Working with ADHD husband

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Coming to grips with my own AS has helped me a ton in understanding why

I do certain things. But now, with all of that in mind, and with my

husband's ADHD in mind, I'm finding it awkward the way we do things.

Simple things like cleaning the house are not in any shape or form

considered normal.

This is the way I understand it from my limited experience with NTs.

Each person in a household is supposed to have a chore and that way,

everything gets done. But this is not what happens in my household. I'm

horrible at starting tasks because I know I have to fully complete that

task before I can move on to the next. Where as, my husband is wonderful

at starting tasks, but very rarely finishes them. The obvious solution

is that he starts chores, then I finish them.

This would be all fine and dandy, but it seems like we both have this

power struggle. Where we feel like we each do all the work. I know

standing back and looking at it all, we are working together, in our

weird way. But when I'm exhausted and he's exhausted, it really puts a

huge strain on our relationship. And I'm honestly not sure what to do

about these emotions. And what we both can do to make it feel less like

we're doing everything.

Melody