Thoughts on emotional journeis

[Guest guest]

Thank you all for your love and support...I know you care, and that means a

great deal to me.

One thing I need to say..when expressing myself about

depression/anxiety/emotional issues, it is a hurtful thing to be told " You are

too hard on yourself. " I KNOW the intent is a good one. But look at it this

way...

Even if I am too hard on myself, do you really think it is something I

deliberately do, or can 'just change'? It is sort of like telling a person with

a depressive illness to " pull oneself up by the bootstraps'. Dear Lord, if it

was only that easy.

Also, how does it help me deal with the situation? How is that constructive? I

do not see that it is. Wouldn't it be better to make suggestions on how to

initiate small changes into my life, my perceptions? " You are too hard on

yourself " feels like a criticism, whether it is meant that way or not.

I think through things a great deal...probably too much at times, and I think my

tendency to analyze comes out in my writing...so you all are 'seeing' what I am

'thinking' and mulling over. For the most part, I think thinking things

through...rather than to just say " Oh well, nothing can be done " - is a positive

thing. I am tenacious and try so hard to keep putting one foot ahead of the

other.

So, I hope you will think about these words coming from my perspective, and sent

with love. Sometimes we just need to be heard.

Love & hugs...

Tess