Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 I've been journaling and searching for signals that nada and the foo have left me with over time in accordance with Surviving a Borderline Parent (pp.25), thought I'd share the healing. Signal- Nada: If you leave me I'll get sick and die; this will be all your fault. FOO: Don't let us down, and if you do we'll rationalize/penalize it/you in terms of the rules of the world not the tilted rules we live by and project, but if we screw up were void from rules of the world. Nada:Now I'm going to give you this gift to make myself feel like a good parent; this gift is a weapon for me to use to make you feel guilt, anger and unloved. Nada: you are a ungrateful, terrible and selfish person but I still love you, why cant' you just love your mother for who she is? Why can't you respect me like the bible says, you know what happens to children that don't respect their mother's and father's, do you really want that? Nada:Every mistake I've made in parenting you is warranted, because I had to " START ALL OVER AT 40! " and your father left me. Nada: I have it the hardest, you shouldn't feel like you have it harder than I do. Your so selfish, lots of people all over the world have it much worse. Christ, look at Africa ! Lessons of my FOO: -you shouldn't trust the voice that moves you forward -you are insignificant and invisible to us -you are a burden to us -We help because your our little brother because we love you and refuse to allow you to have the essential emotions, time and developmental needs because its too late and we never had them, why should you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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