Guest guest Posted June 6, 2006 Report Share Posted June 6, 2006 Hi Sara, I would say that you are a moving pro. I have always lived int the same house my entire married life. I would have not clue how to pack. I feel so badly for Elie and you too. Zeb is my velcro kid for the most part and that can make me crazy at times. I hope he can acclimate soon so you can enjoy your new house. Charlyne Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? sara cohen wrote: This ius our 18th move!! Third state!!! And sisnce Elie - 2nd country, 6th move!!!! Today I have been lo0cking myself in the bathroom to get away from ELie. And I so know he is missing his mentors from PHL. But there is no way to explain that shortly he will have new friendes and shortly he won't care, because he really has no concept beyond the pain of the loss right now. We have been calling every few days, trying to wean him, but I think the calling is worse. He really thinks that they will be here to visit soon when what they are saying is that they hope to visit sometime. Life will go on, it is just s little depressing right now. Of course the weather is GREAT!! Cool and clear -no a/c now for 2 days and no need. I did get my fridge painted black and DH and I got it up 3 stairs and iinto the kitchen without killing each other - altho it is a good thing I don't know where super sharp objects are right now..... He set up my computer table, but refuses to move the wires so I am standing to write you guys- I will not wait for hinm to get around to this. Another week and maybe we will have enough unpacked to start throwing out all the TOO MUCH we moved! Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. >From: mfroof@... >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Sara >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > ><>this >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the same three >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, >activity, >ignoring changes the focus.>> > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your letter, >coming >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say is true. >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It drives >me >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo frustrated and >ready >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when it was >just >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, 5 ish, >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no parental >support >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were all 'winging' it >on >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the severely >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come a long >way, >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs assistance >in >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what comes next? >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I wait till >I >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him asking the >same >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow him to >get >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be thinking of >you >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the past 20 >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. >Margaret > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2006 Report Share Posted June 6, 2006 Oh Sara, I completely know your pain! When we moved here, to Virginia, it was our 19th move in 15 years of marriage, and our 9th state I think - I'm not even 40 yet!!! UGH! I'm sorry that Elie is having such a tough time with the move and missing his friends. Could you or have you put together a book with photos you have of those friends? (like you have nothing better to do!) But it might help him, and occupy him! LOL! I hope you are loving your house - and yes, throw away anything that doesn't bring a smile to your face! Happy unpacking and hang in there, Jayne sara cohen wrote: This ius our 18th move!! Third state!!! And sisnce Elie - 2nd country, 6th move!!!! Today I have been lo0cking myself in the bathroom to get away from ELie. And I so know he is missing his mentors from PHL. But there is no way to explain that shortly he will have new friendes and shortly he won't care, because he really has no concept beyond the pain of the loss right now. We have been calling every few days, trying to wean him, but I think the calling is worse. He really thinks that they will be here to visit soon when what they are saying is that they hope to visit sometime. Life will go on, it is just s little depressing right now. Of course the weather is GREAT!! Cool and clear -no a/c now for 2 days and no need. I did get my fridge painted black and DH and I got it up 3 stairs and iinto the kitchen without killing each other - altho it is a good thing I don't know where super sharp objects are right now..... He set up my computer table, but refuses to move the wires so I am standing to write you guys- I will not wait for hinm to get around to this. Another week and maybe we will have enough unpacked to start throwing out all the TOO MUCH we moved! Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. >From: mfroof@... >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Sara >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > ><>this >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the same three >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, >activity, >ignoring changes the focus.>> > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your letter, >coming >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say is true. >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It drives >me >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo frustrated and >ready >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when it was >just >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, 5 ish, >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no parental >support >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were all 'winging' it >on >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the severely >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come a long >way, >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs assistance >in >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what comes next? >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I wait till >I >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him asking the >same >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow him to >get >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be thinking of >you >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the past 20 >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. >Margaret > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2006 Report Share Posted June 7, 2006 In a message dated 6/7/2006 4:28:14 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, pastmidvale@... writes: Cold beans and toast!!! And I say BURN IT, Sara.....LOLOL Man, VENT away. I So know!!!!!!! More later on your other heartfelt post....just haven't had time here to respond...but I AM thinking of you. Donna (um, who just found out last week that we are going to be grandparents....YES, you guys will be lucky enough to hear MY vent....WHEN I get time to do that too....LOL) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2006 Report Share Posted June 7, 2006 Can I begin with DH?????? He never throws anything out. I have to sneak past him. In the midst of this chaos, he wants me to separate cans and paper!!!!! I will be crazed. I may even consider getting my nursing license and going to work just to get away from both of them!!!!!! I want to throw out lots of things. He wants to " see what he needs " . I want to throw it away, he wants to have ANOTher YARD SALE. I want an empty clean house, he wants another file cabinet. And now he wants to know what and if I am making dinner. Cold beans and toast!!! Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: sTILL Moving In >Date: Tue, 6 Jun 2006 19:09:28 -0700 (PDT) > >Oh Sara, > I completely know your pain! When we moved here, to Virginia, it was >our 19th move in 15 years of marriage, and our 9th state I think - I'm not >even 40 yet!!! UGH! > > I'm sorry that Elie is having such a tough time with the move and >missing his friends. Could you or have you put together a book with photos >you have of those friends? (like you have nothing better to do!) But it >might help him, and occupy him! LOL! > > I hope you are loving your house - and yes, throw away anything that >doesn't bring a smile to your face! > > Happy unpacking and hang in there, > Jayne > >sara cohen wrote: > This ius our 18th move!! Third state!!! And sisnce Elie - 2nd country, >6th >move!!!! > >Today I have been lo0cking myself in the bathroom to get away from ELie. >And I so know he is missing his mentors from PHL. But there is no way to >explain that shortly he will have new friendes and shortly he won't care, >because he really has no concept beyond the pain of the loss right now. We >have been calling every few days, trying to wean him, but I think the >calling is worse. He really thinks that they will be here to visit soon >when what they are saying is that they hope to visit sometime. > >Life will go on, it is just s little depressing right now. > >Of course the weather is GREAT!! Cool and clear -no a/c now for 2 days and >no need. > >I did get my fridge painted black and DH and I got it up 3 stairs and iinto >the kitchen without killing each other - altho it is a good thing I don't >know where super sharp objects are right now..... > >He set up my computer table, but refuses to move the wires so I am standing >to write you guys- I will not wait for hinm to get around to this. > >Another week and maybe we will have enough unpacked to start throwing out >all the TOO MUCH we moved! > > > >Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > > > > > > >From: mfroof@... > >Reply-To: > >To: > >Subject: Sara > >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > > > ><>this > >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > > > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the same three > >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to > >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, > >activity, > >ignoring changes the focus.>> > > > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your letter, > >coming > >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say is true. > >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It drives > >me > >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo frustrated and > >ready > >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when it was > >just > >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, 5 ish, > >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no parental > >support > >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were all 'winging' >it > >on > >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the severely > >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come a long > >way, > >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs assistance > >in > >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what comes >next? > >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I wait till > >I > >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him asking >the > >same > >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow him to > >get > >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be thinking of > >you > >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the past 20 > >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. > >Margaret > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2006 Report Share Posted June 7, 2006 Hi Sara, Vent away, dh doesn't throw anything away either. I still have a cracked kiddie pool that i dragged to the trash more times than I care to count. The kiddie pool was my 26 yr old daughters. I am praying that Elie likes his new school. Charlyne Mom to Zeb 13 DS/OCD/ASD? sara cohen wrote: Can I begin with DH?????? He never throws anything out. I have to sneak past him. In the midst of this chaos, he wants me to separate cans and paper!!!!! I will be crazed. I may even consider getting my nursing license and going to work just to get away from both of them!!!!!! I want to throw out lots of things. He wants to " see what he needs " . I want to throw it away, he wants to have ANOTher YARD SALE. I want an empty clean house, he wants another file cabinet. And now he wants to know what and if I am making dinner. Cold beans and toast!!! Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: sTILL Moving In >Date: Tue, 6 Jun 2006 19:09:28 -0700 (PDT) > >Oh Sara, > I completely know your pain! When we moved here, to Virginia, it was >our 19th move in 15 years of marriage, and our 9th state I think - I'm not >even 40 yet!!! UGH! > > I'm sorry that Elie is having such a tough time with the move and >missing his friends. Could you or have you put together a book with photos >you have of those friends? (like you have nothing better to do!) But it >might help him, and occupy him! LOL! > > I hope you are loving your house - and yes, throw away anything that >doesn't bring a smile to your face! > > Happy unpacking and hang in there, > Jayne > >sara cohen wrote: > This ius our 18th move!! Third state!!! And sisnce Elie - 2nd country, >6th >move!!!! > >Today I have been lo0cking myself in the bathroom to get away from ELie. >And I so know he is missing his mentors from PHL. But there is no way to >explain that shortly he will have new friendes and shortly he won't care, >because he really has no concept beyond the pain of the loss right now. We >have been calling every few days, trying to wean him, but I think the >calling is worse. He really thinks that they will be here to visit soon >when what they are saying is that they hope to visit sometime. > >Life will go on, it is just s little depressing right now. > >Of course the weather is GREAT!! Cool and clear -no a/c now for 2 days and >no need. > >I did get my fridge painted black and DH and I got it up 3 stairs and iinto >the kitchen without killing each other - altho it is a good thing I don't >know where super sharp objects are right now..... > >He set up my computer table, but refuses to move the wires so I am standing >to write you guys- I will not wait for hinm to get around to this. > >Another week and maybe we will have enough unpacked to start throwing out >all the TOO MUCH we moved! > > > >Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > > > > > > >From: mfroof@... > >Reply-To: > >To: > >Subject: Sara > >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > > > ><>this > >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > > > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the same three > >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to > >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, > >activity, > >ignoring changes the focus.>> > > > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your letter, > >coming > >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say is true. > >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It drives > >me > >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo frustrated and > >ready > >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when it was > >just > >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, 5 ish, > >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no parental > >support > >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were all 'winging' >it > >on > >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the severely > >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come a long > >way, > >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs assistance > >in > >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what comes >next? > >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I wait till > >I > >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him asking >the > >same > >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow him to > >get > >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be thinking of > >you > >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the past 20 > >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. > >Margaret > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 OMG! Sara. He and my DH must be related. When we moved last year...he would pick through the trash. Hey, if you haven't missed it in 7 yrs...what the heck!!!! Liz Sara > >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > > > ><>this > >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > > > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the same three > >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to > >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, > >activity, > >ignoring changes the focus.>> > > > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your letter, > >coming > >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say is true. > >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It drives > >me > >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo frustrated and > >ready > >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when it was > >just > >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, 5 ish, > >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no parental > >support > >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were all 'winging' >it > >on > >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the severely > >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come a long > >way, > >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs assistance > >in > >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what comes >next? > >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I wait till > >I > >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him asking >the > >same > >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow him to > >get > >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be thinking of > >you > >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the past 20 > >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. > >Margaret > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2006 Report Share Posted June 9, 2006 Bob just commented " I don't know where all this stuff is going to go - this house is really small!!!! No joke - we went from 3300 plus basement and garages to 1400 and a basement. Does any human really need 10 cookie sheets??? And 4 old fridge shelfs to cool bread and rolls???? We also moved 2 fridges and a freezer, but at least I can justify those. There are only 3 of us - do we need 2 sets of service for 8???