Guest guest Posted July 7, 2003 Report Share Posted July 7, 2003 Hi , I don't have any great advice for you on #1 other than to say it does get better, but it is soooo hard!! I still think sometimes that (my 5 yr old twin with DS) doesn't understand me and won't listen to me when I say NO! or STOP! when she tries to run away although she is laughing hysterically when I catch up to her! On the #2 item....I definitely remember ('s twin without DS) acting up alot when she was 2 - 3 years old because was always getting so much special attention. I used to, and continue to make some one on one time with . Tomorrow the two of us are going out to breakfast. I am lucky to have family in town that can watch for me, but I have also hired a babysitter in the past to watch so I can take to the Movies. One thing that I realized when the twins were younger and need to continually remind myself of is this: I have always taken for granted that would learn things and my rewards for her accomplishments have been much less than for . I always try to stop and make a big deal for some of 's accomplishments. Also let them overhear you telling others about how great they are. I know that get's sick of hearing me talking to everyone about 's latest problems and gains. I always try to talk about to others when I know she can hear. It's amazing what those little ears pick up on!! As I am sure you all know... Sue - mom to (DS) and 5 yrs > >Reply-To: Multiples-DS >To: Multiples-DS >Subject: HELP! >Date: Mon, 07 Jul 2003 21:57:04 -0000 > >Hi all...I've been reading all your messages for quite some time now, >but with 3-year-old twins, you know how difficult it is to find time >to post. Sorry about that, and sorry too now for coming to you all >with my problems when you barely know me, but I need some advice. >Two things: >1. What is working for you as far as disciplining your 3-year-old >with DS? Mine, Katy, is so stubborn about eating the dogfood, >standing up in her high chair, running away in the store while I >attend to her twin, etc. We've done stern talkings-to, light butt >swats. Her therapist recommends time-out, but honestly I don't think >she'd really comprehend that yet at this point. Some days, she >drives me bonkers! I can say NONO Katy, sit her back down firmly in >her chair, turn my back and she's right back. Rinse, repeat, rinse, >repeat. Today in particular, imagine this scenario, emergency pee >situation at the WalMart for sister Ally. Running to the bathroom, >stripping off swimsuit coverall and one-piece swimsuit to get kid on >the pot. EVERY time I turn my back, Katy is running out the door >into the store (there's no door, just an opening). I run out, >leaving Ally peeing on her half-pulled-down swimsuit, grab Katy's >arm, drag her back into the bathroom, finish pulling down the suit, >run back to drag Katy, place Ally on the potty, run back to drag >Katy, get the t.p. from the next stall, run back to drag Katy, wipe >the little tyke's bottom, run back to get Katy, pull up the swimsuit, >run back to get Katy, pull over the coverall, run back to get Katy. >Potty flushing, hand washing, bag gathering, hand drying.......AARGH! >Of course they won't let you take the cart into the bathroom, which >was where she was nicely strapped through the rest of the shopping >trip. Was I the one praying for her to walk???????? What was I >thinking??? (JK-seriously one of the best days of my life!) >2. For those of you with an unmatched set like mine (only one has >DS), how do you deal with the inequities of attention? Ally (non DS >twin) has become very disruptive during therapy sessions, and I can >really feel for her because who is ever giving her this special one- >on-one attention with toys and food and ballpits and swings? I know >at some point she'll just have to understand that there are >advantages and disadvantages to every situation, but at this point, >any suggestions? >Thanks for any advice you have to offer! >Hugs, > >loving, if not always patient, mom to Katy and Ally, 3-years-old > _________________________________________________________________ Help STOP SPAM with the new MSN 8 and get 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Thank you . That's some really helpful advice. ----Original Message Follows---- Reply-To: Multiples-DS To: Multiples-DS Subject: Re: HELP! Date: Tue, 08 Jul 2003 03:27:05 +0000 Hi , I don't have any great advice for you on #1 other than to say it does get better, but it is soooo hard!! I still think sometimes that (my 5 yr old twin with DS) doesn't understand me and won't listen to me when I say NO! or STOP! when she tries to run away although she is laughing hysterically when I catch up to her! On the #2 item....I definitely remember ('s twin without DS) acting up alot when she was 2 - 3 years old because was always getting so much special attention. I used to, and continue to make some one on one time with . Tomorrow the two of us are going out to breakfast. I am lucky to have family in town that can watch for me, but I have also hired a babysitter in the past to watch so I can take to the Movies. One thing that I realized when the twins were younger and need to continually remind myself of is this: I have always taken for granted that would learn things and my rewards for her accomplishments have been much less than for . I always try to stop and make a big deal for some of 's accomplishments. Also let them overhear you telling others about how great they are. I know that get's sick of hearing me talking to everyone about 's latest problems and gains. I always try to talk about to others when I know she can hear. It's amazing what those little ears pick up on!! As I am sure you all know... Sue - mom to (DS) and 5 yrs > >Reply-To: Multiples-DS >To: Multiples-DS >Subject: HELP! >Date: Mon, 07 Jul 2003 21:57:04 -0000 > >Hi all...I've been reading all your messages for quite some time now, >but with 3-year-old twins, you know how difficult it is to find time >to post. Sorry about that, and sorry too now for coming to you all >with my problems when you barely know me, but I need some advice. >Two things: >1. What is working for you as far as disciplining your 3-year-old >with DS? Mine, Katy, is so stubborn about eating the dogfood, >standing up in her high chair, running away in