{{{kerri}}}

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Kerri,

Thank you for the blessings- I was sitting here feeling like crying

cause I'm having a flare but still have to come to work, I'm out of

vacation and sick days, plus had to take out a small loan for DD's

college. no complaints, that girl got more scholarship & grant money

than anyone in her class, with a 4.665 GPA.I just have to give my day

to God cause honey I sure can't do it on my own! He's never let me

down, and never will.

Kerri honey, where are you located? Are there any churches in your

area that might be willing to help out? I know I live in a small

town, but my church brought dinner over for like 2 weeks after my

last surgery, and the women helped out with housework, etc. Of course

my kids were 17 and 7 my last surgery (3 level cervical fusion.) I

will be praying for you. ALSO, don't minimize what you are going

through. Other people may have different situations that you think

are worse than yours, but it doesn't make you a whiny baby. You've

got a lot on your plate, baby. It's taken a lot of strength for you

just to get through your daily stuff, and I admire you. Obviously you

went through a pregancy nine months ago and that would be tough on a

healthy girl! I had my last one at 31 and it wasn't a walk in the

park by any means... Wish I was where I could bring my girls over to

help. we sure would.

Love

jane

--- In , kerri paquette <ksp2242@y...>

wrote:

> I'm supposed to have surgery on the 9th of August, a breast

reduction, and a major one at that... My fiance's family was supposed

to stay with me after the surgery to help me take care of the kids (8

years and 9 months) for a couple weeks but they just let us know that

they won't be now because are internet and cable access is limited.

My worry is this... its so hard to take care of the kids while frank

is at work already, with the RA and the migraines, I struggle so much

every day, I can't imagine how hard its going to be for the couple

first weeks after the surgery.

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> I've already tried to get help through local action agencies, they

said they can give me the name of daycare providers in our town,

daycare providers which I can't afford and which are full up and

definitely don't have room for a 9 month old let alone both children.

And home health agencies refused, because its not their job to help

take care of kids. My family isn't and hasn't ever really been

supportive, my sister is taking the kids for the 3 days I'll be in

the hospital and she's already said " thats gonna take to much outta

me, 3 days is enuff " I'm really starting to stress out and get

nervous, but I need to get this done, Its hard enough to walk upright

with disk degeneration and RA pain, but I'm a 40 HH and no ortho's

will touch my shoulder until I get a reduction. Any supportive

thoughts would help... I know I'm not going to have the physical help

I need after the surgery, but if you all could throw me some

emotional support maybe it would get me through a little better. Thank

> you all and I hope you are having a GOOD day, and better yet a

sleep-filled night. For those of you that take care of your families

and homes and still work out there in the world, god bless you, I

don't know how you do it, sometimes I want to cry on the way to the

bathroom cuz it tires me out so. It makes me feel like a whiny

little school girl when I complain about the pain and see other

people who can do more than me who are in my boat... god bless all of

you

> kerri

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