\ Of course we only have 3 wineglasses - he keeps breaking those. I think I need a wine glass that holds about 15 oz. Maybe I can find a camp for Bob - too bad he isn't still in the reserves!!!! Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > >Reply-To: >To: < > >Subject: Re: sTILL Moving In >Date: Thu, 8 Jun 2006 09:50:26 -0400 > >OMG! Sara. He and my DH must be related. When we moved last year...he >would pick through the trash. Hey, if you haven't missed it in 7 >yrs...what the heck!!!! > >Liz > Sara > > >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > > > > > ><>this > > >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > > > > > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the same >three > > >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to > > >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, > > >activity, > > >ignoring changes the focus.>> > > > > > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your letter, > > >coming > > >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say is >true. > > >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It >drives > > >me > > >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo frustrated >and > > >ready > > >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when it >was > > >just > > >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, 5 >ish, > > >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no >parental > > >support > > >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were all >'winging' > >it > > >on > > >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the >severely > > >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come a >long > > >way, > > >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs >assistance > > >in > > >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what comes > >next? > > >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I wait >till > > >I > > >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him >asking > >the > > >same > > >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow him >to > > >get > > >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be >thinking of > > >you > > >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the past >20 > > >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. > > >Margaret > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2006 Report Share Posted June 27, 2006 What part of Virginia did you move too? ltm_ltm_ltm -- In , Jayne Hickey wrote: > > Oh Sara, > I completely know your pain! When we moved here, to Virginia, it was our 19th move in 15 years of marriage, and our 9th state I think - I'm not even 40 yet!!! UGH! > > I'm sorry that Elie is having such a tough time with the move and missing his friends. Could you or have you put together a book with photos you have of those friends? (like you have nothing better to do!) But it might help him, and occupy him! LOL! > > I hope you are loving your house - and yes, throw away anything that doesn't bring a smile to your face! > > Happy unpacking and hang in there, > Jayne > > sara cohen wrote: > This ius our 18th move!! Third state!!! And sisnce Elie - 2nd country, 6th > move!!!! > > Today I have been lo0cking myself in the bathroom to get away from ELie. > And I so know he is missing his mentors from PHL. But there is no way to > explain that shortly he will have new friendes and shortly he won't care, > because he really has no concept beyond the pain of the loss right now. We > have been calling every few days, trying to wean him, but I think the > calling is worse. He really thinks that they will be here to visit soon > when what they are saying is that they hope to visit sometime. > > Life will go on, it is just s little depressing right now. > > Of course the weather is GREAT!! Cool and clear -no a/c now for 2 days and > no need. > > I did get my fridge painted black and DH and I got it up 3 stairs and iinto > the kitchen without killing each other - altho it is a good thing I don't > know where super sharp objects are right now..... > > He set up my computer table, but refuses to move the wires so I am standing > to write you guys- I will not wait for hinm to get around to this. > > Another week and maybe we will have enough unpacked to start throwing out > all the TOO MUCH we moved! > > > > Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > > > > > > >From: mfroof@... > >Reply-To: > >To: > >Subject: Sara > >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > > > ><>this > >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > > > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the same three > >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to > >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, > >activity, > >ignoring changes the focus.>> > > > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your letter, > >coming > >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say is true. > >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It drives > >me > >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo frustrated and > >ready > >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when it was > >just > >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, 5 ish, > >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no parental > >support > >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were all 'winging' it > >on > >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the severely > >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come a long > >way, > >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs assistance > >in > >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what comes next? > >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I wait till > >I > >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him asking the > >same > >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow him to > >get > >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be thinking of > >you > >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the past 20 > >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. > >Margaret > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2006 