the store while I >attend to her twin, etc. We've done stern talkings-to, light butt >swats. Her therapist recommends time-out, but honestly I don't think >she'd really comprehend that yet at this point. Some days, she >drives me bonkers! I can say NONO Katy, sit her back down firmly in >her chair, turn my back and she's right back. Rinse, repeat, rinse, >repeat. Today in particular, imagine this scenario, emergency pee >situation at the WalMart for sister Ally. Running to the bathroom, >stripping off swimsuit coverall and one-piece swimsuit to get kid on >the pot. EVERY time I turn my back, Katy is running out the door >into the store (there's no door, just an opening). I run out, >leaving Ally peeing on her half-pulled-down swimsuit, grab Katy's >arm, drag her back into the bathroom, finish pulling down the suit, >run back to drag Katy, place Ally on the potty, run back to drag >Katy, get the t.p. from the next stall, run back to drag Katy, wipe >the little tyke's bottom, run back to get Katy, pull up the swimsuit, >run back to get Katy, pull over the coverall, run back to get Katy. >Potty flushing, hand washing, bag gathering, hand drying.......AARGH! >Of course they won't let you take the cart into the bathroom, which >was where she was nicely strapped through the rest of the shopping >trip. Was I the one praying for her to walk???????? What was I >thinking??? (JK-seriously one of the best days of my life!) >2. For those of you with an unmatched set like mine (only one has >DS), how do you deal with the inequities of attention? Ally (non DS >twin) has become very disruptive during therapy sessions, and I can >really feel for her because who is ever giving her this special one- >on-one attention with toys and food and ballpits and swings? I know >at some point she'll just have to understand that there are >advantages and disadvantages to every situation, but at this point, >any suggestions? >Thanks for any advice you have to offer! >Hugs, > >loving, if not always patient, mom to Katy and Ally, 3-years-old > _________________________________________________________________ Help STOP SPAM with the new MSN 8 and get 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail _________________________________________________________________ The new MSN 8: smart spam protection and 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 - I think some of the behavior part issues just boil down to age and testing their boundaries (and mom's patience!). For the longest time (and a little bit even now) I swear thought his name was really " No-no " because that is the only thing I ever said to him!!! One thing that I found helpful (although it can take a while and you have to have a lot of patience to see results) is constant, continual re-direction. If they were doing something they shouldn't, stop, pick them up and set them down doing something else. I won't sugar-coat it, it was exhausting, but eventually that's the one thing that I was actually able to see " results " from doing. As far as therapy, is there some way you could incorporate your other daughter in the picture? Maybe talk to the therapist, but maybe you could do something that would include her helping to teach her sister? (Teach Ally the skill then have Ally " help " by showing Katy how to do it correctly, etc). Plus, all the suggestions for having special " 0ne-on-one " time together are excellent too. Even though my boys are identical twins, I still try to (and enjoy) the times I can take just one of them with me to do something. And, since my boys are 6 1/2, I can tell you that it does get a little better when they get older. They (for the most part) will actually " listen " to me when we are out and I tell them to do or not do something. Don't get me wrong, I still strap 'em in anyway I can (aren't those carts w/the two seats you can strap them into over the shoulder and around the waist the best! It makes all my trips to the grocery store, WalMart and Target that much easier to manage!), to minimize " escapage " . Someone else mentioned using a harness which I think is a great idea! Some people may give you " looks " but you know what? They don't know your situation so who cares what they think! Keeping your kids safe is your first priority and if that works, all the more power to you! Good luck! Judi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2004 Report Share Posted May 28, 2004 I just tried to add an email address in the yahoo group for multiples....there are several steps to follow. did you first go to EDIT MY PROFILE? then click on ADD NEW EMAIL ADDRESS -- put in the new address and you will be taken to a screen that give verification process info... here is what came up for me: We just sent a verification email to the alternate email address listed below. It's easy to activate your account for use with all of Yahoo!'s services. 1. Check your email at the following address for a message from "Yahoo! Member Services": kristinmiller98@... 2. Click the link labeled "Important!" in this email to return to Yahoo!. 3. Enter your password and your account will be activated! You must follow the above steps now in order to use Yahoo! Groups. If you're having difficulty returning to Yahoo! with the link inside the email we just sent to you, click here to enter the verification code contained in that email. I guess if you follow these steps, it should work. I think you have to go back into EDIT YOUR PROFILE, Email address and select which one is the primary address. Give this a try and see if it works! , mom to 7-mo old twins, Warren (DS) and Sam -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Friday, May 28, 2004 7:08 AMTo: Multiples-DS Subject: HELP! Hi Everyone! I thought I did it, but guess it still didn't work. I changed my email address, and went into yahoo and changed it............but it didn't take? This address in now my husbands even though he doesn't use email hardly at all........................ My new email addy is giantmom@... Dose anyone know what I still need to do to get my mail at my new address???? Thanks Gail Mom to, Bobby 10, Jillian 7 1/2, and Tara{Ds} 5Multiples-DShttp://groups.yahoo.com/group/Multiples-DS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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