Re: Jan - Jim

June 21, 2008

Hi Jan-

I have been following the struggles with Jim and read below that yesterday was

Jim's birthday. Wishing, hoping, and praying you and Jim had a nice day

together. Happy Birthday Jim!

Holding you close to my heart and deep in my prayers. With love and hugs-

Sandie - S

Des Moines, IA

dad, Merle, passed from LBD 9-20-02, age 65

-- Janet Colello wrote:

Oh Imogene, it is so hard when our LOs drift away like that. Jim escaped from me

one time too while I was in the shower. A neighbor found him way down the street

with his walker and rang my bell to let me know. He was way down a few blocks, I

got in the car and drove to pick him up. I can't remember what his delusion was,

but he was running away from something. There are no sidewalks here, it is a

narrow road that he was walking on. After that I had a lock put on the door that

he couldn't escape from. I had to play the game of strategy with Jim and be one

step ahead of him everytime to keep him out of trouble. It's like having a two

year old all over again.

Today is Jim's birthday and I have to get going. Take care Imogene. You are in

my thoughts and prayers. You have a lot to handle.

Love You Lots................Jan

Re: Re: Progression of LBD? Sundowners? Or Seroquel? +

SIBS

Darling Donna, thank you for taking care of me. It makes me feel good. I am

sharing our letters on the list, because I want to tell everyone my

experience this morning.

At 8AM the phone rang and a neighbor told me that Don was out. She asked

" Did you know that? " She said, " He rang the doorbell and told us that y'all

were

being held hostage over there. " She told me he was by my side door. And it

was open.

So, I pulled myself together and went to the side door, and he was highly

agitated. He wouldn't let me close the side door because the police were coming

and he wanted them to be able to get in.

He spouted that we have been held hostage for three days, and he wants to

know what is going on. He said that several times. He was adamant about waiting

for the police.

I opened the front door and showed him that the police could get in there,

then I closed the side door. It has a dead bolt, but now I will ask my family

to install padlocks on two doors.

I said, " While we wait lets have a little breakfast and some coffee. " He

still wanted me to explain what is going on, so I told him he rang Barbara's

doorbell, and she called me. After eating he was calm.

Just now he was looking all over for his glasses, and I told him they were

on his face. I helped him with his bath and dressing.

I do hope all is better for Ron's mother, and that all goes well for him.

Thank you, Donna, for telling me.

It's a good life if we don't weaken. (grin)

Love you Donna, and everyone else,

Imogene

In a message dated 6/20/2008 2:23:40 AM Central Daylight Time,

twomido@... writes:

Imogene,

You are taking care of the " important things, " namely you and Don! That is

most important of all.

Like a friend of mine once said, " what will make a difference 100 years from

now. " And most of the stuff we worry about won't make a hill of beans

difference in 100 years.

Forget to send you the notice that Ron is moving his Mom into a Senior

apartment so he doesn't have to worry about winter weather and being out where

he

lives besides the house is not in to good of shape. He will stay with his

sister who will share the caring for his Mom. He is working part time now.

Hugs,

Donna R

Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year

in a nh.

She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine.

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June 21, 2008

Thanks Sandie for your birthday wishes for Jim,

Jim smiled from ear to ear on his birthday. I brought in two kinds of cakes,

Chocolate and Carrot, and the director of activities brought Jim balloons tied

to his chair and she had the plates, forks and cups for drinks. We shared cake

with all of Jim's friends there plus more people and staff and there was an

entertainer scheduled that day and he started off with singing Happy Birthday to

Jim and everyone sang. I didn't even have to rent a hall for a party. Everything

was there at the nh. Fantastic!

Then another entertainer was scheduled for that day and she sang Happy Birthday

to Jim also. I had a dentist appointment and missed half of the birthday, but I

was back when the second entertainer was there and sang Happy Birthday. Jim was

so exhausted by 4:30PM that I put him to bed and told the CNAs to bring his

dinner to his room and I would feed him when he woke up. It is so hot here. 104

today. I am making sure that Jim gets lots to drink. When I put Jim on the bed,

I saw he has the beginning of a pressure sore on one of his feet, so I called

the nurse in and the Director of Nurses came too and said that the hot weather

causes it, so he has to have his foot up. I don't know if he will be taken out

of bed today. His foot needs to be treated. It isn't too bad, thank goodness,

and I think I saw it on time.

I hope Iowa finds some rest from all the rain soon! I can only imagine what you

all are going through. Northern CA, where I live has a very large river, The

Sacramento River, with levees. Our governor has ordered for them to be brought

up to date, so that hopefully what has happened in Iowa won't happen here.

ly, this year we don't have to worry, we are in a drought and drying up. We

have other worries this year like; fires.

Seems like a disaster year for many states.

S, keep high and dry! I am holding you in my thoughts and prayers.

LUGS, (that's love+hugs) LOL..............Jan