Kerri

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Kerri,

When my kids were young and life was such a struggle, I often felt the

same way you do, that they'd be better off without me.

You would be surprised at how much kids learn from having a parent that

has a chronic medical condition. It gives them compassion. Many kids

that have chronically ill parents wind up being doctors, nurses and

scientists that dedicate their life trying to find cures for the

illnesses that their parents suffered with. Although you can't run

around and play ball, you can sit and read or do crafts. Concentrate

on what you can do rather than what you can't. My kids loved to play

games with me, or just sit and do a puzzle.

Having 3 surgeries in one year is very stressful on your body. I've

been there and know how hard it is. Now that my kids are grown and on

their own, I set back and wonder how ever did I do it. It also makes

kids more independent to have to do for themselves at an earlier age.

Don't feel bad about having them do this. It is not your fault that

you have medical problems.

a

On Jul 29, 2005, at 7:33 PM, kerri wrote:

> thank you for all your supportive words and encouragement. It's been

> a rough year for me. this surgery coming up will be my third surgery

> this year, I've been told recovery time (to normal activity) is 3-6

> weeks, knowing me, it'll be 12, lol. I'm only 28, I limp when I walk,

> I pass out for no reason, and at night before I go to bed I take 9

> medications. I'm actually surprised I still have a fiance. He's my

> rock right now. I try to tell myself I need to hang in there for my

> children, but that doesn't work, because deep down I feel like they'd

> be better of with a different mother, one that could play at the

> park, or can go to the school to volunteer cuz she's not at the

> hospital. I'm just so tired, and its taken almost 3 years for anyone

> to listen and take me seriously, now they say I have RA, and other

> things yet to be diagnosed and I'm thinkin, why couldn't you have

> figured this out years ago when I started complaining?? I know I need

> to stop whining and be grateful for what I've got and out here in my

> real world I do, I don't complain to anyone, I don't ask for

> anything, and most people don't even know I've got any problems, cuz

> I'd rather lock myself at home, than limp around at the grocery

> store. I think someone needs to smack ME upside the head with a

> frying pan. its nice to hear back from people who literally feel my

> pain. speaking of which... does anyone have real bad spine pain

> between the shoulder blades? I get " big boob back-aches " but this is

> nothing like that, lasted so far about 10 days, it hurts so much,

> don't know if its associated with RA or not? bless all of you and

> your strength. thank you again.

> kerri sue

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