Re: How to explain it- frying pan didn't help

[Guest guest]

Abby,

I found that this book made it very easy for the unRA person to understand. I

still have problems with my children. They just want not to talk about it

therefore it does not exist. I have RA, fibro, OA and osterporsis. Plus the

added degenerative disc disease. I have practically a spine without discs. But

I try so hard. So print this out. It is very simply put. Or sit down at the

table and pass out the spoons. Maybe it will be a beginning to some

understanding. Good Luck

Judith Ann in Az

Hi all,

My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once a week

during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He doesn't seem

to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and 14 and am

working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand why I don't

feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to do it. How

would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried hitting

him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

Abby

[Guest guest]

Abby,

I found that this book made it very easy for the unRA person to understand. I

still have problems with my children. They just want not to talk about it

therefore it does not exist. I have RA, fibro, OA and osterporsis. Plus the

added degenerative disc disease. I have practically a spine without discs. But

I try so hard. So print this out. It is very simply put. Or sit down at the

table and pass out the spoons. Maybe it will be a beginning to some

understanding. Good Luck

Judith Ann in Az

Hi all,

My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once a week

during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He doesn't seem

to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and 14 and am

working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand why I don't

feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to do it. How

would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried hitting

him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

Abby

[Guest guest]

Judith Voter <lovemykj2002@...> wrote: Abby,

I found that this book made it very easy for the unRA person to understand. I

still have problems with my children. They just want not to talk about it

therefore it does not exist. I have RA, fibro, OA and osterporsis. Plus the

added degenerative disc disease. I have practically a spine without discs. But

I try so hard. So print this out. It is very simply put. Or sit down at the

table and pass out the spoons. Maybe it will be a beginning to some

understanding. Good Luck

Judith Ann in Az

Hi all,

My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once a week

during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He doesn't seem

to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and 14 and am

working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand why I don't

feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to do it. How

would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried hitting

him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

Abby

[Guest guest]

Judith Voter <lovemykj2002@...> wrote: Abby,

I found that this book made it very easy for the unRA person to understand. I

still have problems with my children. They just want not to talk about it

therefore it does not exist. I have RA, fibro, OA and osterporsis. Plus the

added degenerative disc disease. I have practically a spine without discs. But

I try so hard. So print this out. It is very simply put. Or sit down at the

table and pass out the spoons. Maybe it will be a beginning to some

understanding. Good Luck

Judith Ann in Az

Hi all,

My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once a week

during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He doesn't seem

to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and 14 and am

working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand why I don't

feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to do it. How

would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried hitting

him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

Abby

[Guest guest]

What is the name of the book? I am a little sluggish today. Thanks

for info Cassy

--- In , Judith Voter <lovemykj2002@y...>

wrote:

> Abby,

> I found that this book made it very easy for the unRA person to

understand. I still have problems with my children. They just want

not to talk about it therefore it does not exist. I have RA, fibro,

OA and osterporsis. Plus the added degenerative disc disease. I have

practically a spine without discs. But I try so hard. So print this

out. It is very simply put. Or sit down at the table and pass out

the spoons. Maybe it will be a beginning to some understanding.

Good Luck

>

> Judith Ann in Az

>

>

> Hi all,

> My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once

a week

> during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He

doesn't seem

> to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and

14 and am

> working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand

why I don't

> feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

>

> I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to

do it. How

> would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried

hitting

> him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

>

> Abby

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

What is the name of the book? I am a little sluggish today. Thanks

for info Cassy

> Abby,

> I found that this book made it very easy for the unRA person to

understand. I still have problems with my children. They just want

not to talk about it therefore it does not exist. I have RA, fibro,

OA and osterporsis. Plus the added degenerative disc disease. I have

practically a spine without discs. But I try so hard. So print this

out. It is very simply put. Or sit down at the table and pass out

the spoons. Maybe it will be a beginning to some understanding.

