Anger vs. Frustration-

[Guest guest]

Hi :

I know my AS daughter has BIG difficulties figuring out the difference from when I am frustrated vs. angry. It happened Sunday so when I walked into our home last night after work she looked at me and said are U still angry or are U done? Lol I wanted to say U should know the difference. <Wink> Her AS brother is like this. Growing up they would say U look angry when I was just thinking about something else and it had NOTHING to do with them. It is those "darn" non verbal signs and U don't have to have AS to miss them.

I work for a telecom company where all the communication is done through the phone/email or fax. Our tone and how we string our words together can be the difference in conflict resolution especially today with our economy.

I read an article yesterday that Microsoft laid off 1,400 people last month and over paid their severance. Lol they are asking for it back within 2 weeks. I would have loved to have seen THAT letter. Lol”Sorry to let U go, sorry to have over paid U, now give us OUR money BACK!" <Wink> lol

Back to the point??? Non verbal skills are hard for many of us. I just went through training last week for folks re-entering the job market and it was awesome regardless if you are relocating or transitioning to another company. Non verbal cues can be a deal breaker during the interview or on the job or just dealing with everyday life. Our trainer use to work for HP before he was laid off and did not like engineering but HR was a better fit for him. He presented as very social.

What I have learned from working for a tech company is the same reason ASPIRES thrives. TOGETHER we are stronger. Tech brains vs. non-tech brains CAN do well together providing both sides understand the limits of their boundaries and are willing to enlist others. I learned to say, "I just don't get it?" in a safe environment and because I am technically challenged working for a tech company THAT FACT is a given lol It can be OK not to get it as every time U ask for help U place more tools in your tool box providing U have a strong and safe network. I did not always feel this way but they have taught me so much. I have learned to see past a label or behavior and see a person and somewhere along the line that label just faded…

So when we {my company} close our doors on May 1st, many of us will celebrate and look back and remember the good times and wish new beginnings for all of us. That is how it should be. That will be how our journey ended TOGETHER. Every friendship and person U comes in contact with in your life is like this. Separation by 6 degrees.

Online format misses so much. You miss the tone, pitch and body language, part of what connects us all together and AS folks can get this with a safe person in a safe environment. I went through the training with a tech I have worked with for 4 years and have never seen him smile, EVER. Lol Total tech brain, geek or nerd? He must have been comfortable as he literally opened his mouth and spoke over and over again. He lit up the room when he smiled and laughed and told "his" story. Go figure? It was a part of him that some of his co-workers like me that don't interface with him on a daily basis had the opportunity to see for the 1st time. We said, "You should smile more often." Lol His gait? He presents as a zombie walking the halls, he is there but not really there till now. Now, all of us in the room saw him differently. I think folks like me stopped saying hello thinking we were intruding due to sensory issues without realizing we were isolating and that was never our intent. The best part is he knew that. Talk about a lack of communication. It can happen with ALL of us.

Just me.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I may have been wrong about what is angefr and what is frustration at least some of the time, but when a person is yelling, saying sarcasting things and hitting back verbally as if in a fight, then on content alone, I call that anger. Maybe it wasn't. I think a few people would have gotten that one wrong, though.

I am not embarrassed to say that on facial emotion alone, I still make plenty of errors. Hey, glad AS people aren't the only ones to have experienced thos- I guess you can relate to use a bit!

You always post these great letters about the ends of things. It made me feel that if I ever break up, or leave a company, I should definitely email you, because your posts make everything have a good side to it. Isn't breaking up ever wrong or painful to you?

To: aspires-relationships Sent: Tuesday, February 24, 2009 12:33:51 PMSubject: Anger vs. Frustration-

Hi :

I know my AS daughter has BIG difficulties figuring out the difference from when I am frustrated vs. angry. It happened Sunday so when I walked into our home last night after work she looked at me and said are U still angry or are U done? Lol I wanted to say U should know the difference. <Wink> Her AS brother is like this. Growing up they would say U look angry when I was just thinking about something else and it had NOTHING to do with them. It is those "darn" non verbal signs and U don't have to have AS to miss them.

I work for a telecom company where all the communication is done through the phone/email or fax. Our tone and how we string our words together can be the difference in conflict resolution especially today with our economy.

I read an article yesterday that Microsoft laid off 1,400 people last month and over paid their severance. Lol they are asking for it back within 2 weeks. I would have loved to have seen THAT letter. Lol”Sorry to let U go, sorry to have over paid U, now give us OUR money BACK!" <Wink> lol

Back to the point??? Non verbal skills are hard for many of us. I just went through training last week for folks re-entering the job market and it was awesome regardless if you are relocating or transitioning to another company. Non verbal cues can be a deal breaker during the interview or on the job or just dealing with everyday life. Our trainer use to work for HP before he was laid off and did not like engineering but HR was a better fit for him. He presented as very social.

What I have learned from working for a tech company is the same reason ASPIRES thrives. TOGETHER we are stronger. Tech brains vs. non-tech brains CAN do well together providing both sides understand the limits of their boundaries and are willing to enlist others. I learned to say, "I just don't get it?" in a safe environment and because I am technically challenged working for a tech company THAT FACT is a given lol It can be OK not to get it as every time U ask for help U place more tools in your tool box providing U have a strong and safe network. I did not always feel this way but they have taught me so much. I have learned to see past a label or behavior and see a person and somewhere along the line that label just faded…

So when we {my company} close our doors on May 1st, many of us will celebrate and look back and remember the good times and wish new beginnings for all of us. That is how it should be. That will be how our journey ended TOGETHER. Every friendship and person U comes in contact with in your life is like this. Separation by 6 degrees.

Online format misses so much. You miss the tone, pitch and body language, part of what connects us all together and AS folks can get this with a safe person in a safe environment. I went through the training with a tech I have worked with for 4 years and have never seen him smile, EVER. Lol Total tech brain, geek or nerd? He must have been comfortable as he literally opened his mouth and spoke over and over again. He lit up the room when he smiled and laughed and told "his" story. Go figure? It was a part of him that some of his co-workers like me that don't interface with him on a daily basis had the opportunity to see for the 1st time. We said, "You should smile more often." Lol His gait? He presents as a zombie walking the halls, he is there but not really there till now. Now, all of us in the room saw him

differently. I think folks like me stopped saying hello thinking we were intruding due to sensory issues without realizing we were isolating and that was never our intent. The best part is he knew that. Talk about a lack of communication. It can happen with ALL of us.

Just me.