Kerri

[Guest guest]

Aren't inlaws FUN? Why are they upset about the access...is it for

work or just because they don't want to miss Surreal Life? If it is

the latter, I'd be giving them a piece of my mind....family harmony

would be out the window.

You said you have an 8 year old. Is he/she mature enough to

understand that Mommy is going to be really hurting and will need

your help with the baby and around the house for a couple of weeks?

Also, can your husband take the time off? Many companies have

family leave, and several states have laws requiring it. If he has

vacation time coming, all the better. And, maybe HE should have a

talk with his parents, and explain the situation. It may make

things smoother, and hopefully they will come down for even part of

the time. Shoot....if they could come down for one week, and have

your 8-year-old help the second week....even if it was during the

school year one week wouldn't kill him, and you could arrange with

the school to send his homework to the house.

I know it is stressful...I had to go back to work a couple of weeks

ago and everything that could go wrong pretty much did in the week

or two leading up to it. I stressed big time, but it did work out

in the end, so sit down, take a deep breath, and try to look at this

logically.

--- In , kerri paquette <ksp2242@y...>

wrote:

> I'm supposed to have surgery on the 9th of August, a breast

reduction, and a major one at that... My fiance's family was

supposed to stay with me after the surgery to help me take care of

the kids (8 years and 9 months) for a couple weeks but they just let

us know that they won't be now because are internet and cable access

is limited. My worry is this... its so hard to take care of the kids

while frank is at work already, with the RA and the migraines, I

struggle so much every day, I can't imagine how hard its going to be

for the couple first weeks after the surgery.

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> I've already tried to get help through local action agencies, they

said they can give me the name of daycare providers in our town,

daycare providers which I can't afford and which are full up and

definitely don't have room for a 9 month old let alone both

children. And home health agencies refused, because its not their

job to help take care of kids. My family isn't and hasn't ever

really been supportive, my sister is taking the kids for the 3 days

I'll be in the hospital and she's already said " thats gonna take to

much outta me, 3 days is enuff " I'm really starting to stress out

and get nervous, but I need to get this done, Its hard enough to

walk upright with disk degeneration and RA pain, but I'm a 40 HH and

no ortho's will touch my shoulder until I get a reduction. Any

supportive thoughts would help... I know I'm not going to have the

physical help I need after the surgery, but if you all could throw

me some emotional support maybe it would get me through a little

better. Thank

> you all and I hope you are having a GOOD day, and better yet a

sleep-filled night. For those of you that take care of your

families and homes and still work out there in the world, god bless

you, I don't know how you do it, sometimes I want to cry on the way

to the bathroom cuz it tires me out so. It makes me feel like a

whiny little school girl when I complain about the pain and see

other people who can do more than me who are in my boat... god bless

all of you

> kerri

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