Good Luck

>

> Judith Ann in Az

>

>

> Hi all,

> My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once

a week

> during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He

doesn't seem

> to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and

14 and am

> working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand

why I don't

> feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

>

> I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to

do it. How

> would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried

hitting

> him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

>

> Abby

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Morning,

If you find a way to figure out how to make them understand....FILL ME IN! I

also have a fiance, 3 children (5,6, & 7), work full time and drive about 3

hours a day making the rounds for work/daycare/school. He doesn't understand

why I hurt or why I don't want to stay up until 1-3:00 in the morning...what's

wrong with me??? LOL

He'll never get it...that I am convinced of.

Prisicilla

getcoffee@... wrote:

Hi all,

My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once a week

during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He doesn't seem

to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and 14 and am

working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand why I don't

feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to do it. How

would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried hitting

him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

Abby

[Guest guest]

Morning,

If you find a way to figure out how to make them understand....FILL ME IN! I

also have a fiance, 3 children (5,6, & 7), work full time and drive about 3

hours a day making the rounds for work/daycare/school. He doesn't understand

why I hurt or why I don't want to stay up until 1-3:00 in the morning...what's

wrong with me??? LOL

He'll never get it...that I am convinced of.

Prisicilla

getcoffee@... wrote:

Hi all,

My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once a week

during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He doesn't seem

to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and 14 and am

working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand why I don't

feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to do it. How

would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried hitting

him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

Abby

[Guest guest]

Abby,

Does your fiance help with the housework at all? If he doesn't now,

he's not going to be much help later. I would tell him if he wants it

cleaned the way HE wants it cleaned, he can do it himself!

I bowl once a week too, and some of the members asked why I need a cane

to walk, but I can bowl--I tell them it is only 5 steps, and I get to

sit down in between frames. I told them that they don't see the pain

that it causes, but I am not ready to give up bowling yet, as it is

something my husband and I enjoy doing together with our friends.

You are carrying an awful load of responsibility!

Good luck,

Judi

[Guest guest]

Abby,

Does your fiance help with the housework at all? If he doesn't now,

he's not going to be much help later. I would tell him if he wants it

cleaned the way HE wants it cleaned, he can do it himself!

I bowl once a week too, and some of the members asked why I need a cane

to walk, but I can bowl--I tell them it is only 5 steps, and I get to

sit down in between frames. I told them that they don't see the pain

that it causes, but I am not ready to give up bowling yet, as it is

something my husband and I enjoy doing together with our friends.

You are carrying an awful load of responsibility!

Good luck,

Judi

[Guest guest]

Abby,

How about living on campus for a few weeks, leaving him to work full

time, take care of the 3 kids and clean the house too.

If he doesn't get it then, there is nothing that will ever make it sink

in. I have a feeling by the third day, he'd hire a maid and maybe even

a cook!

Oh yes, and if YOUR feet hurt, make sure he does all of this work with

rocks in his shoes so he knows what it's like to walk around and do all

this work while his feet are killing him. Good luck.

a

On Jul 27, 2005, at 10:38 PM, getcoffee@... wrote:

> Hi all,

> My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once a

> week 

> during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He

> doesn't seem 

> to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and

> 14 and am

> working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand why

> I don't

> feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

>

> I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to do

> it.  How

> would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried

> hitting 

> him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

>

> Abby

[Guest guest]

Abby,

How about living on campus for a few weeks, leaving him to work full

time, take care of the 3 kids and clean the house too.

If he doesn't get it then, there is nothing that will ever make it sink

in. I have a feeling by the third day, he'd hire a maid and maybe even

a cook!

Oh yes, and if YOUR feet hurt, make sure he does all of this work with

rocks in his shoes so he knows what it's like to walk around and do all

this work while his feet are killing him. Good luck.

a

On Jul 27, 2005, at 10:38 PM, getcoffee@... wrote:

> Hi all,

> My fiance seems to think that since I can throw a bowling ball once a

> week 

> during a league, I shouldn't have any problem doing housework. He

> doesn't seem 

> to understand. I work full time, have three children ages 9, 10 and

> 14 and am

> working on a post masters degree too.... and he can't understand why

> I don't

> feel up to doing housework the way he wants things????

>

> I suggest a maid. He says it's not necessary- I should be able to do

> it.  How

> would you explain RA to him if you were me.... I've already tried

> hitting 

> him over the head with a frying pan, nothing works.

>

> Abby