new member

[Guest guest]

Welcome. It is good to have you as a part of our

group. I think the others have pretty well summed up what I would have

said. This me adding my amen and a welcome.

I would like to expound upon the importance of finding

support for yourself. My husband and two of our five boys are on the

spectrum. I allowed myself to be swallowed alive by all the trauma and

drama for years. It has only been since coming to this group that I

have

realized the importance of taking care of myself as well. The end

result

has been a happier marriage and happier kids. If you live your life

only

trying to keep the peace as I did you will find yourself completely

swallowed up

and drained completely emotionally. This has been probably the biggest

lesson I have learned.

Welcome again. I look forward to more posts from

you.

e

By the way-Both my husband and I post to this site

using

the same email. He is Usarian and I am e. It can be a

little

confusing.

From: Sheryl Hare

Sent: Monday, December 29, 2008 2:59 AM

To: aspires-relationships@ya

hoogroups.com

Subject: New member

Hi, my name

is

Sheryl. I am a 51 year old primary teacher who has been married to Ian for

the

past 20 months. I think that Ian has Aspergers which is affecting our

relationship. I need advice for supporting Ian and for myself on how to cope

with this. I love him very much but his attitude towards me is at times

unbearable.

Sheryl

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Cheryl! You will learn more and more on this list,. and I believe you are going to really like it here! Welcome again,Subject: Re: New memberTo: aspires-relationships Date: Monday, December 29, 2008, 12:20 PM

Thank you so much. Already I can feel that there are other people

out there feeling as I do. That makes me feel so much better truly.

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Sheryl, I'm Elaine 47, and have been with Gilroy 44 for 21 years. Our son Adam 14 is diagnosed Aspergers but Gilroy isn't, he is AS however and the problems we face as a married couple because of the NT/AS differences are as you described 'at times unbearable'. I am finding i have to use much more energy than him in trying to keep our relationship in a state i deem as acceptable, he just constantly denies any problems and says he doesn't know what i am talking about. I do try to solve any episodes myself, but any i can't cope with i ask the good people in this group for help, the advice i get is helps immensely, i have no doubt in my mind we would still be in the very dark place we were if i didn't find this group when i did, we may not even still be together! Sheryl your

here now, i'm not saying all your problems will be solved but believe me the help and advice you will get is second to none. Welcome )

Elaine

To: aspires-relationships Sent: Monday, 29 December, 2008 8:59:00Subject: New member

Hi, my name is Sheryl. I am a 51 year old primary teacher who has been married to Ian for the past 20 months. I think that Ian has Aspergers which is affecting our relationship. I need advice for supporting Ian and for myself on how to cope with this. I love him very much but his attitude towards me is at times unbearable.

Sheryl