RE: problem advice?

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In a message dated 4/12/2006 3:29:13 PM Eastern Standard Time,

liz.desantis@... writes:

got kicked in the jaw this morning so hard it brought

> tears to my eyes. Any suggestions is anybody else having these kind of

> problems? Thanks Laurie

Hi Laurie,

Um, how about a loud and stern NO, THAT HURTS MOMMY!!, and tell him to say

he is sorry to you or sign it if he is non verbal. you are going to be in

real trouble if he doesn't stop this and gets older and bigger!!

Viola No, thank goodness I don't have these problems...................

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Tori was always a terror trying to dress her. Pinching, hitting, attempting

to bite (recently). I found that when she is on the toilet (not that she

uses it) I can maneuver her a bit better.

Liz

problem advice?

> It wont be long before I cant dress Mic anymore if he doesnt want to.In

> the last 2 weeks everytime I try to dress him for school he kicks and

> fights me trying to get away.He hates pants and wow Im getting bruised.If

> he has shoes on Im in big trouble.Steve leaves for work early now so hes

> not home and I havent really said anything.Even if I stand him up to get

> in his pants on hes fighting me all the way.Im afraid if I hold him to

> hard Im gonna bruise him.It is like a wrestling match. I just do not know

> what to do.The school knows and they are trying to get him to dress

> himself, well its not that its the fact he doesnt want clothes on

> especially pants.I got kicked in the jaw this morning so hard it brought

> tears to my eyes. Any suggestions is anybody else having these kind of

> problems? Thanks Laurie

>

>

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> It wont be long before I cant dress Mic anymore if he doesnt want

to.In the last 2 weeks everytime I try to dress him for school he

kicks and fights me trying to get away.He hates pants and wow Im

getting bruised.If he has shoes on Im in big trouble.Steve leaves for

work early now so hes not home and I havent really said anything.Even

if I stand him up to get in his pants on hes fighting me all the

way.Im afraid if I hold him to hard Im gonna bruise him.It is like a

wrestling match. I just do not know what to do.The school knows and

they are trying to get him to dress himself, well its not that its

the fact he doesnt want clothes on especially pants.I got kicked in

the jaw this morning so hard it brought tears to my eyes. Any

suggestions is anybody else having these kind of problems? Thanks

Laurie

>

Laurie

what type of pants does Mic wear? Sounds like Major sensory issues.

If he wears pants that have ruff material like jeans or pants that

have zippers in them try sweatpants. Matt wears sweat right up to

very warm weather then its on to shorts. All his pants are elastic

waste.Hes 16 won't wear clothes that have zippers. also wears t-

shirts and loose clothing.

>

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Have you tried a brushing program for his sensory needs?? I used this to

defuse the problems getting clothes on.

Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

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>Subject: problem advice?

>Date: Wed, 12 Apr 2006 12:18:02 -0700 (PDT)

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>It wont be long before I cant dress Mic anymore if he doesnt want to.In the

>last 2 weeks everytime I try to dress him for school he kicks and fights me

>trying to get away.He hates pants and wow Im getting bruised.If he has

>shoes on Im in big trouble.Steve leaves for work early now so hes not home

>and I havent really said anything.Even if I stand him up to get in his

>pants on hes fighting me all the way.Im afraid if I hold him to hard Im

>gonna bruise him.It is like a wrestling match. I just do not know what to

>do.The school knows and they are trying to get him to dress himself, well

>its not that its the fact he doesnt want clothes on especially pants.I got

>kicked in the jaw this morning so hard it brought tears to my eyes. Any

>suggestions is anybody else having these kind of problems? Thanks Laurie

>

>

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In a message dated 4/13/2006 2:27:51 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

gldcst@... writes:

She's rocking away in the back seat with no shirt on and her tiny little

boobettes out there for all to see. Neither of us could stop laughing while

we're yelling at her " It's NOT funny! " while struggling to get her shirt back

on. (don't ask about a bra please).

I'm going to laugh for days over this visual!!!!!!!!!! Still laughing over

Leah's visuals from years ago.

Gail :-)

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<<t wont be long before I cant dress Mic anymore if he doesnt want to.In the

last 2 weeks everytime I try to dress him for school he kicks and fights me

trying to get away.He hates pants and wow Im getting bruised.If he has shoes on

Im in big trouble>>

Laurie, I doubt if this will be any consolation but maybe you'll get a laugh at

least. refuses to wear long pants or long sleeved shirts. This normally is

not a horrible thing when you live in So Florida. We questioned whether it was a

sensory problem but as she wears long sleeved long legged pajamas every night we

figured it is just a behavioral " don't mess with my routine " thing.

A couple of weeks ago it was actually freezing down here (our 3 days of winter)

and we went out to find a new used car for me. We fought like hell to get the

long pants on (we actually lied and said " horses " cause she knows she has to

wear pants to go riding). The shirt was a total war to get on her and we had to

drag her out the door immediately. The jacket was an absolute no go.