Report Share Posted June 27, 2006 Hampton Roads. Are you in Va, ltm? ltm_ltm_ltm wrote: What part of Virginia did you move too? ltm_ltm_ltm -- In , Jayne Hickey wrote: > > Oh Sara, > I completely know your pain! When we moved here, to Virginia, it was our 19th move in 15 years of marriage, and our 9th state I think - I'm not even 40 yet!!! UGH! > > I'm sorry that Elie is having such a tough time with the move and missing his friends. Could you or have you put together a book with photos you have of those friends? (like you have nothing better to do!) But it might help him, and occupy him! LOL! > > I hope you are loving your house - and yes, throw away anything that doesn't bring a smile to your face! > > Happy unpacking and hang in there, > Jayne > > sara cohen wrote: > This ius our 18th move!! Third state!!! And sisnce Elie - 2nd country, 6th > move!!!! > > Today I have been lo0cking myself in the bathroom to get away from ELie. > And I so know he is missing his mentors from PHL. But there is no way to > explain that shortly he will have new friendes and shortly he won't care, > because he really has no concept beyond the pain of the loss right now. We > have been calling every few days, trying to wean him, but I think the > calling is worse. He really thinks that they will be here to visit soon > when what they are saying is that they hope to visit sometime. > > Life will go on, it is just s little depressing right now. > > Of course the weather is GREAT!! Cool and clear -no a/c now for 2 days and > no need. > > I did get my fridge painted black and DH and I got it up 3 stairs and iinto > the kitchen without killing each other - altho it is a good thing I don't > know where super sharp objects are right now..... > > He set up my computer table, but refuses to move the wires so I am standing > to write you guys- I will not wait for hinm to get around to this. > > Another week and maybe we will have enough unpacked to start throwing out > all the TOO MUCH we moved! > > > > Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > > > > > > >From: mfroof@... > >Reply-To: > >To: > >Subject: Sara > >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > > > ><>this > >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > > > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the same three > >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to > >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, > >activity, > >ignoring changes the focus.>> > > > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your letter, > >coming > >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say is true. > >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It drives > >me > >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo frustrated and > >ready > >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when it was > >just > >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, 5 ish, > >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no parental > >support > >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were all 'winging' it > >on > >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the severely > >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come a long > >way, > >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs assistance > >in > >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what comes next? > >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I wait till > >I > >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him asking the > >same > >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow him to > >get > >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be thinking of > >you > >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the past 20 > >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. > >Margaret > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2006 Report Share Posted June 29, 2006 We lived in Norfolk outside of Gate 4 for 8 years (the last 8 years). Before we went overseas, we lived in 3 different houses in Norfolk. That means 16 years in NORFOLK!!!!! That is enough of VA for me. Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: sTILL Moving In >Date: Wed, 28 Jun 2006 00:45:17 -0000 > >What part of Virginia did you move too? > >ltm_ltm_ltm > >-- In , Jayne Hickey >wrote: > > > > Oh Sara, > > I completely know your pain! When we moved here, to Virginia, >it was our 19th move in 15 years of marriage, and our 9th state I >think - I'm not even 40 yet!!! UGH! > > > > I'm sorry that Elie is having such a tough time with the move >and missing his friends. Could you or have you put together a book >with photos you have of those friends? (like you have nothing better >to do!) But it might help him, and occupy him! LOL! > > > > I hope you are loving your house - and yes, throw away anything >that doesn't bring a smile to your face! > > > > Happy unpacking and hang in there, > > Jayne > > > > sara cohen wrote: > > This ius our 18th move!! Third state!!! And sisnce Elie - 2nd >country, 6th > > move!!!! > > > > Today I have been lo0cking myself in the bathroom to get away from >ELie. > > And I so know he is missing his mentors from PHL. But there is no >way to > > explain that shortly he will have new friendes and shortly he >won't care, > > because he really has no concept beyond the pain of the loss right >now. We > > have been calling every few days, trying to wean him, but I think >the > > calling is worse. He really thinks that they will be here to visit >soon > > when what they are saying is that they hope to visit sometime. > > > > Life will go on, it is just s little depressing right now. > > > > Of course the weather is GREAT!! Cool and clear -no a/c now for 2 >days and > > no need. > > > > I did get my fridge painted black and DH and I got it up 3 stairs >and iinto > > the kitchen without killing each other - altho it is a good thing >I don't > > know where super sharp objects are right now..... > > > > He set up my computer table, but refuses to move the wires so I am >standing > > to write you guys- I will not wait for hinm to get around to this. > > > > Another week and maybe we will have enough unpacked to start >throwing out > > all the TOO MUCH we moved! > > > > > > > > Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. > > > > > > > > > > > > >From: mfroof@... > > >Reply-To: > > >To: > > >Subject: Sara > > >Date: Mon, 5 Jun 2006 21:11:48 EDT > > > > > ><>this > > >fews weeks makes me realize how very difficult this is becoming. > > > > > >Elie talks - on one subject only and for hours at a time, the >same three > > >word three sentences. Over and over and over again. Any attempt to > > >redirect is met by the famous ELie whine. No bribe, manipulation, > > >activity, > > >ignoring changes the focus.