Stupid retard and other lovely language

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Hi Sara,

Good suggestion but it's been done already. Yearly, a social worker from

another school comes into Zeb's class and talks about differences etc. When the

kids were asked what was different about their class they responded that they

had an aide in the classroom, not a word about Zeb. The kids are so used to him

it's not a big deal anymore. It's the parents with attitudes that spread that

attitude to their children. I have to follow a specific agenda for my speech

tomorrow. The social relation part will not be pretty. I will build on that

topic and what terrible things that happen when good supports are not put into

place.

Charlyne

Mom to Zeb 11 DS/OCD/ASD?

[Guest guest]

Fortunately for Elie, he does not understand that language can be unkind.

But for Zeb, you have another issue.

With an understanding teacher, woud it be possible to do a short

presentation to the class - with or without Zeb- to help these growing minds

understand that all of us have differences?? Some are as subtle as a

freckle or hair color. Some are a need for glasses or asthma medication.

Some more noticeable like a difficulty in speaking certain words. Some are

better at basketball than others, etc

I did this type of class for years without Elie. IT seems to help

youngsters look aat people with different eyes and more seeing hearts.

After all, we all are different in some ways but alike in more ways. I bet

you could do a bang up job.

Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

>From: charlyne1121@...

>Reply-To:

>To:

>Subject: Re: Middle School

>Date: Mon, 18 Oct 2004 23:42:57 EDT

>

>

>In a message dated 10/18/2004 8:54:07 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

>pastmidvale@... writes:

>

>

> > Today Elie decided it wds smack butt day

>

>Hi Sara,

>Now that got that lazy aide's attention. I needed that laugh today. Like

>Elie

>could discuss sexual harassment with a behaviorist to have it matter. Does

>it

>ever stop? I am tired of school already and to think I have to do this for

>6-8 more years, oh please. I hope I have the strength. I can understand why

>you

>are so tired and fedup. I do hope you can get your second wind and teach

>them

>a few things for Elie's sake. You are so good at it.

>I didn't have the best school day with Zeb either. I attend a weekly

>collaborative meeting on Mondays so I know what's going on in the week at

>school. The

>staff talks among one another and I write. It keeps me in the loop and any

>questions that I have. Zeb is acutely aware of his disability and

>differences

>this year. I had just mentioned to the teacher that Zeb was having

>difficulty

>dealing with some unkind words from a few of his peers. Zeb has a male

>teacher

>this year that is a wonderful role model and is extremely supportive. He

>assured

>me that in class the students are great to Zeb but at this age the kids can

>be very sneaky. He would do his best to watch and listen at recess etc and

>take

>care of any situation. The class was at music during the meeting. I was

>walking out of the meeting with the teacher toward the front door and the

>aide came

>to get us. Zeb had ran into the bathroom. He was crying. Zeb told the

>teacher

>that a few boys swore at him and called him a stupid retard. Zeb was so

>upset

>that I had to take him home. I am not fully prepared how to teach Zeb that

>our world can be cruel to people with disabilities. I have second thoughts

>on

>middle school already.

>Charlyne

>Mom to Zeb 11 DS/OCD/ASD?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/19/2004 11:04:53 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

charlyne1121@... writes:

I have to follow a specific agenda for my speech

tomorrow. The social relation part will not be pretty. I will build on that

topic and what terrible things that happen when good supports are not put

into

place.

Charlyne

How'd you make out Char? How horrible!!! To think of poor Zeb crying in

the boys' room....so cruel!!!!

{{{{hugs}}}}}

Donna

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In a message dated 10/20/2004 3:22:28 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

duffey48@... writes:

> How'd you make out Char? How horrible!!! To think of poor Zeb crying

> in

> the boys' room....so cruel!!!!

Hi Donna,

Thanks for asking. I did just fine. I was actually a nervous wreck. The

school district was in attendance in full force, administration,sped teachers

and

related services. I asked the pupil service coordinator from my district if she

had reserved all these seats and that I had no idea the school staff enjoyed

listening to me speak,LOL. They gave me the thumbs up. She did say that she

encouraged her entourage from my district to support me even though many had no

idea who I was or I they. I was asked a few very difficult questions that I

had to answer honestly but managed to do it respectfully. Zeb's attorney was

also in attendance taking notes. She felt I answered the questions very well. I

am relieved this is over. The dept of ed wants me to do this again with Zeb! I

am really nervous now, my kid with the mouth,LOL.

Charlyne

Mom to Zeb 11 DS/OCD/ASD?