She was in the back seat of the car listening to her VCR-music videos and

rocking away making the whole car move as usual. dh went over to a minivan about

6 feet away then motioned me to come over to check it out. I told her I'd be

right back and went over to look at the car; I checked on (1 second!

later) and I go " Jim look at her!! " She's rocking away in the back seat with no

shirt on and her tiny little boobettes out there for all to see. Neither of us

could stop laughing while we're yelling at her " It's NOT funny! " while

struggling to get her shirt back on. (don't ask about a bra please).

Anyway it was definitely a 2 man job and I feel for you!

Sherry

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<<'m going to laugh for days over this visual!!!!!!!!!! Still laughing over

Leah's visuals from years ago.

Gail :-)>>

Gail, the worst part was that after this we went to another car lot and dh

thought this was so hilarious he started telling this poor polite jamaican car

dealer at carmax about what she had done at the last car lot. The poor guy kept

looking warily over his shoulder back at jamie in her stroller probably afraid

she's gonna put on another " girls gone wild " show right there. And I'm like " Jim

that's a little bit too much information! "

Another kodak moment day:-)

Sherry

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LOL Boy, oh boy. It's a darn good thing we have been blessed with a sense

of humor. :-) How would we ever survive these Kodak moments without it?

Tell me Sherry, did you ever end up getting a new car? LOL You sure deserve

one after your ordeal! LOL

Gail :-)

Gail, the worst part was that after this we went to another car lot and dh

thought this was so hilarious he started telling this poor polite jamaican car

dealer at carmax about what she had done at the last car lot. The poor guy

kept looking warily over his shoulder back at jamie in her stroller probably

afraid she's gonna put on another " girls gone wild " show right there. And I'm

like " Jim that's a little bit too much information! "

Another kodak moment day:-)

Sherry

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i kinda agree here i would be sure mic knows who is boss, i would never let my

boys do that. never struggled to get dressed, keeping him dressed on the

other hand, lol, it took a few good years to train him to dress himself, the

socks were hard, and then i think it was just last summer he finally mastered

buttoning his blue jeans. Are the clothes comfy soft or restricting?? when

nathan was little he wore mostly only cute little sweat type outfits or short

outfits, only elastic waist bands and everything is cotton, until he got older

and then he started ripping his pants and socks etc all the time i couldnt keep

him clothed, so we swithced to blue jeans, and eventually he got it, and seems

to like his bj's even his bj shorts i usually make from his winter jeans. I know

its hard but i also think mic needs some firm no's here, maybe just setting his

clothes out and telling him to get dressed, and leave him be for a few minutes,

and give him a great reward of something

after he is dressed, i know at our house, nathan doesnt get his

" hotdogsausages " (dont ask me why he combines words like this,lol) until he is

showered and dressed, this is ALWAYS a big issue he is done quickly and at the

table, but if he eats first it could be nightime/bedtime before he decides he

wants to get dressed,lol, he knows how to work the system, lol shawna

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Mic cant dress himself. He helps sometimes he will put his arm thru a sleeve or

let me put his socks on but his motor skills are no where near him dressing

himself. He tries.He takes his diaper off sometimes and he pulls his socks off

by the toes.He has this hat he can pull over his head sometimes or he just lays

it on the top of his head very cute.Hes home this week and unless we go out he

will run around in his diaper and T shirt.He likes to have a shirt on ever since

his mik key button.His coat and pants are the problems. He likes his shoes.It

depends on him and whether he wants to be touched, samething with a bath.I cant

wash him thats Dads job he forces him holding him by his arm Im afraid he will

slip and get hurt.Hes been so good today, gentle cuddly loving, he keeps trying

to sit on my head.I had a dog that used to do the samething. Im feeling less

alone and have more hope we will work thru this behavior.Or at least its almost

shorts time.It most of all scares me

for our future hes strong now.Thanks everyone, I never wished I was a bigger

woman until now.I lift weights and it does help. Laurie

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Laurie, how old is Mic?

Sherry

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Mic will be 6 in August.

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dont worry everyting always works out in some way or aonther in the end, youll

figure something out with mic, many hugs!! shawna

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Hi Laurie, re dressing

Em is nearly 8 now. I use bribery. Luckily she loves going to school -so

that helps. You need pants on to go to school. You need shoes on to go to

school. If we are not going anywhere pj's stay on. I have 2 younger boys and

they can be just as hard to dress!! I just turn off the morning cartoons until

they are dressed.

Also Em can not have her cd player until she is dressed. Though sometimes she

thrashes about so much I just leave her, shut the door and come back in 5 mins

when she is calmer. I find over the head shirts are better than struggleing

with buttons. And never press studs as they can be undone in a flash.

During the day, especially on the trampalene the clothes come off. So ... you

need pants on to jump, you need pants on to have dinner etc.

With pants she will lie on the bed, 1 leg in, while my knee is on the other leg,

then 2 legs in. pull them up and bums up (she thinks that is so funny) pull

pants right up.

But it is always when we are running late that we have the most trouble!!

Maybe you could put a blanket over the legs/feet when doing the top half to

avoid the kicking.

good luck

annette

nolan wrote:

It wont be long before I cant dress Mic anymore if

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