sitting drinking wine and beer and eating

all these great munchies, and chatting not even having to look at the pool to

check on their children. And then when he was done swimming is when the

actual work and chasing begin. I can't let him wander because there is too much

stuff he can get into or he will fall into the pool. He can't go near the

adults because he's soaking wet and he might hug them or something. Not one

person came over to talk to me, expect this Dad who asked if I was using the

chair by me and then he picked it up and walked away. I left upset as usual and

all I could think of was how much I wish I had experienced the picnic you

all had in PA. It would have been so nice to be with people who understand.

OK that's it for now.

Patty, mom to (7 years old tomorrow) DD

12 -- my softball player

Kelsey (14 -- away at camp, and I miss her and her

help)

PS. I feel petty complaining about these issues when there is so much going

on -- Liz my prayers are with you. And little I am praying is doing

better. And for all of the wonderful moms and dads who understand and are

living through these " picnics " everyday.

[Guest guest]

Hi Patty,

There is nothing petty about what you experienced at the BBQ- folks can be

so rude and oblivious at times and it does make you feel horrible. I've been

through similar situations with a local Moms club. I'm glad that you feel

comfortable to share your experiences here because you do have a support

system who really understands first hand how you feel.

I hope that had a wonderful birthday!!

Best,

Mom to , 34 mos. DS/PDD-NOS

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>To:

>Subject: Re: picnics

>Date: Sun, 9 Jul 2006 17:10:44 -0700 (PDT)

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>Patty ~ I hear you completely. I've been in that situation too many times

>myself. And IT IS FRUSTRATING! No " typical " parents get it.

>

> And, Happy 7th Birthday to tomorrow!

>

> Becky

>

>hamburgpatti@... wrote:

> Hi guys,

>I just have to vent a minute, and you all are the only people I know who

>truly understand.

>I just left a backyard end of the softball season, BBQ, pool party for my

>daughters team. loves to swim but needs total attention and

>requires

>me to be the only parent in a bathing suit to be on guard at all times.

>Mean

>while, all the other parents are sitting drinking wine and beer and eating

>all these great munchies, and chatting not even having to look at the pool

>to

>check on their children. And then when he was done swimming is when the

>actual work and chasing begin. I can't let him wander because there is too

>much

>stuff he can get into or he will fall into the pool. He can't go near the

>adults because he's soaking wet and he might hug them or something. Not one

>person came over to talk to me, expect this Dad who asked if I was using

>the

>chair by me and then he picked it up and walked away. I left upset as usual

>and

>all I could think of was how much I wish I had experienced the picnic you

>all had in PA. It would have been so nice to be with people who understand.

>OK that's it for now.

>Patty, mom to (7 years old tomorrow) DD

> 12 -- my softball player

>Kelsey (14 -- away at camp, and I miss her and her

>help)

>

>PS. I feel petty complaining about these issues when there is so much going

>on -- Liz my prayers are with you. And little I am praying is doing

>better. And for all of the wonderful moms and dads who understand and are

>living through these " picnics " everyday.

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/11/2006 2:44:38 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

brendamcdonnell@... writes:

Hi Patty,

There is nothing petty about what you experienced at the BBQ- folks can be

so rude and oblivious at times and it does make you feel horrible. I've been

through similar situations with a local Moms club. I'm glad that you feel

comfortable to share your experiences here because you do have a support

system who really understands first hand how you feel.

I hope that had a wonderful birthday!!

Best,

Mom to , 34 mos. DS/PDD-NOS

Thanks , that's nice of you to say. It's amazing how we all identify

with these particular situations -- it's like " somebody else is walking in my

shoes and understands " .

's birthday was good. He started his first day of summer school, and

I visited to see what was happening up there. It was the teacher's very

first day teaching ever! And it showed -- she had absolutely no idea what to

do

with these kids.

Fortunately his aid has experience and she seems like she'll be good. So,

we'll see how things progress. Ughh.

But, we had cake and sang to him in the evening and he had the giggles all

night. When he starts laughing it is the most infectious laugh and we can't

help but join in laughing with him. He's just so happy -- and it's times like

these that make up for 100 picnics.

patty