>> > > > > > >Hi, Everyone....Sara....you can feel the frustration in your >letter, > > >coming > > >from your heart. The scary thing is that so much of what you say >is true. > > >Believe me, I know about the over and over and over business. It >drives > > >me > > >nuts, too. I do know that in the past, I was sooooooooo >frustrated and > > >ready > > >to give Gareth up for adoption because of the autism....back when >it was > > >just > > >becoming the 'in' problem for everyone. When our kids were 3, 4, >5 ish, > > >there were very few papers for autism....period. There was no >parental > > >support > > >groups, ABA, sensory therapies, floortime, etc....we were >all 'winging' it > > >on > > >our own. I would not say that Gareth is cured, but he is not the >severely > > >autistic child he was at age 5-6 when first labeled. He has come >a long > > >way, > > >mostly do to meds. He still can't be left home alone and needs >assistance > > >in > > >toiletry, baths, dressing, shoes/braces, etc. Like you....what >comes next? > > >When do I start seriously thinking of putting him a home? Do I >wait till > > >I > > >can't do it anymore.....when I am soooooooo frustrated with him >asking the > > >same > > >question over and over and over again? How much time do I allow >him to > > >get > > >acclimated in a home before I get put six feet under? I'll be >thinking of > > >you > > >unpacking and getting settled in....did plenty of that over the >past 20 > > >years!!! Seven houses/cities in all!!! Prayers coming your way. > > >Margaret > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2006 Report Share Posted June 30, 2006 In a message dated 6/29/2006 11:56:19 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, pastmidvale@... writes: That means 16 years in NORFOLK!!!!! That is enough of VA for me. I have you beat, I was born and raised in VA, :-) being a military brat I have had the pleasure of living in many different places and to be honest, coming back home to VA is the most comforting feeling. :-) I have found that no matter where you live there will be things you like and dislike and nothing feels so good as to go home again. :-) Carol Trishasmom She isn't typical, She's Trisha! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2006 Report Share Posted June 30, 2006 In a message dated 6/30/2006 1:19:27 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, pastmidvale@... writes: and we first arrived right after schools reopened after segregation, integration so you lived here in the early to mid 60s? We came back from overseas in 1963 and we had to be debriefed on how to " act " because of the segregtion/integration situation. I was 12 years old at the time and being military family the schools we attended on post were not segregated so this was not different to us. Geez just remembering that makes me feel old. lol Carol Trishasmom She isn't typical, She's Trisha! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2006 Report Share Posted June 30, 2006 Didn't dislike the PLACE Virginia - and we first arrived right after schools reopened after segregation, integration. But NO services available to Elie except 2 hours a week respite. School services after elementary school were meager. In Va Beach, however, there were many more options. We just didn't live there. Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. >From: Csvillars@... >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: Re: sTILL Moving In >Date: Fri, 30 Jun 2006 07:03:18 EDT > > >In a message dated 6/29/2006 11:56:19 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, >pastmidvale@... writes: > >That >means 16 years in NORFOLK!!!!! That is enough of VA for me. > > > >I have you beat, I was born and raised in VA, :-) being a military brat I >have had the pleasure of living in many different places and to be honest, >coming back home to VA is the most comforting feeling. :-) I have found >that no >matter where you live there will be things you like and dislike and >nothing >feels so good as to go home again. :-) > >Carol >Trishasmom >She isn't typical, She's Trisha! > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 No, we came to Norfolk in 1973. Schools were opened and integrated by court order with cross city bussing to integrate. We first had the kids in a base elementary but it was sooooo baaaaddd ducationally, that we moved out of base housing to Colonial Place which was a newly integrated housing area. Our older kids walked to a 345 school that was integrated by the neighborhood, but the younger kids rode a bus cross city to integrate a major white school (my kids are white) for K,1,2,. It was very funny. Since the court order was by neighborhood, not by race, we had some funny situations when we, the people decided to create de facto integration by housing. Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons. >From: Csvillars@... >Reply-To: >To: >Subject: Re: Re: sTILL Moving In >Date: Fri, 30 Jun 2006 13:41:01 EDT > > >In a message dated 6/30/2006 1:19:27 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, >pastmidvale@... writes: > >and we first arrived right after schools >reopened after segregation, integration > > >so you lived here in the early to mid 60s? We came back from overseas in >1963 and we had to be debriefed on how to " act " because of the >segregtion/integration situation. I was 12 years old at the time and >being military family >the schools we attended on post were not segregated so this was not >different >to us. Geez just remembering that makes me feel old. lol > >Carol >Trishasmom >She isn't typical, She's Trisha! > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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