Kerri

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Kerri,

I'm a little confused about what cable and internet access has to do

with helping you through a surgery. I would hope that these trivial

matters wouldn't stop them from helping you. Maybe if they don't want

to come to your house, they can help pay for someone to come there and

help.

I wish you were closer so that I could offer some help. You're lucky

that your daughter is old enough to help out. She can do a lot more

than you think. Prepare her for what is going to happen and let her

know it's only going to be hard for a few weeks. Get out a calendar

and let her see how many days you expect to need her extra help. In

these days before your surgery, cook some extra meals for the freezer

so all that has to be done is thaw and heat. I've done that most of my

life. I always cook more so there is some for the freezer. Soups

freeze very well. If you're not into cooking, stock up on canned soups

that can just be opened and heated.

You won't be able to pick up your 9 month old, so the crib will have to

double as a playpen so that the baby will be up high enough to change

the diapers, feed and play with him/her without having to do any

lifting. I'm praying you find help and it doesn't come to this, but if

it does just remember it is only temporary. The benefits of this

surgery will provide much needed pain relief. My friend had breast

reduction surgery done and it ended her neck and back pains.

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On Jul 29, 2005, at 2:39 PM, kerri paquette wrote:

> I'm supposed to have surgery on the 9th of August, a breast reduction,

> and a major one at that... My fiance's family was supposed to stay

> with me after the surgery to help me take care of the kids (8 years

> and 9 months) for a couple weeks but they just let us know that they

> won't be now because are internet and cable access is limited. My

> worry is this... its so hard to take care of the kids while frank is

> at work already, with the RA and the migraines, I struggle so much

> every day, I can't imagine how hard its going to be for the couple

> first weeks after the surgery.

>

> I've already tried to get help through local action agencies, they

> said they can give me the name of daycare providers in our town,

> daycare providers which I can't afford and which are full up and

> definitely don't have room for a 9 month old let alone both children.

> And home health agencies refused, because its not their job to help

> take care of kids. My family isn't and hasn't ever really been

> supportive, my sister is taking the kids for the 3 days I'll be in the

> hospital and she's already said " thats gonna take to much outta me, 3

> days is enuff " I'm really starting to stress out and get nervous, but

> I need to get this done, Its hard enough to walk upright with disk

> degeneration and RA pain, but I'm a 40 HH and no ortho's will touch my

> shoulder until I get a reduction. Any supportive thoughts would

> help... I know I'm not going to have the physical help I need after

> the surgery, but if you all could throw me some emotional support

> maybe it would get me through a li! ttle better. Thank

> you all and I hope you are having a GOOD day, and better yet a

> sleep-filled night.  For those of you that take care of your families

> and homes and still work out there in the world, god bless you, I

> don't know how you do it, sometimes I want to cry on the way to the

> bathroom cuz it tires me out so.  It makes me feel like a whiny little

> school girl when I complain about the pain and see other people who

> can do more than me who are in my boat... god bless all of you

> kerri

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I haven't been online a whole lot lately and I'm trying to catch up!

I hope that the new med helps and is just the ticket! Hang in there

and God Bless and know that we are all wishing and praying for you!

Sending well wishes your way! Take care! XXX's Kim