boundaries and kids=DONI-MARIE

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AMEN, AMEN!!!!!

LUV YA'

BILLIE

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> Jo,

> I agree with you. Kids may balk at rules and boundaries, but they need

them,

> and deep down really want them. My daugheter always said I was the worst

mom

> in the world when she was a teen, now at 23 she thinks I was great, making

> her have curfews and rules and spankings and groundings. A whack or two on

a

> kids butt with your hand hurts your hand mor than their butt, but it sure

> gets their attention. My own view is it becomes abuse when it is anywhere

> else but the butt and your open hand.

>

> I have to admit to going beyond those bounds in the heat of anger a couple

> of times, but I owned up to her afterwards that I was in the wrong,

because

> I felt she needed to know I lived up to boundaries and consequences too.

For

> her, knowing I was human enough to fall, and real enough to admit it, made

a

> world of difference to her own self-esteem, especially since 'do as I tell

> you and not as I do' doesn't fly with anyone, especially a teen. When a

> child doesn't learn respect for others, he can't respect himself either, I

> think.

>

> {{{Gentle Hugs}}}

> Doni-Marie

>

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> Jo said:

> I AGREE WITH YOU THERE YOU CAN NO LONGER MAKE YOUR KIDS MIND OR TEACH

> THEM RESPECT. MOST GROW UP FEELING